confessing fear of hair loss

[Private Ryan]

i just sms my gf of my fear and worry for hair loss. i don't know, but i guess letting it out is better than keeping it in my heart and worry all the time what will her reaction be. she is 8years younger then me so i don't know how she will react. still waiting for her reply.



for those interested in my degree of hairloss, i just posted in another fourms of my hairloss condition of past 2years.

http://www.hairlosshelp.com/forums/mess ... adid=79244

 

[ali777]

Ask her to marry you before it's too late :youbet:

On a more serious note. Your thinning in the vertex is a bit obvious, and she has probably noticed it. She's still with you, so why do you worry?

When I told my ex that I was thinning, she said "oh well, shave it... "

 

[IBM]

Private Ryan, i saw you regimen on hairlosshelp. Why you stopped Oral spironolactone and how long you took it?

 

[Lucky_UK]

I would not let my g/f know about my hairloss worries. That is between me and you guys.

 

[Private Ryan]

ali777:

well, she reply me something totally not related what i confess to her. she told me she missed me. :lost:

maybe she does not know how to response to it too.


IBM:

i took it for some a period of time and don't find that it is doing much. further more, i experience nipple pain and itch here and there which is not a good sign. lastly, i remember reading byran mention something about taking spironolactone does upregulate androgen receptor. the low dosage i taking might not be able to offset the gain. with all uncertain and risk of side effect, i decided to drop it.


Lucky_UK:

i thought of keeping mum too. but sooner or later when she notice, she will ask. so as least to me a little hint to her. i dont know too. i confuse :shakehead:

 

[ali777]

ali777:

well, she reply me something totally not related what i confess to her. she told me she missed me. :lost:

maybe she does not know how to response to it too.

Why is it so hard to believe that she might be really missing you? Hair isn't everything.

 

[metalheaddude]

I would not let my g/f know about my hairloss worries. That is between me and you guys.

I agree. Women just don't understand hairloss and how much it actually effects a man's self confidence. They think its a big joke.

 

[Obsidian]

I am confessing it too. I am finally coming to terms that I am losing my hair and it scares the living hell out of me because I am barely 21. The worse thing is I can't stop thinking about it at all times of the day on some days, that when my head may ache, tingle, or itch especially in the front, I am scared to death. Hell, I even had a bad dream last night about the girl I liked and she said "You really can't pull off mid-length hair, you are going bald". Needless to say, I feel your pain man.

 

[masculineyourheart]

I would not let my g/f know about my hairloss worries. That is between me and you guys.

lol, I'm with you there. :beer:

I've almost brought it up with people when I'm in one of those smashed as hell one-on-one convo's... and thankfully decided against it each time.

If I did tell a girlfriend what I was going through there's no way I'd do it by sms. Dude, that's emotional suicide, what were you thinking? Anyway, you'll have to not let it be an issue around her now. Don't act like a baby and look for her sympathy. You're being active and looking for treatments so it'll show that you're awesome. Actually, we should all get t-shirts from HairLossTalk.com that say how awesome we are. Maybe I'll make a bumper sticker.

I'm balding but going down fighting. Because I'm awesome.
FREEEEDOM

 

[Avery]

The best way to bring it up to someone is to be the first one to joke about it. The first time I ever brought it up to my parents and siblings, I had just buzzed my hair rather close. In my sister's 14 year old ignorance, she said I should try the bald look, meaning I should shave it all off. I said, "In a few years I won't really have a choice!" and it immediately disarmed the room. I'm very thankful for that moment.

 

[Fanjeera]

Lol, everyone gets shocked, when they tell me I have beautiful hair and I reply, that it's not gonna last for too long.

 

[Private Ryan]

ali777:

well, she reply me something totally not related what i confess to her. she told me she missed me. :lost:

maybe she does not know how to response to it too.

Why is it so hard to believe that she might be really missing you? Hair isn't everything.

i understand what you mean. something hairloss just get into my head.

i guess as you mention, i need to learn hairloss isn't everything. that the biggest take home lesson.

 

[k3nn7i]

hey ryan...my hairloss pattern is more or less similar to yours...and I started losing in 2005 as well....how are you coping?

 

[Private Ryan]

hi k3nn7i. coping interm of?

 

[k3nn7i]

Oops...I mean are you still feeling very scared of losing your hair? Once we have the genes we just have to learn to accept that hair loss is gonna be here to stay with us

 

[Private Ryan]

hmm... i will say yes. i am still afriad although i find that so far i am able to overcome the negative feeling pretty well.

for example, the reason suddenly i wanted to tell my gf abt my hairloss is because my mum comment on my hairloss really affect me badly. somehow, this couple of weeks she keep bringing it up and i found that i getting quite cool with it

as hairloss is a progressive problem, everytime you see yourself in a new stage of Norwood, somehow, i have to go through the fear, depress and accept cycle all over again. thankfully my hair condition stay pretty the same for the past 2years and i pray for more good years ahead unk:

but as you mention, sooner or later, we will reach the finally Norwood stage. yeah, it something we have to accept. after all, it only hair right? it just the process is pretty painful.

but i still keep hope of having a cure in the coming years although i do know that it won't be coming in maybe 5-15years time. but sometime, hope is all we have to live on and keep us going one day at a time.

how about you?