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Guys Tell How Hairloss Has Affected Your Life And What Changes It Has Brought
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Lol why you even here? Go out and enjoy yourself.
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Dude you have a serious mental problem.
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Gtfo. I hope you bald quick
LastSamurai
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I'll be 30 in just over 4 months. Quite scary how time flies.
I don't even know what I want to do for it or how many friends I will invite. Anyway. I'm actually quite grateful that I still have passable hair (short sides, medium length of styling on top) at this age. It could be a lot worse. My hair starts to look shitty after say 10 days from a haircut but it's not so bad.
Anyway, I have this friend who is over six foot, long-ish dark hair, and NW1, at least from what I can see. Whenever I'm out with him, the girls make a bee-line for him. I mean they're all over him. He laps it up. I don't actually see him as that good looking from a facial genetics point of view. But girls seem to be automatically attracted to dark voluminous hair, and the height. It kind of scars me, as it made me realise how primitive women really are. They aren't interested in personality or a handsome face as much as they are in hair and height.
I've lost some momentum really with women, and I guess recent experiences witnessing my friends success for doing more or less nothing have made me somewhat bitter. Once you feel you have a physical defect (eg recession) you lose that invincible confidence aura. I don't seem emanate that same vibe as him anymore. Even though I am earning the most I have ever earnt, I'm in the most stable point of my life and I am in the best shape of my life. That isn't necessarily to say I am rich, successful or have the body of a greek God. But just that logically my life seems be going well, but ironically there are no women around.
I no longer drink much alcohol. I prefer to go to bed at normal times on the weekend and wake up at normal times to regulate my energy and mood. I use to suffer from a lot of depression and stress when I was drinking heavily on weekends and not getting enough sleep. The trade-off is that I don't get as many women.
Life ain't fair, at all. But f*** it. What are you gonna do. There is always a way forward, even if we could be theoretically in a better space.
I don't even know what I want to do for it or how many friends I will invite. Anyway. I'm actually quite grateful that I still have passable hair (short sides, medium length of styling on top) at this age. It could be a lot worse. My hair starts to look shitty after say 10 days from a haircut but it's not so bad.
Anyway, I have this friend who is over six foot, long-ish dark hair, and NW1, at least from what I can see. Whenever I'm out with him, the girls make a bee-line for him. I mean they're all over him. He laps it up. I don't actually see him as that good looking from a facial genetics point of view. But girls seem to be automatically attracted to dark voluminous hair, and the height. It kind of scars me, as it made me realise how primitive women really are. They aren't interested in personality or a handsome face as much as they are in hair and height.
I've lost some momentum really with women, and I guess recent experiences witnessing my friends success for doing more or less nothing have made me somewhat bitter. Once you feel you have a physical defect (eg recession) you lose that invincible confidence aura. I don't seem emanate that same vibe as him anymore. Even though I am earning the most I have ever earnt, I'm in the most stable point of my life and I am in the best shape of my life. That isn't necessarily to say I am rich, successful or have the body of a greek God. But just that logically my life seems be going well, but ironically there are no women around.
I no longer drink much alcohol. I prefer to go to bed at normal times on the weekend and wake up at normal times to regulate my energy and mood. I use to suffer from a lot of depression and stress when I was drinking heavily on weekends and not getting enough sleep. The trade-off is that I don't get as many women.
Life ain't fair, at all. But f*** it. What are you gonna do. There is always a way forward, even if we could be theoretically in a better space.
doubleindemnity
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This is what I am afraid of. Waking up at age 30 in incredible shape, being paid incredibly well and having all parts of your life in order but still being unable to get married and have children because of hair loss. For 2 years I've been living part of that. As I get older, I get in better shape and better financially and I'm creeping closer to that age too. I don't want it to happen to me and I am starting to think that it's better to end things before getting tjere.
LastSamurai
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To answer your question. This is gonna be juicy get ready. Wanna hear something fucked up? here's how it affected me
I've always been a shy good looking kid. I'm mixed black and white and i've been blessed with curly hair and an exotic face + a masculine frame. Because I grew up in a mostly white neighborhood, i never developped pride in growing hair to develop a unique hairstyle. I actually learned to use my hair to my advantage later in my life...at 18-19.
at 18 years old i started to learn about confidence all that self help stuff i also started to build muscle and got a near ''perfect body''.
but one thing happened when i was 18, I discovered the world/niche of lightskin people/community on instagram, where black+white mixed people with good looks are REALLY idolized and put on a pedestal. I started to adopt the hairstyle and fashion of the most desirable mixed guys.
I took me months to become a good looking mixed guy, but i knew that it was worth it because i would attract the type of exotic girls i was looking for::lightskin grils/mixed girls... aka black+white mixed girls.
When i reached age 19 i became that guy, my whole life changed for the better, i was living my dream and 100000% indentified with the new me, i beleived i was in my prime/final form.
my hair was super long and. i was rocking braids and curly man buns, I found a new me and i was so proud of my new look. I looked like a lightskin fuckboy and i loved every second of it. I know it sounds superficial but it made me walk, talk different, everynight i took pride in taking care of my hair and looking at myself in the mirrior.you cant understand how it felt good omg.... ik it sounds dumb
I was having the most validation ever and had so many exotic looking women always in my instagram dms and checking me out in my college. Those light skin girls with curly hair and blue or green eyes, you know the type im talking about.I was dating local mixed girls and foreign carabian mixed girls with caramel skin and green eyes curly blonde hair exchange students. bro i was so fkg happy and comfortable, i felt so complete.
I had everything i wanted. dated multiple women at a time and living a movie life ( from my perspective obv), making money and killing it at college because I loved life like crazy. enjoying everything even the smallest things...even the air outside felt fresher.Since i totaly embraced what i was head to toe, i appreciated and found beauty in everything around me... you know what they say:''you need to love yourself before you can love others'' ... I actually reached that level. I was living the fkg life. When success arrived, it arrive so quickly and perfectly.
and then, approx 6 months later, a friend noticed i had a bald spot and it went downhill extremely quickly from there
I started having super agressive hairloss on my crown and temples before i reached 20 years old and now i lost EVERY SINGLE THING i had, girls, mood , vibe, happiness. its a 1million feet deep depression hole that you fall in and you cant get up after, it takes ages to recover psychologically because your hair is yourself, not a random girl or what ever, its a part of your soul because it gives you self love.
youre born with that.
balding when you already tasted what is massive abundance is horrible for your mental health trust me
self love and getting the caliber of girls you want becomes a whole new challenge that seems almost impossible.
im starting to feel better tho, you cant be bitter forever it youll get bored eventually and move on.
I would hazard a guess and say that you probably are still pretty good-looking to women, especially given your mixed features. It sounds like you are going through early stages of dealing with it and given the hair has gone quite rapidly it must have mentally been quite hard.
You need some adjustment time for sure. Have you shaved your head since? What kind of state is your hair now?
When I was 18-19, just over a decade ago, I had the social life and the girls. Even though I had mild recession back then.
I don't necessarily think it's all down to hair. It's also down to life circumstances, my lifestyle, my age group and so on.
When I think about it, I could also make more chances for myself. It might be giving your number to a girl sometime, or approaching a girl you find attractive on the street. I've been trying online but I have very few good photos to be honest. I think I get more luck in real life then online.
But yeah - I also think about the previous 'glory' days when women were plentiful. But that said, what has changed? Back then I went to a couple of pubs/bars that had a lot of women around. So you're sense that you are missing out may also be to a changed social scene. Like I said, looking back now, I realise that changing my social scene, and also changing as a person means that I have access to less women.
I've been doing several hobby based things to try and meet more girls and improve my social life. It does help but it can be slow progress.
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Geralt you should listen to this guy especially after we saw your pics and know that it's not that bad and you can improve it to full head. Because when you visibly start to bald it becomes much harder in many ways.
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Bro its just that my family memebers keep pointing out that my hair are getting sh*t.Plus adding to it some of my frnds always keep commenting that My hair density is less.That is what is troubling me.A year ago I had thickest hair that could make anyone jealous.I suffered from jaundice in sept of 2017 and in december noticed a lot of hair starting to fall suddenly and easily.From jan I started fina.Now currently on duta.Will go bald in dec this year to get rid of flakes and dandruff as shampoos not doing anything for me
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That was harsh friend
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You can message me about jaundice if you need some advice or @Saurabhaj 2% nizoral is good for dandruff but this one needs a prescription.
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Are they openly doing it in a cruel way or are they pretending its a joke?
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in a cruel way
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Hairlosstalk where you get all your jaundice treatment needs too!
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Yeah it was, I was drunk and angry. I apologize to be honest. You probably won’t bald quick.That was harsh friend
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If you spend everyday on hairlosstalk, I doubt you wake up with a perfect body and a perfect career and the only problem to not get a girl is your little balding.
This Forum is laughable. Just incels circle jerking each others and Geralt the biggest case of BDD I have ever seen.
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I joined hairlosstalk March this year but was lurking around January 2018. I shaved my head around December 2017 to see if I could live my life with a shaved head and just let it go. I felt better for maybe 2-3 weeks and my girlfriend even said: "It looks good on you blah blah..." but I hated how much attractiveness I lost just because of hair. So, I decided to go the transplant route and booked an FUE procedure on June 2018 and I'm on Finasteride (yes my dick gets hard) and Minoxidil and the results now, are coming more and more and I f*****g love it. I loved this Forum because you could "vent" and also have interesting conversations but this was months ago.
Now take a look at the main page and you see 18-year-olds with a full head of hair complaining its over and they can't get a girlfriend (despite that they not even approached 1 single girl in their life) and instead of people calling them out, other incels are circle jerking them.
This Forum should be a place to vent BUT also call people out on their bullshit. What exactly is the purpose of a young guy spending years on this Forum and neither trying to shave it off, or save money for an hair transplant? f*****g wasting your life.
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Can relate to this very much. I'm also nearly 30, and all of my friends are 6'0 or taller. Obviously all fullheads, too. Our Friday/Saturday nights are basically a constant reminder of how royally shafted I got in the genetic lottery. I've tried to not let it get in the way of advancing my career & enjoying my hobbies, though.
I used to drink like no tomorrow until the taste of alcohol disgusted me. Now I just smoke & chew tobacco which is probably even worse, but whatever.
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