honestly how do you accept you're ugly and unlikely to experience a relationship?

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I just find it so hard to accept

. I've played the looksmaxing game (without plastic surgery) I even took it that far i started injecting melanotan (a tanning drug) and was considering steroids but i started getting moles and got scared of cancer so stopped.

I'm an ugly short male.

I did have a girlfriend once, a few years ago. But to put in context i was unemployed at the time and literally spent 90% of time time looksxmaxxing. Eating perfect diet. Being super shredded to the core. Tanning etc etc. I made sure to make sure most dates were at night time (to hide my thinning hair) and other tricks - such as never taking off my shoes (to maintain my height). But isn't that messed up? -literally doing all thes ethings to try and maintain attraction. Eventually my mask slipped i could tell over time she realised i wasn't as attractive and in fact ugly. She left me /cheated on me with mutiple guys and left like i was a piece of trash destroying me for years.

Anyway how do you accept you're an ugly male? why is it so hard? there msut be a way to be happy about being ugly and knowing women dont give a f*** about you and you'll nevver have a real relationship?
 
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You are asking a very difficult question. The majority of people are unhappy and can not accept their position. Somewhere in the world there is a person whose life contains everything that you and I believe would guarantee happiness, but he is just as miserable as you.

You're unlikely to be able to fly because you are not a bird or winged animal.
You will likely not be able to run 100m in under 10 seconds because you weren't built for it and didn't start running at a young enough age.
You're unlikely to ever own a huge plush mansion in Hollywood.
So on until "you're unlikely to experience a relationship because..."

That's how I would try to accept it. Put it into perspective alongside the other things that you won't achieve.
 
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doubleindemnity said:
You are asking a very difficult question. The majority of people are unhappy and can not accept their position. Somewhere in the world there is a person whose life contains everything that you and I believe would guarantee happiness, but he is just as miserable as you.

You're unlikely to be able to fly because you are not a bird or winged animal.
You will likely not be able to run 100m in under 10 seconds because you weren't built for it and didn't start running at a young enough age.
You're unlikely to ever own a huge plush mansion in Hollywood.
So on until "you're unlikely to experience a relationship because..."

That's how I would try to accept it. Put it into perspective alongside the other things that you won't achieve.
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thanks man just so hard to accept but theres no thoer option
 
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RandyGoldens said:
Well, this is of course a debatable question. Medical procedures are also different. The state program of diabetes treatment is one thing, and cosmetic procedures are another. While they are important too, this is a personal concern. For example, facial fat transfer is not the most necessary operation, but if you have money, no one will mind. And so that the money still remains after this, it will not be superfluous to study the bookimed ranking based on reviews. In general, the issue requires discussion.
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Feelsbadman said:
I just find it so hard to accept

. I've played the looksmaxing game (without plastic surgery) I even took it that far i started injecting melanotan (a tanning drug) and was considering steroids but i started getting moles and got scared of cancer so stopped.

I'm an ugly short male.

I did have a girlfriend once, a few years ago. But to put in context i was unemployed at the time and literally spent 90% of time time looksxmaxxing. Eating perfect diet. Being super shredded to the core. Tanning etc etc. I made sure to make sure most dates were at night time (to hide my thinning hair) and other tricks - such as never taking off my shoes (to maintain my height). But isn't that messed up? -literally doing all thes ethings to try and maintain attraction. Eventually my mask slipped i could tell over time she realised i wasn't as attractive and in fact ugly. She left me /cheated on me with mutiple guys and left like i was a piece of trash destroying me for years.

Anyway how do you accept you're an ugly male? why is it so hard? there msut be a way to be happy about being ugly and knowing women dont give a f*** about you and you'll nevver have a real relationship?
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Feelsbadman said:
I just find it so hard to accept

. I've played the looksmaxing game (without plastic surgery) I even took it that far i started injecting melanotan (a tanning drug) and was considering steroids but i started getting moles and got scared of cancer so stopped.

I'm an ugly short male.

I did have a girlfriend once, a few years ago. But to put in context i was unemployed at the time and literally spent 90% of time time looksxmaxxing. Eating perfect diet. Being super shredded to the core. Tanning etc etc. I made sure to make sure most dates were at night time (to hide my thinning hair) and other tricks - such as never taking off my shoes (to maintain my height). But isn't that messed up? -literally doing all thes ethings to try and maintain attraction. Eventually my mask slipped i could tell over time she realised i wasn't as attractive and in fact ugly. She left me /cheated on me with mutiple guys and left like i was a piece of trash destroying me for years.

Anyway how do you accept you're an ugly male? why is it so hard? there msut be a way to be happy about being ugly and knowing women dont give a f*** about you and you'll nevver have a real relationship?
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I have the opposite problem . I'm sexy as f**** but I have suffered with depression, anxiety / social anxiety and even agoraphobia at one point (2 years house bound). I have enough female attention to share to every man on this forum but my mental issues have destroyed my confidence, especially when it comes to women.

My advice to you is that you are who you are and you should be proud to be the person that you are . Just make sure you stay in shape , dress sharp, grow a bit of facial hair and most importantly to just do the things that you enjoy doing and enjoy your life and I'm sure eventually the right woman will come into your life .
 
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@Bazza86

haha, you sound fairly confident to me ; )
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A lot of people think I am but it's an act just to make it through each day in one piece mate. To look at me you would not think I had these issues but that's why depression and anxiety goes unnoticed until the person takes their life (I never would !).

Looks can be deceiving !!
 

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Bazza86 said:
I have the opposite problem . I'm sexy as f**** but I have suffered with depression, anxiety / social anxiety and even agoraphobia at one point (2 years house bound). I have enough female attention to share to every man on this forum but my mental issues have destroyed my confidence, especially when it comes to women.

My advice to you is that you are who you are and you should be proud to be the person that you are . Just make sure you stay in shape , dress sharp, grow a bit of facial hair and most importantly to just do the things that you enjoy doing and enjoy your life and I'm sure eventually the right woman will come into your life .
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Whaaaaaat why were you 2 years house bound?
 
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Wow I feel you guys and I have to Share with you guys what I've learned.

I've had similar experiences within myself and I took a great introspective self forgiveness on obsessive sabotaging thoughts writing course. It was very changing and self empowering and correcting. I discovered that my overpowering depression-emotions was being created by my obsessive addictive depressive thoughts that I was participating in and powering.
With daily writing done over time, I was able to get to the point of slowing down my obsessive thoughts and then actually removing them by no longer powering them. The writing also grounded me more in reality and my body and showed connections to other things such as my past.
Our obsessive thoughts resonates and stores and locks in our body's water and the writing spoken outlaid to ourselves, helps reverse the thought resonants.

I was able to see and realize some key points to all this attraction stuff as well through the course and writings.

Such as we are bombarded with love songs and movies and magazines. Which dictates to us, what body types are attractive.
If we look through history we find times when different types were considered very attractive.
I'll tell you, I was at a club once chasing someone who I found very attractive and when I caught up with them, they were having sex with someone I would never. I fully realized that everyone has their likes and dislikes. Looks become less important as we age as well.
When we are kids, we are complete by ourselves. We are not looking to marry and fill this insecurity.
I remember when I was a kid, I looked at my dried up old ugly grandparents and saw these wonderful magnificent beings.
Yet when we become adults, our obsessive fearful thinking starts where we warp our view of reality.
A great deal if our true reality is that we are these living breathing bodies. People in poor countries do no worry and obsess so much about their looks. They can't, they have to survive and deal with reality. They see beyond that, deeper than that, into the eyes, into the smiles.
A good friend of mine who is not considered very attractive, met and married a very nice lady who is from the phillipines. She found David very attractive.

Also I read a great article and found it very empowering to stop watching adult dirty movies, stop undressing people with my eyes and imagination, stop judging people so much on their external looks. Because it made me very horny and very shallow and nasty really. It kept me from seeing a person on the inside where the real beauty can be found in anyone and everyone and real connections can be made.

Convince us that we are incomplete by ourselves. This is Not true. The course taught me to love myself, be complete by myself. And now I'm not so concerned with being in a relationship or having casual meaningless sex. Now I enjoy my alone time yet I enjoy other people as well. We were never taught to love ourselves. Instead our relatives ask us who we are dating etc...
To hug ourselves, to enjoy our alone time. To treat ourselves to our favorite movie etc and food etc and laugh with ourselves, express ourselves. The course taught that it is impossible to not fall in love with ourselves. With this stability and completeness within ourselves, we can attract others who see it in us, to have a relationship. And if the relationship falls apart later, we have that standing within us to maintain us because we realize that we were always complete by ourselves.

Our addiction to obsessive thoughts is often the cause of many picking up addictions to substances to try to suppress the thoughts which then only come back worse than before.
There are also tie ins to our hair loss, through our addictive internal thinking. Hair loss right above our minds, interesting isn't that?

Here's a site that has some great interviews on many different subjects you may find helpful: www.eqafe.com

I hope this helpsTake care of yourself
 
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usually gym guys keep their hair short
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Nope. Since I started going to thw gym (about 5 months) Ive been to 4 different gyms.
The only people with head shaved were the bald ones (aka you can see their dogshit hairline).
Most gym guys get a nice hairstyle, because since u have muscles, why not improve yourself more with a pretty face?
 
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