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One of the strangest things about living in Asia is the drastic change in your Sexual Market Value. You can go from an anonymous face who will struggle to get dates in the west, to a desired and sought after man who is approached again and again in bars and cafe's.
I recently travelled to Bangkok, Thailand and let me tell you that this city is a place that is fuelled by sex. In certain areas of the city you will see middle aged men walk the streets and women will physically grab them and lure them into their clubs and ask them for private time. And the men, they are more than happy to play along, and you cannot mistake their big smiles as they finally find themselves banging these young and beautiful women.
The cynics amongst you will say this is just pure sex tourism, and half the time you will be right, but you would also be stunned at the amount of relationships and marriages that are formed by these encounters. Many of these women desire a western man and desire the lifestyle they can get when dating these men. The expats I spoke to were all aware of this, they knew that part of the reason they were wanted was because of their wealth, and they were more than happy to play their part.
But these relationships were not the type where the man gave the woman 'pocket money'. A lot of these men with Asian girlfriends - and there were a lot of them - just lived with them, took them out for meals most nights, and that was just about it. There wasn't much of a financial drain when dating them, the women seemed genuine, and they were getting sex on tap with them whenever they desired.
Its an incredibly weird scenario: we get so used to feeling undesirable for the most part and some of us give up and retreat and some of us resist and try and get what we can, but here our value is suddenly reversed and we find ourselves desirable.
My issue is with accepting the attention because I feel as if I am exploiting my money. Much of this stems from my own western upbringing of romantic notions that somebody will love you at for who you are. Logically I know that most relationships are created via looks or wealth. And yet, somehow it seems okay to be desired by looks but it seems weird to have someone want you for wealth (this is presuming it is the wealth they want you for).
I personally live in Cambodia and while the women are a lot more subtle here, you essentially still have the same Sexual Market Value. When I looked at their online dating sites I found myself bombarded with messages from women that wanted to date me with the hope of marriage. The whole thing is so bizarre and I'm still not quite sure of what to make of it all.
So there you have it: Southeast Asia the gateway to a good time with nice and eager women. A place where you will be wanted and desired and a place where you can abscond your own inceldom for as long as your visit allows.
I recently travelled to Bangkok, Thailand and let me tell you that this city is a place that is fuelled by sex. In certain areas of the city you will see middle aged men walk the streets and women will physically grab them and lure them into their clubs and ask them for private time. And the men, they are more than happy to play along, and you cannot mistake their big smiles as they finally find themselves banging these young and beautiful women.
The cynics amongst you will say this is just pure sex tourism, and half the time you will be right, but you would also be stunned at the amount of relationships and marriages that are formed by these encounters. Many of these women desire a western man and desire the lifestyle they can get when dating these men. The expats I spoke to were all aware of this, they knew that part of the reason they were wanted was because of their wealth, and they were more than happy to play their part.
But these relationships were not the type where the man gave the woman 'pocket money'. A lot of these men with Asian girlfriends - and there were a lot of them - just lived with them, took them out for meals most nights, and that was just about it. There wasn't much of a financial drain when dating them, the women seemed genuine, and they were getting sex on tap with them whenever they desired.
Its an incredibly weird scenario: we get so used to feeling undesirable for the most part and some of us give up and retreat and some of us resist and try and get what we can, but here our value is suddenly reversed and we find ourselves desirable.
My issue is with accepting the attention because I feel as if I am exploiting my money. Much of this stems from my own western upbringing of romantic notions that somebody will love you at for who you are. Logically I know that most relationships are created via looks or wealth. And yet, somehow it seems okay to be desired by looks but it seems weird to have someone want you for wealth (this is presuming it is the wealth they want you for).
I personally live in Cambodia and while the women are a lot more subtle here, you essentially still have the same Sexual Market Value. When I looked at their online dating sites I found myself bombarded with messages from women that wanted to date me with the hope of marriage. The whole thing is so bizarre and I'm still not quite sure of what to make of it all.
So there you have it: Southeast Asia the gateway to a good time with nice and eager women. A place where you will be wanted and desired and a place where you can abscond your own inceldom for as long as your visit allows.
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