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Right guys don't get me wrong, balding sucks. Despite being a NW1 going to 2, I am shitly scared just as you all are, and I really hope that I do not suffer from an aggressive form of male pattern baldness until a much later date in life. And by then I hope HM comes out!
Now with that in mind, I would say pre hairloss I was pretty good looking, a juvanile hairline REALLY helped me to instantly attract girls. Literally back in the day, women approach me without any work, or tried and snog me drunk. Often I would be complimented by being called "handsome", part of that was probably because of the way my hair framed my face perfectly. I looked a bit like David Scwimmer. It is only now with a bit of recession I have realised it has become a lot harder (and my recession isn't even bad then say UM). I get far less compliments for example, the only one I get now is "you are a charmer" - nothing about my looks.
Now, with that said - for a long while I had trouble getting laid in my earlier years despite my chances...I really was that pathetic, I literally turned down girls asking to sit on my lap, or asking me to kiss me because I felt "uncomfortable" - to give you a rough idea of how much of a retard I was. (Deeply regret all the f*** ups till this day) Recently though, the tables seem to be turning (I would say the last 6 months) which incidently coincides with my hairloss. I got laid, have girls flirting with me, get girls qualifying themselves to me, making much of an effort etc etc. I would say despite having a lot more to learn, I am getting better with women from experience and practice. Having to rely on my personality a lot more then before has forced me to become better. This has also forced me to be more clever socially, as I am now a big fan of reverse psychology, by playing their game back with them. Incidently, from being a dork 2 years ago, I am now percieved as a guy that is "cool" and "classy" in my social circles.
Anyway where am I going with this:-
I am starting to wonder if looks is everything. For example a scienario which we all can relate too: Have you ever been in a situation where for example you meet a girl that you are NOT initially attracted too, but once you get to know her she turns into a girl that you end up thinking to yourself that "yeah you would consider dating?", simply because you both just get along really really well? Well who says it cannot happen the other way round?
This has happened to me a sh*t load of times. Bringing this back to myself, chicks treat me differently these days - and I am starting to wonder if it is for the same reason, because the way I convey myself - with the ones that don't find me attractive initally? So with that in mind, maybe it could be the same deal with you guys, if you worked on being sexy in terms of the way you convey yourself out there? By sexy that doesn't mean talking random BS, it means knowing when to flirt, knowing when to be funny, able to dance; plus showing people what makes you a unique individual - as opposed to someone faking it maybe that would help. In other the words the way you convey yourself is not manufactured, the way you flirt/sense of humour and your sensitive side is how you would do it.
Maybe if a girl sees that, it could knock us all up by 5 points on the attraction scale. And in the same way you'll find yourself attracted to a girl that you wouldn't be into initially prior to getting to know her, could work in your favour with girls after they get to know you - once they feel that connection.
Anyway some food for thought. Will be interesting to hear your responses.
Now with that in mind, I would say pre hairloss I was pretty good looking, a juvanile hairline REALLY helped me to instantly attract girls. Literally back in the day, women approach me without any work, or tried and snog me drunk. Often I would be complimented by being called "handsome", part of that was probably because of the way my hair framed my face perfectly. I looked a bit like David Scwimmer. It is only now with a bit of recession I have realised it has become a lot harder (and my recession isn't even bad then say UM). I get far less compliments for example, the only one I get now is "you are a charmer" - nothing about my looks.
Now, with that said - for a long while I had trouble getting laid in my earlier years despite my chances...I really was that pathetic, I literally turned down girls asking to sit on my lap, or asking me to kiss me because I felt "uncomfortable" - to give you a rough idea of how much of a retard I was. (Deeply regret all the f*** ups till this day) Recently though, the tables seem to be turning (I would say the last 6 months) which incidently coincides with my hairloss. I got laid, have girls flirting with me, get girls qualifying themselves to me, making much of an effort etc etc. I would say despite having a lot more to learn, I am getting better with women from experience and practice. Having to rely on my personality a lot more then before has forced me to become better. This has also forced me to be more clever socially, as I am now a big fan of reverse psychology, by playing their game back with them. Incidently, from being a dork 2 years ago, I am now percieved as a guy that is "cool" and "classy" in my social circles.
Anyway where am I going with this:-
I am starting to wonder if looks is everything. For example a scienario which we all can relate too: Have you ever been in a situation where for example you meet a girl that you are NOT initially attracted too, but once you get to know her she turns into a girl that you end up thinking to yourself that "yeah you would consider dating?", simply because you both just get along really really well? Well who says it cannot happen the other way round?
This has happened to me a sh*t load of times. Bringing this back to myself, chicks treat me differently these days - and I am starting to wonder if it is for the same reason, because the way I convey myself - with the ones that don't find me attractive initally? So with that in mind, maybe it could be the same deal with you guys, if you worked on being sexy in terms of the way you convey yourself out there? By sexy that doesn't mean talking random BS, it means knowing when to flirt, knowing when to be funny, able to dance; plus showing people what makes you a unique individual - as opposed to someone faking it maybe that would help. In other the words the way you convey yourself is not manufactured, the way you flirt/sense of humour and your sensitive side is how you would do it.
Maybe if a girl sees that, it could knock us all up by 5 points on the attraction scale. And in the same way you'll find yourself attracted to a girl that you wouldn't be into initially prior to getting to know her, could work in your favour with girls after they get to know you - once they feel that connection.
Anyway some food for thought. Will be interesting to hear your responses.
