Doing Good With Women But Feeling Like sh*t (a Honest Talk)

[baldingsuckz]

Hey,

This is my first post and its more of a venting for my own good.

About me. Im 27 years old, starting "balding" I guess about the age of 21/22 or something but I myself realised it about it fully at the age of 25. So 2 years ago when my ex girlfriend told me, I was getting thin at my crown. More and more people in my life started to joke or say a commend about the hairloss. We all know that feeling and I dont think its something new here when I say: "Oh really? You noticed Im balding? What an infomative and positive thing to say in a friendship...". Specialy one friend, that fat as f*** and I did not once commend about him being fat because first, I dont care and second, I know empathy. Funny is, he could lose weight in 6 months and would be fine. I cant train hair in the GYM bruh.

Dating and balding: I read a bit here in the forum and I see, most men that gave up on dating or/and are in a very negative thinking spiral when it comes to dating. I do agree that nice full hair, will make the whole sh*t easier but you still can get laid (but you wont forget you are balding).

So when my ex girlfriend left me (nope it wasnt for my hair, I actualy fucked it up by myself) i was getting fat, was balding more, and noticed my hair status now even worse (thanks Linda for the stress). I gave up on women for about 9-10 months completly.

A bit more than a year ago, I decided to start going to the GYM again and not to build muscle per se, but to lose my belly fat I gained from eating sh*t and giving up on dating and the world in general. I went back into shape after about 3-4 months. Felt good. Really good. So, here I was, still balding, but in okay shape.
In another Forum I found about finasterid, and what your options are in general with hairlosss/thining hair.

Now I do think i found the best "solution" which includes: "Finasterid 1mg, Toppik when I go out and see people and a really good hairshampoo I use once a week called: "kiehl's ultimate thickening shampoo".
Best sh*t I used so far. On the other days I just wash my hair with cold shower without shampoo.

I talked with some hairtransplant doctors to educate myself on my options. It did make me feel good just to talk with someone about it. I have to say, no one knows that my hair, is f*****g me up mentaly.

I have never been that successfull with women now, despite that my hair is the "baldest" at this moment.
What helped me was, to not really give a f*** and just plow trough rejections. From the outside it maybe looks hes good with women, but for every date I have, 10 others said "NO" to me. But I dont care.
At my peak last March, I had one girl on friday, one on saturday and one on sunday with very little time apart and the girl on sunday, was the most beautiful women I ever slept with. Im not saying that to "brag" because thats really just me on my very peak and exceptional. But I tell it here open and honest because for one reason. You would think, i might be happy but very soon monday night, after I showered and looked in the mirror: "Damn you look like sh*t" I was thinking to myself. despite just had my sexual peak perfomance a day ago.

I hate how I look and feel about MYSELF. I guess thats the point I want to make. I hate the rain now. You dont wanna see me in the rain lol. I always loved the rain as a child and teenager. Thanks for making me "fear" a rainy day. Oh and I stopped going swimming, cant look at windows etc etc. Before I go to my hairstylist I have to drink 3 beers to relax a bit because looking at my hair for 25min makes me suizidal (no joke)

People can tell you all kinds of sh*t. "Women dont care" so be happy maaan!

So WHAT?! More in life than just women. I want to fee goodl about myself aswell. Even when Jessica Alba would knock on your door, telling you: "Dude you look good balding I dont care" you would still feel sh*t 1 or 2 weeks later when you see your hair at his worst.

Im trying to save money for a hairtransplant. If i didnt had a babyface and/or could grow a nice viking fullbeard, I would just shave it and go on with my life. But I do depend on the hair. And I do think most guys here too so I have huge sympathy and thats why Im here because you guys understand it.


Need to sleep now. Thanks for listening!

 

[blackg]

Hey,

This is my first post and its more of a venting for my own good.

About me. Im 27 years old, starting "balding" I guess about the age of 21/22 or something but I myself realised it about it fully at the age of 25. So 2 years ago when my ex girlfriend told me, I was getting thin at my crown. More and more people in my life started to joke or say a commend about the hairloss. We all know that feeling and I dont think its something new here when I say: "Oh really? You noticed Im balding? What an infomative and positive thing to say in a friendship...". Specialy one friend, that fat as f*** and I did not once commend about him being fat because first, I dont care and second, I know empathy. Funny is, he could lose weight in 6 months and would be fine. I cant train hair in the GYM bruh.

Dating and balding: I read a bit here in the forum and I see, most men that gave up on dating or/and are in a very negative thinking spiral when it comes to dating. I do agree that nice full hair, will make the whole sh*t easier but you still can get laid (but you wont forget you are balding).

So when my ex girlfriend left me (nope it wasnt for my hair, I actualy fucked it up by myself) i was getting fat, was balding more, and noticed my hair status now even worse (thanks Linda for the stress). I gave up on women for about 9-10 months completly.

A bit more than a year ago, I decided to start going to the GYM again and not to build muscle per se, but to lose my belly fat I gained from eating sh*t and giving up on dating and the world in general. I went back into shape after about 3-4 months. Felt good. Really good. So, here I was, still balding, but in okay shape.
In another Forum I found about finasterid, and what your options are in general with hairlosss/thining hair.

Now I do think i found the best "solution" which includes: "Finasterid 1mg, Toppik when I go out and see people and a really good hairshampoo I use once a week called: "kiehl's ultimate thickening shampoo".
Best sh*t I used so far. On the other days I just wash my hair with cold shower without shampoo.

I talked with some hairtransplant doctors to educate myself on my options. It did make me feel good just to talk with someone about it. I have to say, no one knows that my hair, is f*****g me up mentaly.

I have never been that successfull with women now, despite that my hair is the "baldest" at this moment.
What helped me was, to not really give a f*** and just plow trough rejections. From the outside it maybe looks hes good with women, but for every date I have, 10 others said "NO" to me. But I dont care.
At my peak last March, I had one girl on friday, one on saturday and one on sunday with very little time apart and the girl on sunday, was the most beautiful women I ever slept with. Im not saying that to "brag" because thats really just me on my very peak and exceptional. But I tell it here open and honest because for one reason. You would think, i might be happy but very soon monday night, after I showered and looked in the mirror: "Damn you look like sh*t" I was thinking to myself. despite just had my sexual peak perfomance a day ago.

I hate how I look and feel about MYSELF. I guess thats the point I want to make. I hate the rain now. You dont wanna see me in the rain lol. I always loved the rain as a child and teenager. Thanks for making me "fear" a rainy day. Oh and I stopped going swimming, cant look at windows etc etc. Before I go to my hairstylist I have to drink 3 beers to relax a bit because looking at my hair for 25min makes me suizidal (no joke)

People can tell you all kinds of sh*t. "Women dont care" so be happy maaan!

So WHAT?! More in life than just women. I want to fee goodl about myself aswell. Even when Jessica Alba would knock on your door, telling you: "Dude you look good balding I dont care" you would still feel sh*t 1 or 2 weeks later when you see your hair at his worst.

Im trying to save money for a hairtransplant. If i didnt had a babyface and/or could grow a nice viking fullbeard, I would just shave it and go on with my life. But I do depend on the hair. And I do think most guys here too so I have huge sympathy and thats why Im here because you guys understand it.


Need to sleep now. Thanks for listening!

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[JohnsonDDG]

A wall of text.

A row of words.

 

[blackg]

@DJJohmson Shut your ***, tellersqill!!

 

[JohnathonNY]

Cliffs or didn't read.

 

[Rudiger]

What is wrong with people, that takes 2 minutes of your time.

Anyway good rant, but for me personally I don't agree. I hate looking at my shitty hair because I feel it reflects on how women see me. I'm sure of this and I had a major realisation of this in an instant, and wrote about it on the forum.

I realised that in the gym locker room I couldn't give a sh*t about my hair, obviously it's wet and the lights are bright, couldn't care less. But then I realised I do care if I know a guy who's in the same locker room. So do I care about male opinions if they're my friend? Still no, I don't give a sh*t. But I do care about then bald shaming me to other women I know. The thought of them going "you should see his hair in the gym it's much worse than you'd think" and that being passed around.

If it wasn't for pussy I wouldn't give a sh*t, I'd be full horseshoe NW4 right now with no treatments. This is of course a hypothetical but if I met a woman who truly unconditionally loved me, and somehow I was guaranteed she'd never feel otherwise, same thing, I wouldn't care.

Unfortunately as much as I felt certain women have felt such love in moments or time frames, that was a love based in part because of my hair and looks. I can understand that if it goes, and with certain other relationship difficulties that always arise, her love would fade, and that would be in part down to baldness. And maybe even a considerable part.

 

[CaptainForehead]

I have to say, no one knows that my hair, is f*****g me up mentaly.

I find this to be a very saddening issue. Men have to suffer about many things alone (not just hairloss).

There are some things men are allowed to be open about, PTSD, being gay; but many other things, alone.

Thank heavens for this forum.

 

[Baldingat188]

I find this to be a very saddening issue. Men have to suffer about many things alone (not just hairloss).

There are some things men are allowed to be open about, PTSD, being gay; but many other things, alone.

Thank heavens for this forum.

Agree. In the modern liberal world you will get more sympathy about being gay then about going bald as a man. But that isn't to say being gay doesn't suck.

 

[Rudiger]

But that isn't to say being gay doesn't suck.

Oh gays definitely suck ZING

 

[Baldingat188]

Oh gays definitely suck ZING

Gay is one of the worst curses a man can have , along with bald , short , ugly

Other then the obvious blind , deaf kinda stuff

 

[Rudiger]

Gay is one of the worst curses a man can have , along with bald , short , ugly

Other then the obvious blind , deaf kinda stuff

Yes but the positive being the sex life.

Like imagine a woman that wants as much sex as you do?! It would be red raw, red f*****g raw.

 

[Armando Jose]

I had one girl on friday, one on saturday and one on sunday

You are our hero!

gzgzgz, don`t worry, be happy.....

and be carefull with finas and possible side efects, also hairtrasplant is very questionable

 

[Baldingat188]

Yes but the positive being the sex life.

Like imagine a woman that wants as much sex as you do?! It would be red raw, red f*****g raw.

Maybe it's finasteride but I'm not really that interested in sex. It's just kinda like eh. Espically hookups, those would give me anxiety.

 

[Rudiger]

Maybe it's finasteride but I'm not really that interested in sex. It's just kinda like eh. Espically hookups, those would give me anxiety.

You could be asexual? I would say that's unusual for a young male. Possibly hair loss has taken a toll on your self esteem and the thought of intimacy is too much, even just as a hookup. It means another person is close to your hair, could touch it, etc.

We're you ever remotely sexual? Like as a boy before hair loss kicked in?

 

[Baldingat188]

You could be asexual? I would say that's unusual for a young male. Possibly hair loss has taken a toll on your self esteem and the thought of intimacy is too much, even just as a hookup. It means another person is close to your hair, could touch it, etc.

We're you ever remotely sexual? Like as a boy before hair loss kicked in?

I still fap more then once a week lol, so no I don't think I'm asexual although that would be nice tbh. Sure sex could be fun but I don't think that highly of it really. I don't have much sexual experience but in my limited experience it was mediocre but maybe I just needa find the right person ha...

 

[Baldingat188]

My libido seems to be spiking up and down. 6 months or so ago I was horny all the time , now I'm rarely interested in it

 

[baldingsuckz]

What is wrong with people, that takes 2 minutes of your time.

Anyway good rant, but for me personally I don't agree. I hate looking at my shitty hair because I feel it reflects on how women see me. I'm sure of this and I had a major realisation of this in an instant, and wrote about it on the forum.

I realised that in the gym locker room I couldn't give a sh*t about my hair, obviously it's wet and the lights are bright, couldn't care less. But then I realised I do care if I know a guy who's in the same locker room. So do I care about male opinions if they're my friend? Still no, I don't give a sh*t. But I do care about then bald shaming me to other women I know. The thought of them going "you should see his hair in the gym it's much worse than you'd think" and that being passed around.

If it wasn't for pussy I wouldn't give a sh*t, I'd be full horseshoe NW4 right now with no treatments. This is of course a hypothetical but if I met a woman who truly unconditionally loved me, and somehow I was guaranteed she'd never feel otherwise, same thing, I wouldn't care.

Unfortunately as much as I felt certain women have felt such love in moments or time frames, that was a love based in part because of my hair and looks. I can understand that if it goes, and with certain other relationship difficulties that always arise, her love would fade, and that would be in part down to baldness. And maybe even a considerable part.

People read what they want to read. Anyway. Thanks for your response.

I do also not give a sh*t in the GYM, but its more because Im pumped with metal music before I go in, that I dont care lol.
What I wanted to express is, of course you care what women are thinking about your baldiing hair but even when you get some sort of agree from all women that balding is "okay", I do believe lot of men would still feel sh*t. Maybe a bit less but still.

My libido seems to be spiking up and down. 6 months or so ago I was horny all the time , now I'm rarely interested in it

I guess you are taking Finasterid bruh not good for your dick haha. Check your T levels maybe.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

Hey,

This is my first post and its more of a venting for my own good.

About me. Im 27 years old, starting "balding" I guess about the age of 21/22 or something but I myself realised it about it fully at the age of 25. So 2 years ago when my ex girlfriend told me, I was getting thin at my crown. More and more people in my life started to joke or say a commend about the hairloss. We all know that feeling and I dont think its something new here when I say: "Oh really? You noticed Im balding? What an infomative and positive thing to say in a friendship...". Specialy one friend, that fat as f*** and I did not once commend about him being fat because first, I dont care and second, I know empathy. Funny is, he could lose weight in 6 months and would be fine. I cant train hair in the GYM bruh.

Dating and balding: I read a bit here in the forum and I see, most men that gave up on dating or/and are in a very negative thinking spiral when it comes to dating. I do agree that nice full hair, will make the whole sh*t easier but you still can get laid (but you wont forget you are balding).

So when my ex girlfriend left me (nope it wasnt for my hair, I actualy fucked it up by myself) i was getting fat, was balding more, and noticed my hair status now even worse (thanks Linda for the stress). I gave up on women for about 9-10 months completly.

A bit more than a year ago, I decided to start going to the GYM again and not to build muscle per se, but to lose my belly fat I gained from eating sh*t and giving up on dating and the world in general. I went back into shape after about 3-4 months. Felt good. Really good. So, here I was, still balding, but in okay shape.
In another Forum I found about finasterid, and what your options are in general with hairlosss/thining hair.

Now I do think i found the best "solution" which includes: "Finasterid 1mg, Toppik when I go out and see people and a really good hairshampoo I use once a week called: "kiehl's ultimate thickening shampoo".
Best sh*t I used so far. On the other days I just wash my hair with cold shower without shampoo.

I talked with some hairtransplant doctors to educate myself on my options. It did make me feel good just to talk with someone about it. I have to say, no one knows that my hair, is f*****g me up mentaly.

I have never been that successfull with women now, despite that my hair is the "baldest" at this moment.
What helped me was, to not really give a f*** and just plow trough rejections. From the outside it maybe looks hes good with women, but for every date I have, 10 others said "NO" to me. But I dont care.
At my peak last March, I had one girl on friday, one on saturday and one on sunday with very little time apart and the girl on sunday, was the most beautiful women I ever slept with. Im not saying that to "brag" because thats really just me on my very peak and exceptional. But I tell it here open and honest because for one reason. You would think, i might be happy but very soon monday night, after I showered and looked in the mirror: "Damn you look like sh*t" I was thinking to myself. despite just had my sexual peak perfomance a day ago.

I hate how I look and feel about MYSELF. I guess thats the point I want to make. I hate the rain now. You dont wanna see me in the rain lol. I always loved the rain as a child and teenager. Thanks for making me "fear" a rainy day. Oh and I stopped going swimming, cant look at windows etc etc. Before I go to my hairstylist I have to drink 3 beers to relax a bit because looking at my hair for 25min makes me suizidal (no joke)

People can tell you all kinds of sh*t. "Women dont care" so be happy maaan!

So WHAT?! More in life than just women. I want to fee goodl about myself aswell. Even when Jessica Alba would knock on your door, telling you: "Dude you look good balding I dont care" you would still feel sh*t 1 or 2 weeks later when you see your hair at his worst.

Im trying to save money for a hairtransplant. If i didnt had a babyface and/or could grow a nice viking fullbeard, I would just shave it and go on with my life. But I do depend on the hair. And I do think most guys here too so I have huge sympathy and thats why Im here because you guys understand it.


Need to sleep now. Thanks for listening!

Nice post man but I can't say I relate. I see my body as a means not as an end of my identity. Can I interact with women? Can I do sports, et cetera.

How's your workout going?

 

[scorpiolove]

The poor girl probably fell asleep during sex and broke up with the O.P. because he talks too much. Shiznit I knew I should of taken up that speed reading class when I had the chance lol. There's ten minutes of my life I'll never get back.

 

[myusernamenow]

Validation from women has never made a lasting impact on how I feel about myself when I look in the mirror. Whether it be about hair, musculature, etc. It's a very personal issue.