Girlfriend and Hairloss

[minoxidil_addict]

Right now my hair looks kind of ok but it's getting thinner and thinner every day, under a bright light it looks really bad.
Obviously I'm really depressed about it, but a few days ago my girlfriend said something that made me feel even worse; she was joking about some guy we know who's completely bald, about how shiny his head is and how she finds it really attractive (she was being cynical).
That remark made me feel really bad about my hair loss, cause she probably doesn't realize that I'm losing my hair so she didn't try to hide the way she feels about bald men.
I feel like when my hairloss will eventually become noticeable I'll be placing her in an uncomfortable situation, being a 19 years old dating a 22 years old whose losing his hair, you're not supposed to be losing you're hair at that age! you're supposed to be young and beautiful!
So basically I'm asking for advice about how to go through hairloss with a girlfriend who doesn't like bald men.

 

[uncomfortable man]

She is a c***. To sarcastically call a bald guy attractive is just a douche move on her part because the guy can't help it.... and she should realize that and show some restraint and class.

 

[minoxidil_addict]

No it wasn't like that, I apologize, it's difficult for me to write in English (not my native language)
Some bald guy from her work was hitting on her and I told her, just between me and her, that he looks really good and she should totally go for him so she laughed and said that he does look really good especially with that bald head etc.
She wasn't making fun of him IN FRONT of him, I would never date someone like that.

 

[seb]

Right now my hair looks kind of ok but it's getting thinner and thinner every day, under a bright light it looks really bad.
Obviously I'm really depressed about it, but a few days ago my girlfriend said something that made me feel even worse; she was joking about some guy we know who's completely bald, about how shiny his head is and how she finds it really attractive (she was being cynical).
That remark made me feel really bad about my hair loss, cause she probably doesn't realize that I'm losing my hair so she didn't try to hide the way she feels about bald men.
I feel like when my hairloss will eventually become noticeable I'll be placing her in an uncomfortable situation, being a 19 years old dating a 22 years old whose losing his hair, you're not supposed to be losing you're hair at that age! you're supposed to be young and beautiful!
So basically I'm asking for advice about how to go through hairloss with a girlfriend who doesn't like bald men.

Prepare yourself for the inevitable and dump her,before she dumps you.

 

[uncomfortable man]

Maybe he was asking for it by blatantly hitting on her. Sounds like you initiated the teasing yourself. Now I want you to go bald so you can know what it feels like to have people look at you like a joke. Good day.

 

[Captain Obvious]

I was in a similar situation once except I was the instigator....

Myself and my girlfriend at the time (18) were talking about a coworker we both worked with and I jokingly accused her of being attracted to him. I just remember she turned up her nose and wrinkled her face and she was like "no way, i'm not attracted to him, he's BALD".

I just remember seeing the certainty in her eyes that she wasn't attracted to the bald guy. Funny thing was I almost felt bad for the guy because my own girlfriend wasn't attracted to him! I liked the guy, he was super chill and funny and he was a good boss.

I learned that day that bald men just aren't much competition to guys with hair.

 

[Man in Space]

To be fair it does depend on the woman, some dont care, though undoubtedly plenty do. The question is, would you want a woman who was that shallow? I know I wouldnt but there are plenty on here who want precisely that kind of woman and i think that is where a lot of the trouble can creep in. When guys are shallow themselves but havent got the materials to facilitate the prejudices they have, they become trapped by their own conceit. Not accusing anyone whos posted of that btw.

 

[seb]

I dont think women should be deemed shalow just because they dont like bald men....infact can you blame them,we look embarrassing.

 

[hairlossislame]

Women are not shallow just because they don't find bald men attractive. Hell, a lot of us don't find our bald(ing) selves attractive. I want to be with a woman who finds me attractive, even if I don't find my bald head attractive.

As far as relationship advice is concerned no reason to breakup over this. If she begins showing you disinterest and doesn't find YOU attractive then you can do something about it. Preemptively breaking up doesn't make any senses. There is a lot more to a relationship then hair.

 

[seb]

"There is alot more to a relationship than hair".Obviously not in the OPs partners case,or else he wouldnt be on here stressing over a few lost strands.

 

[Man in Space]

Thats the beauty of life, we each have our own way of looking at things, no ones has the right way, there is no right way. You want to get fit women, good for you, I genuinely hope that will bring you happiness

I personally do believe it is shallow to judge people on physical attributes over which they have little control. This is just my opinion but as clint once said, opinions are like arseholes, everyones got one. It isnt worth much if anything, but i do believe it to be true to me and its part of my values that i go through life with.

To the OP honestly just roll with it, the chances are if you are losing it then she may already know, I know my exes picked up on my recession very quick. If she leaves you because of your hair then it will be nasty but provided you dont let it beat you you will move on to better things. I still think it would be a pretty poor reason to end something, I know your not but When people get married, the assumption is for better for worse, not for NW1 but not beyond NW4. Good luck whatever happens.

 

[s.a.f]

To the op - and one day in the not too distant future she'll probably be a chubby b**ch with saggy tits but are you worrying about that right now?

 

[Man in Space]

:laugh:

Haha no nonsense I like it! That was also basically my point, i just failed to make it!

 

[Man in Space]

The weight thing to me is a little different. People generally have control over that. As that artice says some people do have a propensity to weight gain but generally only accounts for a few lbs if they werent to have the genetic predisposition. Some people dont care about their weight and if they are happy then good for them but a lot of people (myself included) dont enjoy being bigger. I personally like to keep myself trim, I like to play sports and keep myself lean and I do prefer a trim woman but it hasnt stopped me having relationships with larger ladies if I enjoy their company, its no big deal

 

[Captain Obvious]

I don't know where you guys are from but I am American and the sad reality seems to be that 1 in 3 women are fat by definition and the competition for in-shape girls seems to be very aggressive and as a bald guy it's an uphill battle to say the least.

So unless you live in California or Florida where the women stay thin, you have a high chance of settling for a woman who is overweight.

 

[Man in Space]

The US does have an obesity problem. Im from UK and were catching up with you but you guys are different league

 

[Captain Obvious]

The US does have an obesity problem. Im from UK and were catching up with you but you guys are different league

Yeah, it's not fair really, all the women are fattening up and the men can't do a damn thing about it they just have to go along with it. Gotta have sex with something, you know?

 

[Ori83]

You cant change who and what you attracted to, and some thing with women... its ok not to like bald men, same as most men dont like fat chicks.

Its hard for me to even write this but.. if she doesnt like you because your bald, there is nothing you can do about it and the real b**ch is that you cant blame her too....:\

 

[HairPieceMan]

just my re-confirmation that we are fucked if we are bald.

TOTALLY FUCKED.

and if you ever see a bald guy with a female mate, we all know he's using money or they met before hairloss.

 

[s.a.f]

just my re-confirmation that we are f***ed if we are bald.

TOTALLY f***ed.

and if you ever see a bald guy with a female mate, we all know he's using money or they met before hairloss.

Yes as you KEEP on sayin .... :jackit: