Hairloss Creates a Premature Deadline for Youth

[IA2015]

Didn't know how to word the heading lol. I know I always try and stay on the positive side and I know my status just now (NW2) puts me in a totally different bracket to say an Nw4/5/6/7, how it is all relative and I think still applicable. Having a bad day today, when normally I am very positive.

I've been thinking recently about hairloss in your teens and your early twenties and how it makes you feel as if you have to rush to do everything now, whilst you still look half decent before you go fully bald (if that happens).

In your early twenties the world is supposedly your oyster, you are more mature, you have more disposable income and you have experience, all of which you didn't have before. However with hairloss it drags you into reality and adulthood, in a superficial vein manner of course. You can't live carefree and time is not on your side like you thought. You are constantly worried about your hairloss and you have to plan a regimen to save the hair you have - it consumes your thoughts and time daily. You are constantly questioning your ability to attract nice looking woman, you wonder if you'll be able to get an attractive wife, you are nervous about how you are perceived, the way you'll look and how you'll end up in 10/20 years. Having to intricately style your hair to give the illsuion of NW1 or a fullhead/fashionable head of hair is tiring too.

I'm not saying it is easier if you are in your 30s and 40s, 50s and above. I don't know, I am not of that age yet. I can only imagine much of it is the same. However at least some balding or even balding is a bit more accepted by your peers - it isn't unusual at those ages.

Anyone agree?

 

[I.D WALKER]

Mature and honest perspective. I agree I think it is harder when you're young maybe because we are still bathing in the glorious invincibility of our youth. It's been called the vanity of youth, but it's more than that. To have our symbol of identify and pride stolen away suddenly in the earliest season of our prime is the perfect opening segue to an overlooked or undermined human tragedy. No male pattern baldness is not necessarily easier for older individuals I just think our priorities (not our threshold of acceptance) cannot help but change because the list of values/needs expand simultaneously as our lifespan naturally(for the luckier ones maybe) grows shorter.

 

[GoldenMane]

Spot on. I'm in my prime, but don't feel like it. Can't dissociate male pattern baldness and old age. Like it or not, we all have a sell by date. Some people believe men remain attractive for longer than women, we don't have a menopause or anything like that. But male pattern baldness is worse than that.

I know I can still get good looking girls. I don't know if I'll have my NW2 hairline in 10 years. I've had the same thoughts. What if I'm bald in 10 years? What if I'm ugly? Should I try to find a girl now and get married in the next few years before my looks go down the ****ter? Or will I be about the same in 10 years if I stay on the meds? Will better treatments be available?

When you look around and see men in their 40s and 50s with more hair, it makes you feel like you're aging badly. Nobody wants to age badly, it's not attractive and doesn't bode well for our romantic and personal prospects.

 

[IA2015]

I'm not going to multi-quote, I hate the mess it create and looks silly. However I agree with all of you. Agree I.D. - its a feeling of being cheated, far too early in life aswell.

Well done aswell Zircon.

I hope I haven't been too negative for anyone feeling up - I'm usually always positive on here, infact I received a few red marks early on because of it. It's just gotten me down recently. Its not all about looks aswell, it's the sense of self and something you cherished. I really cherish my hair, it defined me. I always had cool styled hair in school, in amongst mediocrity. It was a unique selling point for myself, people talked about my wild spikey hair, I had a few styles before everyone else! Infact during my teenage years I think many of the girls I dated digged me because of the hair. It was always a talking point.

Agree with you GoldenMane - the uncertainty is a killer and not knowing what to do aggrieves me. Don't judge but I don't think I have sewn my wild oats. As much as I love my girlfriend and as much as I find her attractive, part of me believes should I stay? I'm in panick mode, I feel as if I have to go out now whilst I can still attract nice looking woman and have as much sex as possible before I'm washed up.

Horrible outlook I know. I'm not a bad guy really.

 

[Saurabhaj]

There is nothing to worry about hairloss if you had hair in front that gives a decent look in pic.Not many girls will even think of receding hairline if it's their.
My case is worst of worst,NW6 at 28..but i think i should concentrate on career now.When i came here 1 month back,i was too heartbroked but human nature is too strong.All miseries will eventually fades away,even baddest heartbrake or baddest rejection from the girl whom u love will fade away,but not the career if you lose,it will not come again.

 

[lkm370]

When I realized I was going bald at 22, I went on a mad dash to get laid but ironically, knowing the fact that I'm balding just depressed me too much to get laid. Besides that Ive aged pretty poorly on top of the baldness. I remember being 22 and 23 and working in a grocerry store with teen girls who were 16, 17, 18 and I would always hear about how young I would look for someone 22 or 23 (when I was rockin that thick juvenile hairline). I cant remember the last time I heard that or got called attractive for that mater

 

[Wolf Pack]

Highly depressing thread.

 

[Illu2ion]

I agree with you OP, I feel like I have to do a lot in the next few years while I still have decent hair. I'm just starting to go to university which is supposed to be the most awesome time of your life, still I feel like it's going to suck because of my stupid genes.

I might start looking into the med route (anti depressants, I'm on enough hair loss meds already lol) to ease my mind a bit more. I tried therapy (CBT) in the past but it feels like you're trying to get water out of a sinking ship because of the progressive character of male pattern baldness.

 

[8_ball]

You're right OP, I'm 24 year old and I'm a norwood 5/6, when people try to guess my age they say that I must be in my 30s. Then is when you realize that you aren't young anymore. You have to deal like you said with adulthood early and I think that young people, I'm talking about people in their 20s, are more judgamental about other people looks. Some people of my age simply don't understand that you can suffer from hair loss when you are very young, they think that only old men lose their hair.

 

[I.D WALKER]

I suppose even in the most mundane places, when peaceful times in society become as reliable as sunup. Atop the sacrificial remains and rough twisting framework of our antecedents, the bent bully side of humankind grows more restless and bored. To fill an unsightly hole, first requires a great amount of digging and as it goes whilst in the bloodless toil of a craven sunset, humankind resumes it's heavy dependence on brute force and brute force tactics to assert/reassert it's quiescent position of power. Violence (passive/active) by far remains primarily the cheapest, most convenient natural resource dispensable to civilized human. Without provocation he/she will pounce upon anyone with even a hint of inferiority in an effort to affect a commanding presence before all and until the beloved and begrudged war drought creeping across this tough and dry land finally burns itself out.

I feel like I'm chasing my tail with my last hair transplant and my future procedures.

It eases the pain for sure, but you still don't feel completely normal, as in feeling the same as the other NW1 young men around you.

It's all about getting the best band-aids while we wait for better treatments. Maintaining the illusion of hair, youth, and ultimately success.

As it was explained in the study posted by zircon in another thread, bald men absolutely do have the worst traits always associated to them.

You could be almost perfect in every area of life, but even then, people would look at your shinny or wispy balding head and think "That guy can't be all that."

It hurts that you're automatically seen as a loser just because you have no hair. While if you're a NW1, handsome and you are actually a loser, people will automatically think you're successful.

 

[Saurabhaj]

U are overloading my Area 44 of brain(part of brain for comprehension.)

 

[I.D WALKER]

LOL Not to worry Saurabhaj, My terrestrial parents once informed me how portions of my own brain were recovered in this southwestern area of the continental U.S.

U are overloading my Area 44 of brain(part of brain for comprehension.)

 

[Dench57]

The post so perfectly sums up my feelings in the last few months, it's depressing. I know everyday my hair is just getting worse and I need to make the most of it while I can, I'm fast approaching the "point of no return" where I can't hide my hairloss anymore. Wish I could enjoy what I have now and not think about the future but the 24/7 scalp pain/itching is just a constant reminder that I'm rapidly losing so I can't even enjoy the present.

 

[isishearmyplea]

The post so perfectly sums up my feelings in the last few months, it's depressing. I know everyday my hair is just getting worse and I need to make the most of it while I can, I'm fast approaching the "point of no return" where I can't hide my hairloss anymore. Wish I could enjoy what I have now and not think about the future but the 24/7 scalp pain/itching is just a constant reminder that I'm rapidly losing so I can't even enjoy the present.

Best regimen ever. Good luck

 

[Agustin Araujo]

I suppose even in the most mundane places, when peaceful times in society become as reliable as sunup. Atop the sacrificial remains and rough twisting framework of our antecedents, the bent bully side of humankind grows more restless and bored. To fill an unsightly hole, first requires a great amount of digging and as it goes whilst in the bloodless toil of a craven sunset, humankind resumes it's heavy dependence on brute force and brute force tactics to assert/reassert it's quiescent position of power. Violence (passive/active) by far remains primarily the cheapest, most convenient natural resource dispensable to civilized human. Without provocation he/she will pounce upon anyone with even a hint of inferiority in an effort to affect a commanding presence before the beloved and begrudged war drought creeping across this tough and dry land finally burns itself out.

Yes, indeed I.D WALKER.

Something bright and exciting can always come up in the least interesting events and places, at least from what one could have expected. When humanity attempts to perfect things that cannot be perfected to our potential abilities especially from previous past experiences, that is when dissatisfaction occurs. Certain things which are ugly can turn into something gorgeous, except something like hair loss of course. I sincerely believe that if humanity is to work continuously with science and persisted with improving lives instead of building weapons used to destroy lives, we would have definitely advanced as a species much further. Disrespect with one another without provocation is an adamant problem that has always existed, it's something every human experiences throughout their lives.

 

[jnestor481]

I suppose even in the most mundane places, when peaceful times in society become as reliable as sunup. Atop the sacrificial remains and rough twisting framework of our antecedents, the bent bully side of humankind grows more restless and bored. To fill an unsightly hole, first requires a great amount of digging and as it goes whilst in the bloodless toil of a craven sunset, humankind resumes it's heavy dependence on brute force and brute force tactics to assert/reassert it's quiescent position of power. Violence (passive/active) by far remains primarily the cheapest, most convenient natural resource dispensable to civilized human. Without provocation he/she will pounce upon anyone with even a hint of inferiority in an effort to affect a commanding presence before all and until the beloved and begrudged war drought creeping across this tough and dry land finally burns itself out.

Wow never knew that hair loss forums could get so deep. Did you take writing classes WALKER ? Nice prose.

It's human nature to seize on any advantages you have over someone and compare yourself to them. Even if you really like them and don't wish to think ill of them, it still creeps into your head.

 

[Wolf Pack]

I've told ID Walker to keep on writing this way if possible as it's beautiful. Plus my English writing skills are deteriorating due to being away from creative writing for decades. I miss writing these type of essays and ID Walker helps with that! Oh and I was no where near as good but enjoyed reading

This thread is actually very painful. Man.

 

[Illu2ion]

This thread is actually very painful. Man.

Being on hair loss forums in general is.

 

[Wolf Pack]

Being on hair loss forums in general is.

Maybe because I have been on here a certain amount of time. But in particular, I find this thread more painful to read.

 

[Agustin Araujo]

Wolf Pack, I think one of the reasons why you and some on here find this thread so depressing is because non of us on here ever realized how incredibly important hair is for youthful looks until it started falling out. Not only is hair important for looks, hair also serves biological purposes. Hair helps to protect the scalp from UV rays and other possible foreign substances that aren't good for us. Scalp hair helps to keep heat in the body in cold weather and also helps to provide shade for the head when the sun is out and hot. Head hair serves multiple other functions which your body needs, including to attract the opposite gender, which is obviously quite important and can never be overlooked.

So much for "It's just hair!" coming from those with zero alopecia, and give zero care towards the suffer of hair loss. As I've stated on here before, it's far too easy for someone with a mop of hair on their head to say to someone who's thinning to just get over it.