Embarrasment, Shame, Depression, despair, and pessimism seem to rule the mindset of most hair loss sufferers. This editorial written by the founder of HairlossTalk.com addresses some of these emotions, and gives a new look at why you should actually be proud, hopeful, and consider yourself lucky instead. Gain a new Perspective on Hair loss today...
Its a big deal to you, and that's Okay.
"Screw em!" ... one of my balding friends says to me. "Its a big deal to me, and it would be a big deal to them too. Who cares what they think." It saddens me every day I read new posts on my forums. People so upset.
So depressed. As crazy as it sounds, hair loss actually is a condition that can
send people into such a torrent of despair that you'd think it was a life threatening
disease. No doubt you've heard people make fun of it for that exact reason. "Relax! It's
not like you're DYING". You just want to tell them to shut up and stick
their head in a toilet, don't you? I know the feeling. They don't get it. Then
for about 3 seconds you feel embarrassed. "Wait a second... why am I whining like
a baby? I could be dying of Leukemia". That lasts about 3 seconds, then you're
depressed again. Hah! Amazing how that works. Well there's a reason why it makes
you feel like you've got no stamina for life, and you shouldn't be ashamed of
it.
You don't have to be dying, to be strongly affected by something. Look at it from
another point of view. Tragedy can come in many forms, and everything is relative.
To a little kid who wants a cookie, not having that cookie can bring him emotional
pain that is equivalent to a thousand spankings. Why? Because in his little life,
that's a major thing. We don't fault him for it either do we?
In an otherwise healthy person's life, who has everything going for them, hair
loss can be an extremely detrimental, unwelcome, and unexpected sudden roadblock. To someone who does not have cancer, is a single
guy or girl who is still looking for that special someone, or who is that young guy or girl still competing for acceptance among high school or college peers ....
they might as well have cancer. Put another way: everything is relative to what
else is going on in your life. If cancer comes your way, you will deal with it then, and your priorities will change accordingly. But right now? Hair loss may be the
biggest challenge for you, and you have absolutely no reason to be ashamed for
looking at it that way.
In fact, it is not a sign of "weakness" or "vanity" like many people say. Not
anymore than he is weak for buying those snazzy trendy clothes, or she is vain
for plucking her eyebrows. The trend of society today goes this direction with
everything else. It shouldn't be considered abnormal to go this way with hair
loss. We're just still in that awkward phase where people aren't educated enough
on how to treat it, and therefore they think its a big joke. Doing something about
it is considered embarrassing. But that perspective is wrong! People want to look
their best. You don't owe them any explanations. You don't have any reason to
feel stupid. In fact, statistics state that nearly 50% of them will be dealing
with the exact same problem before they hit age 55 anyway. They're going to remember
you, and probably feel bad for giving you a hard time. Hair loss is one of those
things you just "don't get" until you experience it. Laugh about it, and look
at them with pity, for they know not what they say. They'll understand one day.
:)
You Lucky Dog You
Anyone ever tell you that you're lucky? I bet you never thought of yourself as
lucky. Well you are. You're doing something about your hair loss. Look at the
majority of other people out there. What are they doing about their hair loss?
Most likely nothing. They've bought into the stereotype that nothing really works,
so why bother. Either that or the snake oil companies out there (99% of
the ads you see) have got them so disillusioned that they figure why bother. Don't
you wish you could just go throw rotten tomatoes at them? Join the
club. They do so much damage. It sounds so silly, but the amount of pain they
cause ... its not documented, and its rarely seen, but that sinking, sad, hopeless
feeling that you get in your stomach ? Imagine having absolutely no idea what
to do about it. Imagine everywhere you look all you see is snake oils, and you just know they're useless. Imagine feeling that despair
and not knowing what to do. These companies cause that every day in the lives
of so many people. It sounds silly but if you really think about it ... they're
hurting people. So consider yourself lucky. You actually have resources available
to you that have been built with a heart to help, and by people who care about
solid science that want to give you real information and truly help you. This
is a good thing.
I see many people comment that God is punishing them. Well again, look at it another
way. Through some cosmic direction, some guidance of some sort, you're one of
the few people on this planet who actually found these resources and will likely
be one of the few people on this planet who will keep their hair because of it.
Sounds more like God is helping you instead of them :) Most guys don't believe
anything works, and wont ever try the treatments. Instead they'll end up suffering
the sadness of losing their youthful appearance, and possibly even all their hair.
You wont. You've got one up on them. Consider yourself lucky that you're starting
this soon, and because of it, many of you younger guys will have all your hair
for another 10 years minimum. You're not unlucky at all.
The Lifelong Hair Treatment Regimen Issue
"This sucks. If I start Propecia or Rogaine I'm going to have to take it for the
REST OF MY LIFE!". Its funny how the brain works, isn't it? When you're facing
something that seems like its going to strip the very youth from underneath your
feet, right in the prime of your life, all you can do is think negatively! One
of the most commonly encountered "Depressing Thoughts" is the incredibly distasteful
concept that you're going to have to use a hair loss treatment for the rest of
your life. "Its a life Sentence!!!" ... we've all thought it.
Look at it another way. Its really not so bad. Every day for the rest of your
life you will brush your teeth to avoid tooth decay and keep your teeth from falling
out. Every day for the rest of your life you will take a shower to avoid skin
conditions, diseases, and infections that could ultimately kill you. If you look
at those things in the negative light, you could say "I'm a slave to toothpaste
for the rest of my life!" ... but you don't. Its just brushing your teeth. A shower
could be viewed as "Having to stand for 30 minutes under hot water and rub junk
all over your body EVERY SINGLE DAY FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!". Sounds almost
comical to think that way doesn't it. But that's exactly what we do when we think
of hair loss treatments. You guys who have found that Propecia does the job all
by itself? You're just popping a pill, just like a multivitamin, to help keep
your hair healthy and keep it from falling out. No different than brushing your
teeth. You ladies who are using Rogaine to try and kick start some growth? So
you're doing a little something more each day. You're actually going to look better
because of it.
Everyone's got their thing. As we age we have to do new things that will help maintain our health. No doubt grandma and grandpa have at least 3 prescription meds they have to take every day just to keep from getting sick. Everyone on the planet has to do something. You've just got your things, and one of them happens to be preventing hair loss. It's not so bad.
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