hairloss observation, online dating.

[The Fluke]

i've been single for a while, past the bar stage (33 years old) so i decided to give it a try.

so i found a site, wrote an honest, down to earth profile, posted a recent picture and got plenty of contacts.

the problem is, i've had a few situations now where i've hit it off with some chick online/on the phone and they are all keen to hook up in the flesh, but when we actually get together i just sense an instant vibe change. now because it tends to be apparent right away, i'm left to conclude its a physical reaction, so am i to assume my receding hairline has anthing to do with it?

i've never considered myself over sensitve about my hairline, i've always kind of accepted it. i've known my whole life that it would happen, every male on both sides of the family is bald. and i've noticed it receding ever since i was 14. its still not that bad though, its going extremely slowly, right now i'd say i'm a norwood 3.

however this whole online dating thing has been a bit of an eye opener for me, and i guess its time to do something about it. i'm curious though has anyone else had a similar sitation to this? maybe i'm just imagining it. how big of a deal is a receding hairline to most women?

 

[Redbone]

The dating seen is a superficial as it gets, but are you sure? It could be paranoia. Maybe you are nervous about meeting someone new and they sense that. Ask someone close to you preferably a girl if it is an issue with your looks. If it is then you need to work into things with a girl, maybe someone you see at the office or gym. Someone you see everyday that you can plant some seeds with. They will get to know your personality and be more leniant with you.

Either that or hit the lottery, girls would f*** Herman Munster if he was loaded. I saw a 55yr old bald dude pick up a 35yr old hot blonde in a pub tonight. I couldn't understand why $$$.

 

[unicron73]

A bit perplexing, most statistics show that one wont get many responses without an online picture...do you have one posted? is it not true to you?.

** edit ** whoops, just noticed that you did say you have a pic..is it not true or too complimenting maybe?

on the other hand, chicks like dicks (not dick, I mean pricks)..so just sucker punch them with the question of "what you arent attracted to me, who dirty little wh*** that needs to use online dating, where most girls can just get a guy at thier beckon call you dumb biatch"


then they will either tell you the truth, OR fall madly in love with you becuase they like to be treated like dirt.

you may not want to be as blunt as above :freaked:

 

[Cal Que Later]

If you don't have a picture posted on the website then I would say that is why you are not hitting things off in person. If you do then maybe you are too tall/short or fat/skinny for them, there is also the reality that you are never the same while you are on the internet chatting as you would be in person. I have found that you can say things on the internet that you would never say in person so that might be the problem.

 

[xXx]

Dude I have met people thru online and the feeling is always the same, u have totally different image of the person in ur head and when u actually meet them, most of the time they are not what u expected, It's not that whether she is pretty or not, it's just that u expected something else and ur experincing totally different thing and that will definitely cause loss of vibe <wink>

 

[The Fluke]

i know most everyone that does the online dating thing, puts up their best pic. i've gone on dates and expecting a girl to look like her pic, but in reality she didnt!

i specifically choose an average pic, i think i'm a fairly good looking dude, i think i look better in real life then pictures anyway, i've never been very "photogenic".

i dont think its a personality or self confidence thing, its just a feeling i pick up of some girls, right when we meet. i'm not saying all the girls are like this, i've had to blow some out myself. it just seems to be the ones i'm interested in!

 

[alwaysno1]

not to state the obvious but just ask them, i mean if the ones you like dont get in touch or dont show such an obvious interest, just talk to them on the phone or icq em or whatever you use and just say, like i know were not going to go back on another date but what didnt you like about my personality or appearance, just say your on a selfdiscovery mission or somesuch, 99.9% of the time these ppl will show an interest, i reguly do this with my family friends & gfs, just to see some of my negative qualitys that i aint picking up on.

 

[Ams99]

Wouldn't they see your hairline when they see a pic of you? If the women are in their 30, I'm sure they don't mind all that much. Hell, the gene pool is going towards male pattern baldness anyway, so by then a lot of men have already started to lose their hair. I think it might be in your mind.

 

[unicron73]

alwaysno1 - screw that.....lay it down right there on the line in front of them in person.....screw that lolli-gagging phone and ICQ...that is what got us online dating in the first place....

like I said, they are either gonna slap you or fall in love with you because you are a prick..

AND ironically, getting slapped is cool, and having some girl fall in love with you is somwhat anti-climatic...

so in theory (taking out the emotions and feminine hormones flowing through our veins) what we are striving for isnt what we really want....

granted I am a prick, with countless bad relationships, but nonetheless...
we all got no hair and need to get laid...although xXx's avitar did the trick for me today! hell yeah