Do people really feel liberated by shaving off head?
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I would love to just get it over with and do it, but I'm too scared right now. I just ordered some new clippers. May just give myself a hair cut this weekend. I'm in lock down again and haven't had a hair cut in 5 months. Who knows, if I screw up bad, it might have to all come off.
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I've shaved my head in the past. It made a lot of aspects of life easier. It was a good feeling to not have to worry about my hair anymore.... but I hated how I looked which was a trigger for depression.
My quality of life also went down significantly. I was reentering the dating world and all I seemed to attract was obese women. Part of that could have just been the fact that I hated how I looked, so had lower confidence. Once I was on treatments long enough to grow my hair to a length where concealers worked... it was life changing. I instantly went back to liking how I looked. With a shaved head I was able to get 8 dates in a little over a 3 month span. With hair I was able to get 54 in a little under 3 months.
My quality of life also went down significantly. I was reentering the dating world and all I seemed to attract was obese women. Part of that could have just been the fact that I hated how I looked, so had lower confidence. Once I was on treatments long enough to grow my hair to a length where concealers worked... it was life changing. I instantly went back to liking how I looked. With a shaved head I was able to get 8 dates in a little over a 3 month span. With hair I was able to get 54 in a little under 3 months.
yeah i also shaved my head for fun once, back when i wasnt even balding... it wasnt very nice^^ and that is why i dread going bald, because i know what it will look like...
im in the same boat as you, little topic and good to go... otherwise i most likely wouldnt really go out if it is avoidable... women were never an issue, though...
issue now is figuring out which treatments work and which dont... somehow until now the treatments havent been that good... in the front they have been working and gave me quite good improvements and regrowth, but for whatever reason, its the crown now that is getting worse (shouldnt it be the other way round??)...
all in with dutasteride every day and oral minoxidil and hope that helps...
as liberating as it might be for some people to shave their head, id say: avoid it at any cost!
doubleindemnity
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It's liberating just the same way that jumping into a pool of cold water is liberating. You did something that you were expecting to be bad and it was really bad but you have survived it and are ok. There's a feeling of "this is practically my baseline look that I can return to no matter how bad the hair loss gets. I can learn to be satisfied and happy with it even if nobody else will." I'd say that you should only do it when your loss is bad enough that you can't do a combover. You don't want to have a nice combover then shave it off and a month or two find that you can't grow the combover back.
lets say an acceptable combover^^ at a certain age i wouldnt even mind light thinning, depending on how it looks... i mean im 40 now, my hairline is not going to come back and i accepted that a long time ago, but the crown??? by all means i avoid that...
all of my friends back in my home country did shave though... at least two to liberate themselves^^ one did that over 20 years ago already... to them its apparently never been a real issue...
all of my friends back in my home country did shave though... at least two to liberate themselves^^ one did that over 20 years ago already... to them its apparently never been a real issue...
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I'm currently 31 dealing with thinning especially on one side of my hairline. I had a major fear that once I hit inevitable bald status I'd be undateable forever. When I shaved my head during covid lockdown I knew 2 things.
1. I can somewhat pull off the look as long as I got buff as my head shape was ok (like Kratos head).
2. I still preferred having hair and I was going to grow it out again. I also noticed skull imperfections when observing closely.
Now I cut a fade and it looks ok but I'm considering finasteride since my dad was norwood 6.5 by early - mid 40s and at 65 he is norwood 7.
Hair loss has caused major depression.
1. I can somewhat pull off the look as long as I got buff as my head shape was ok (like Kratos head).
2. I still preferred having hair and I was going to grow it out again. I also noticed skull imperfections when observing closely.
Now I cut a fade and it looks ok but I'm considering finasteride since my dad was norwood 6.5 by early - mid 40s and at 65 he is norwood 7.
Hair loss has caused major depression.
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I think is more like a visual relief. Just like when you cut assymetrical ir weaker hair parts. But when It comes to late stage baldness, It's the whole hair. Só shaving the Peach fuss must be satisfying
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It's liberating because most men find out they don't look as bad as they thought they would.
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Only for a little while, there's this quick relief and their friends say "yeah you look badass bro".. and then most realize they do look worse because people, especially women start treating them differently and then they end up growing it back.
Unless they can't grow it back for whatever reason, and then they convince themselves that it looks ok and adjust.
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DoctorHouse
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If I am going to shave my head, I am not going to do it without getting some FUE grafts put back into my scalp. Then when it grows back, it will look better than it did before. Otherwise I will just keep it short enough that it looks decent.
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It depends on how you are after shaving.
I am 19 years old and I suffer from precocious baldness, 6 months ago I decided to shave my head, I went from someone who liked to look at himself in the mirror to someone who hate it, I felt like I lost my identity.
Severe depression followed after this shave. I think I would be ready to do it when I have a beard and I'm older (at least 30). Before my twenties or early twenties this is unthinkable for me.
I am 19 years old and I suffer from precocious baldness, 6 months ago I decided to shave my head, I went from someone who liked to look at himself in the mirror to someone who hate it, I felt like I lost my identity.
Severe depression followed after this shave. I think I would be ready to do it when I have a beard and I'm older (at least 30). Before my twenties or early twenties this is unthinkable for me.
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I shaved at 30 and honestly it is what it is. Did I hate it? No. Did I love it? No, so I grew it back. I think some women won't mind how I look if I really hit the gym hard and go for that thug look, which wouldn't be a great look at work as I work in finance...
I think a lot of people on here think if you are great in everything else but hair then it's over. I don't believe that so much. Women have different values as they get older and career, money, social status, and how you take care of yourself are a lot more important as opposed to high-school and college years.
A lot of you guys are still young. I promise you if you work hard on everything else someone will see value in you. A woman might see a bald guy who has a lot of success as undervalued and an easy steal.
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I think you are right. Even if being young it is much more difficult to live than 30 years old. But your sentence cheered me up man, thank you for its
doubleindemnity
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To be honest I used to believe this but it never worked for me. The whole 'hit the gym and work hard on yourself and you will be fine with a shaved down NW6' never worked out for me.
age doesnt matter... im 40 and not for a second did i think “yeah when im 41 im okay with shaving it”...
i sometimes think when i look at really old people “hmm maybe at that age its okay...” but a second later i think f*** that sh*t, i do whatever i can until im 100...
RIP philip btw... was maybe the only dude who pulled balding of for 80 years^^
i sometimes think when i look at really old people “hmm maybe at that age its okay...” but a second later i think f*** that sh*t, i do whatever i can until im 100...
RIP philip btw... was maybe the only dude who pulled balding of for 80 years^^
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How old are you and what do you do for work?
I think a lot of women who are still single at 30 are:
1. Never going to use online dating.
2. Demand the guy takes care of himself both physically and financially
3. Would prefer that he can socialize well and not say anything stupid.
I think a lot of guys after 30 start realizing what they want in a long term partner and start actually paying attention to how a woman behaves. I remember in high school and college I was all about looks. But after getting cheated on, tough break ups, or failed relationships, I realized the drama isn't worth their looks. At this point I don't care much about "tits n azz" as I did as a horny teen and I just want companionship.
A bald man can find that as there are women who don't care. Yes the 9 or 10 out of 10 woman in her early to mid 20s isn't going to give you a shot but that is true for most older men with hair anyway.
My only advice to you is to be the best you can be in everything else. You look like you are tall so that helps. This may seem like generic advice but:
1. Make money and get a career that is impressive.
2. Hit the gym. Not like casual gym I mean hit it hard. As you age more and more men start letting themselves go. You stay in shape you will have an edge. You don't have sex with hair you have sex with your body.
3. Hygiene. Get crest white strips, dress better, groom the beard, shave the head. Also clean your house and be neat. Women have major problems with men who are lazy and don't clean up after themselves.
4. Hobbies that make you interesting and give opportunities to meet people.
If you have all these things in order a lot of women will find value once they get to know you. I understand that hair loss can prevent women from seeing you as a romantic partner but if you have a lot of value then that is their loss.
but be genuine with hobbies and fashion and dont try to be something you are not... people notice it when you just pretend, or do something because you think its cool...
otherwise sound advise here, it really isnt so difficult...
can also confirm what he said about good looking girls... its really not always worth it... 99% of the models i dated were to dumb to talk to, you couldnt even go out with them because they were always concerned with their bellies... go out for food and they take two bites and stop because they think their belly looks full now...
you might think “but at least the sex must be good”, but: not at all... from pretty much vanilla to straight up boring starfish (maybe because of their bellies?^^)...
the women that people seem to prefer these days (titz n ***, apparently... i cant stand that at all) might be different, but that is my experience with fashion models in europe and asia at least...
otherwise sound advise here, it really isnt so difficult...
can also confirm what he said about good looking girls... its really not always worth it... 99% of the models i dated were to dumb to talk to, you couldnt even go out with them because they were always concerned with their bellies... go out for food and they take two bites and stop because they think their belly looks full now...
you might think “but at least the sex must be good”, but: not at all... from pretty much vanilla to straight up boring starfish (maybe because of their bellies?^^)...
the women that people seem to prefer these days (titz n ***, apparently... i cant stand that at all) might be different, but that is my experience with fashion models in europe and asia at least...
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100% . I find this as I'm approaching 30. priorities change, it's not all about sex/looks anymore. You look for a woman/partner who has the attributes & qualities you see in building a successful future with.
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It's just another option.