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How To Stop Caring About People Disapproving Of Your Baldness (and You In General)?

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I keep having intrusive thoughts of the fact that people see me as low status. I think with aesthetics like mine you need another positive trait in at least the top 5% for people to even begin to respect you. Like your average nerdy stereotypical bald IT guy who is top 10% intelligence. Society still looks down on him.

And you have to be at least top 1% for people to see you as cool or impressive or someone worthy of admiration. Examples include Jason Statham and other super hot bald guys. They have extremely good looking faces and bodies to make up for being bald.

However, even then you will still have an obvious major disadvantage for people to look down on you with. A good example is the golfer Jordan Spieth that a thread was made about it before https://www.hairlosstalk.com/interact/threads/hair-loss-jordan-spieth.91688/.

I'm struggling so much thinking about if looks really do determine your worth. Not only that but I feel guilty about thinking such a thing in the first place. I can't even get turned on seeing hot girls without a little bit of guilt nowadays x.x. Also obsessing over whether I have enough compensating traits to make up for being bald, short, and skinny. I'm constantly thinking about if i'm good enough and who is better than who because of this f*****g sh*t and it's driving me a bit crazy to be honest.

Deep down I feel worth is largely defined by your looks but I'm just too scared to admit it. Probably nearly everyone is like this as well.

My ego is ridiculously fragile nowadays. But the f*****g problem is IT'S FOR A GOOD f*****g REASON UNLIKE THESE f*****g FAKE DEPRESSED WHITE GIRLS RUNNING AROUND NOWADAYS. the whole depression chic thing is so f*****g annoying when you have a valid reason to be depressed
 
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Dante92 said:
Honestly? I realized I can't feel good and there's nothing I can do to improve my situation, nothing, no way to change my current situation, to improve my looks or the way people treat me. How I've survived this far? I became a workaholic and a recluse, trying to focus on my job, my hobbies or pretty much anything disconnected from reality, whatever helps me not think about my life.

I'm sorry, but I'm afraid you'd have to try something similar, a shrink can only help you a bit, but to find peace of mind you have to accept what you can't change and focus on things that give you satisfaction.

I'm truly sorry you feel this bad, I can relate.
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You have a good job. How come you haven't gotten a transplant? I would feel a lot better if I got a transplant, and thats one of my main copes but honestly I'm too dysfunctional to get a job or go to school. My executive skills are fucked.

I also think that I would still be obsessively insecure even if I got my hair back
 
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I don't have much money on my own, I've got a lot to pay for, considering I live in Italy and in Milan. But I'm trying to save money, slowly.

Your skills are not fucked, only dulled by depression, uncertainty and frustration. You'll get to the point where anger and misantrophy will fuel your ambitions, or at least I wish you that. You'll realize other people don't matter, only your dreams do. People and the world took almost everything away from us, do you want to live the rest of your life like that? Time for payback and settle this big score.
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Are you defuse Dante?

I was considering a hair transplant because my back is good but i am defuse on crown and scared of shock loss.
 
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you say worth is determined by your looks?

i say looks are determined by your worth. It's in the DNA. WOMB TO TOMB. Can't do a damn thing; the target is always moving.

Best bet is to hope aesthetics technology can help you fraud, but when this technology becomes mainstream it won't matter because 'good looks' will always be defined as the things that are hardest to "surgically" correct.

The paradigm will shift. When a widespread baldness cure becomes a simple reality easily reached by the masses, nw7 horeshoes won't even be ugly anymore, they may even become a counterculture status symbol.

That's why you should strive to make as much money as possible so that when the technology finally does first come out you can be an early adopter and get the jump on the masses, before it becomes popular. That'll give you a few years headstart. That is if you're not totally jaded by that point and end up hanging yourself since you realize the void will never be satisfied because your youth is gone and that you've already wasted too much time to achieve anything noteworthy.

good luck bud.
 
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Dante92 said:
I don't have much money on my own, I've got a lot to pay for, considering I live in Italy and in Milan. But I'm trying to save money, slowly.

Your skills are not fucked, only dulled by depression, uncertainty and frustration. You'll get to the point where anger and misantrophy will fuel your ambitions, or at least I wish you that. You'll realize other people don't matter, only your dreams do. People and the world took almost everything away from us, do you want to live the rest of your life like that? Time for payback and settle this big score.
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Would it save much to live in Bergamo or a nearby town and commute in?

I'm not sure what the rents are like in Milan.

I know a lot of people who work in London don't actually live in London and they just get a train in.
 
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the older you get, the less important looks become. why? because EVERY ONE is simply decaying, rotting flesh. seriously, I've noticed at weddings and parties, the people that get the most positive attention are those that exhibit intelligence, experience (traveling, work, etc..), charm, humour, talent, etc. if anything, people mid thirties plus are kinda sick of seeing the super good looking dudes get all the attention. (disclaimer - no, this is not a cope. a simple observation).
 
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Dante92 said:
I'd spend as much with a different flat + transports, not to mention delays and italian pub. transp. problems.
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I hope one day you move the f*** out of Italy and find a place where you feel more accepted and happy.
 
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the older you get, the less important looks become. why? because EVERY ONE is simply decaying, rotting flesh. seriously, I've noticed at weddings and parties, the people that get the most positive attention are those that exhibit intelligence, experience (traveling, work, etc..), charm, humour, talent, etc. if anything, people mid thirties plus are kinda sick of seeing the super good looking dudes get all the attention. (disclaimer - no, this is not a cope. a simple observation).
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I quite enjoy seeing my contemporaries age as well.

Makes me feel better about hair loss.

Out of my 8 male friends, 5 of them are losing their hair and one of them is a norwood 6.

We're all decaying together.

It would be worse if I was the only balding one out of my group.
 
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exactly. I mean, I met EL on here and one day we shall make love in the mountains and give way to babies that are NW7 by 16 months.
 
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