uncomfortable man said:
I realize that the sting I feel whenever anyone looks at me funny or insults me because of my baldness is really my own bruised ego. My ego is why I get offended. My ego is why I take everything personally. So how does one go about separating themselves from their own ego so that they cease to care anymore what anyone thinks about the way they look?
Funny thing, it's something you said to me a year or two ago that really helped me do this myself.
What I've found is that it's not something you can one day turn off like a switch, and also we all have days where we are stronger than others (just like we'll have days where we're most sensitive).
There are several aspects to this, and you'll find that almost all of the worlds successful people have similar behaviours, some learned, and done naturally.
Two things in particular though are quite important:
1. Learn to separate the kinds of people who matter to you from those whose opinions you could just throw in the trash or even just use as ego fodder.
2. Work on having a clear image of how you would like to present yourself to the world, and each day try to promote those things about yourself; your "brand" is very important.
A lot of the above is something I used to do accidentally while I was pretending to be a "blokey bloke", now it's something I do through training from my deportment school. You might be surprised at how many celebrities be exactly the same thing; several of them go to the same finishing school that I do
This may sound like the kind of stuff that a life-style coach will tell you, but (sadly) quite a lot of what they say has an element of truth to it.
If you're up to it, I'm happy to chat with you on Skype or something. There is more to it than I can really type here, but I *swear* it's possible.
