Discussing male pattern baldness With Friends? Advice Needed

[uhoil]

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[Notcoolanymore]

I would say if you are close friends with the guy then go for it and have the talk with him. If not then I wouldn't cross that line. Keep in mind that talking to somebody about hair loss will also let your secret out that you care and treat your hair loss.

 

[blackg]

I don't tell anyone. It will be used against you at a later point.

 

[kj6723]

Like Notcoolanymore says, I agree that you should only do this if you are good friends with this dude...and be careful to make sure it's a discreet conversation just between the two of you. From the way you describe it, hair loss is indeed having a significant negative effect on the quality of his life, so I'd say there's a good chance he'll be open to hearing about your male pattern baldness story.

 

[KO21]

I have a very small tight group of family and friends that I associate with. They are aware I'm suffering. I'll make jokes about it with my buddy who has amazing hair. He'll say something about how much hair he has and it's a burden (lol) and I'll come back with the witty "sh*t man give me some then I can't find half of mine". He probably knows it crushes me but he has never mentioned it.

My girlfriend is aware I'm suffering too but we don't talk about it. I hide it well enough for her.

I wouldn't mention it to just work buddies or whatever tho. Unless it was a fellow baldy and it came up.

 

[FootyStar]

I feel it would denote weakness, especially beacuse he is like a rival to me (like goku and vegeta lol) But he is my friend and I want to help him.

This bit caught my attention. If you guys are really "rivals", I would be very careful about talking to him about hair loss.

In what way are you guys rivals? Do you guys tend to rip into each other in front of others?

 

[cocohot]

don't.

 

[blackg]

This bit caught my attention. If you guys are really "rivals", I would be very careful about talking to him about hair loss.

In what way are you guys rivals? Do you guys tend to rip into each other in front of others?

Smart post.

 

[uhoil]

This bit caught my attention. If you guys are really "rivals", I would be very careful about talking to him about hair loss.

In what way are you guys rivals? Do you guys tend to rip into each other in front of others?

We don't rip each other haha but we can be very competitive, like in school who gets the better grades, or who does better at sports, even in stupid things like who dresses with more style and stuff like that, but it has been like that since childhood.

But maybe you guys are right, that would make me vulnerable. Maybe I can help without him knowing, or anonymously idk. Thanks!

 

[CopeForLife]

We don't rip each other haha but we can be very competitive, like in school who gets the better grades, or who does better at sports, even in stupid things like who dresses with more style and stuff like that, but it has been like that since childhood.

But maybe you guys are right, that would make me vulnerable. Maybe I can help without him knowing, or anonymously idk. Thanks!

if you have more hair you are winning so far

 

[SBAmerican]

It really depends on the friend. I told a few of my close friends and they were very supportive. Most people will tell you the typical statements such as "Don't worry, it's just hair", "Chicks love bald dudes", and my all time favorite "Hair doesn't matter, just hit the gym harder and get a tan." LOL

 

[CopeForLife]

It really depends on the friend. I told a few of my close friends and they were very supportive. Most people will tell you the typical statements such as "Don't worry, it's just hair", "Chicks love bald dudes", and my all time favorite "Hair doesn't matter, just hit the gym harder and get a tan." LOL

as I recall you are "hitting the gym hard" and 6'3 so it is double valued to hear from you that gymceling is bullshit and just a mere cope.

HAIR IS LIFE

btw is it you on the pic?

 

[SBAmerican]

as I recall you are "hitting the gym hard" and 6'3 so it is double valued to hear from you that gymceling is bullshit and just a mere cope.

HAIR IS LIFE

btw is it you on the pic?

Oh no, I'm not saying gymcelling is COMPLETE bullshit. IF you have a good body, that will definitely help you in the dating game. However, face and hair matters a lot more than your body. And yes that is me in the picture!

 

[hellouser]

Never talk about hair loss with friends. Anything you say can and will be used against you.

 

[Theodolite]

I was quite sad one day in the pub with my co-workers... And one woman co-worker asked:„Why are you so sad? What's wrong?" I kinda wanted to tell the truth, but I couldn't... I just made a clue that it' something related with my head. She thought it may be some mental disease Then after the weekend I emailed her and told the truth... When we meet accidentally she looks at my hair everytime (yeah, that sucks), but it is easier now... She admitted her husband is balding a little bit too... and her sister had PRP. So you can talk about it with somebody, who is not bad at his heart. If you have a feeling you have to do something, do it!

 

[Notcoolanymore]

. And one woman co-worker asked:„Why are you so sad? What's wrong?" I kinda wanted to tell the truth, but I couldn't... I just made a clue that it' something related with my head. She thought it may be some mental disease Then after the weekend I emailed her and told the truth...

I thought this was going to end in some pity pussy.

 

[whatevr]

I thought this was going to end in some pity pussy.

Is that even a thing?

Seriously though don't tell anyone. It's not worth it.

 

[Theodolite]

Haha, I know the answer guys! If you don't have any folks to talk about such a thing like hairloss, hairloss is not the main problem. The main problem is you don't have true people around you. That's the biggest problem, really.

It's better to have one true honest friend than to have 100 who see only that fake beautiful image you are trying to represent! And of course you will try to deny it, it's the dark side you are trying to avoid. Simple, stupid human nature.

 

[tellersquill]

I quite disagree with some of the advice here.

I'd recommend talking to your friend about it. Just let him know that there are things out there that he can take. Depending on how he responds can depend on how much you tell him how much it has effected you. But if he is your friend, then you should try to help the fellow out.

 

[blackg]

Haha, I know the answer guys! If you don't have any folks to talk about such a thing like hairloss, hairloss is not the main problem. The main problem is you don't have true people around you. That's the biggest problem, really.

It's better to have one true honest friend than to have 100 who see only that fake beautiful image you are trying to represent! And of course you will try to deny it, it's the dark side you are trying to avoid. Simple, stupid human nature.

I kind of agree with this.