Days pass us by.... [7 seven words]

[I wont lose this]

... and we're not getting any younger. Have you ever considered giving up on your hair? Sometimes I think to myself how fast the last 5 years have passed me by and how I haven't achieved anything that I wanted to, that I dreamed about, because I was too busy obsessing over my hair. When I was a teenager, all my angst interlaced with countless dreams, but at some point I just abandoned them all. How many people have I hurt because of my mood swings, caused by hair loss itself? Sticking with treatments forever seems to me like a burden, an annoying chore that at the end of the day might or might not be giving expected results.

I... don't want to live like that, although my other self wants my hair back. But then again, I wonder: why regain it if I may lose it again out of nowhere, the same way it happened before? I would just be repeating the cycle of miserableness. What about you, guys? Keep in mind that I don't want to discourage anyone here who's trying their best to fight this curse, it's just a fleeting thought that sometimes crosses my mind.

Have a good day.

 

[Caillou]

I already have given up on ALMOST everything and i found a new enjoyable hobby in the gym

 

[DyingOfTheLight]

Yes, ideally you'd just take your treatments without thinking. Only reflecting every few weeks to gauge their effectiveness and readjusting things if necessary

Constantly worrying about your hair and wallowing in misery will sap the energy needed to live out a meaningful and productive life

 

[losingbattle88]

I totally agree with you. This is why i only pop my duta pills and pop minoxidill and use laser helmet EOD. No more damn annoying topicals for me. But ofc I still think about my hair often. But yes my life has been wasted away because of hair thinning.

 

[BurningCoals]

Sticking with treatments forever seems to me like a burden, an annoying chore that at the end of the day might or might not be giving expected results.

Well if you go bald you’re gonna be stuck shaving the horseshoe for the rest of your life, which sounds way more annoying than just popping a pill a few times a week.

 

[whatevr]

I already have given up on ALMOST everything and i found a new enjoyable hobby in the gym

It's hard to know why I even get up in the morning these days. More so because of others than for myself.

 

[Caillou]

It's hard to know why I even get up in the morning these days. More so because of others than for myself.

I found that living in the moment and not thinking much about one's life is helpful as a coping mechanism

Btw what is your current hair situation? I'm a badly diffused NW2.5 coping with a comb-forward

 

[whatevr]

I found that living in the moment and not thinking much about one's life is helpful as a coping mechanism

Btw what is your current hair situation? I'm a badly diffused NW2.5 coping with a comb-forward

I'm a diffused NW3. I've been buzzing my head to hide the destruction, it looks better that way, but I have to do it every 4-5 days which is a pain.

The thing you wrote about nothing in life being worth it since it can be destroyed at any time is really true. My dad has been fighting the most aggressive kind of brain tumor for the past 6 months and the life expectancy is just a little bit over a year. Besides the usual treatment I'm giving him everything that has even the faintest clinical evidence, and yet he still seems to be getting worse. At best I might buy him a few months.

It seems that certain things in life are just meant to be and trying to fight is futile. Between all that, I'm starting to face this existential dread that casts a shadow over whatever my brain tries to come up with as a reason to continue on a daily basis.

 

[Caillou]

I'm a diffused NW3. I've been buzzing my head to hide the destruction, it looks better that way, but I have to do it every 4-5 days which is a pain.

The thing you wrote about nothing in life being worth it since it can be destroyed at any time is really true. My dad has been fighting the most aggressive kind of brain tumor for the past 6 months and the life expectancy is just a little bit over a year. Besides the usual treatment I'm giving him everything that has even the faintest clinical evidence, and yet he still seems to be getting worse. At best I might buy him a few months.

It seems that certain things in life are just meant to be and trying to fight is futile. Between all that, I'm starting to face this existential dread that casts a shadow over whatever my brain tries to come up with as a reason to continue on a daily basis.

Damn it bro, i'm truly sorry for your dad. I know nothing i can say will ever help. But try to spend as much time as you could with him and appreciate those moments while they last

 

[losingbattle88]

I'm a diffused NW3. I've been buzzing my head to hide the destruction, it looks better that way, but I have to do it every 4-5 days which is a pain.

The thing you wrote about nothing in life being worth it since it can be destroyed at any time is really true. My dad has been fighting the most aggressive kind of brain tumor for the past 6 months and the life expectancy is just a little bit over a year. Besides the usual treatment I'm giving him everything that has even the faintest clinical evidence, and yet he still seems to be getting worse. At best I might buy him a few months.

It seems that certain things in life are just meant to be and trying to fight is futile. Between all that, I'm starting to face this existential dread that casts a shadow over whatever my brain tries to come up with as a reason to continue on a daily basis.

So sad to hear. I dont have a mother so losing my dad would be the end of me.

 

[doubleindemnity]

To the OP... what's going to happen if you stop obsessing about your hair? You won't be able to magically live a happy life as a bald guy unless you are lucky. You are obsessing because you know that hair loss brings with it a lot of negatives. The only way out of hair loss is to treat it. Living bald but not obsessing over it is still living bald, and it's a markedly lower quality of life compared with having hair.

 

[spring15]

I'm too vain to give up on my hair & be content looking like a shell of my former self. Maybe if I had a hobby I was heavily invested in enough to occupy me , I could let it all go

 

[losingbattle88]

I'm too vain to give up on my hair & be content looking like a shell of my former self. Maybe if I had a hobby I was heavily invested in enough to occupy me , I could let it all go

Its not about being vain its about being a slave to your hair.

 

[Caillou]

Its not about being vain its about being a slave to your hair.

It's just that without your hair you either rope or lay down and rot

 

[losingbattle88]

It's just that without your hair you either rope or lay down and rot

U never know until you have been bald for a few years, eventually you reach 40 or 50 and simply get used to your sh*t genetics.

 

[Caillou]

U never know until you have been bald for a few years, eventually you reach 40 or 50 and simply get used to your sh*t genetics.

I've been balding since 17 and i'm 22 now with really sh*t hair, so i'm already kinda used to being a subhuman but i gave up

 

[I wont lose this]

To the OP... what's going to happen if you stop obsessing about your hair? You won't be able to magically live a happy life as a bald guy unless you are lucky. You are obsessing because you know that hair loss brings with it a lot of negatives. The only way out of hair loss is to treat it. Living bald but not obsessing over it is still living bald, and it's a markedly lower quality of life compared with having hair.

That's why I said it's a fleeting thought. Even taking pills doesn't guarantee you that you will keep your hair. A friend of mine has been on finasteride for 8 months and his hair was looking better before he started. Treating hair loss is pretty much a gamble

 

[Capone]

Even when you’re 40, you’ll still care, I’m exactly 3 weeks post op and thinking if I need another down the line, I’ll use everything from armpit to ar$e hair

 

[I wont lose this]

Even when you’re 40, you’ll still care, I’m exactly 3 weeks post op and thinking if I need another down the line, I’ll use everything from armpit to ar$e hair

I mean, you did a hair transplant? Congratulations! I hope you can grow a decent mane, dude