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Hi guys,
first of all I know this is not a dating advice site, but as a fellow balding guy I feel the same psychological depressions as you do..
Let's make this more generic and about 30+ yo guys who are single or newly single, as I am. Most guys in my age group are probably out of the dating game for some time, and getting back into it feels difficult.
This is generally how I think it should be done, please make corrections/suggestions/additions.
1. Being desperate is never good: So, take your time, don't rush into it as it won't generally work.
2. Be confident: I'm a strong believer in body language, presence, etc.
3. Expand your circle of friends: we need to somehow meet those girls.
4. Socialise: someone will eventually cross your path and things will happen. That's how I've always done it...
5. Don't be scared of rejection: what's there to lose. Go and talk to her, if she doesn't like you, you'll get the message...
6. I don't think I need to say this.... Don't go back to your ex or ex's, forget about them.
Is it working for me??? It's too soon to tell.. It's been 2-3 month since I officially broke it off with my ex, so I've been taking my time and trying not to come across as desperate. So, I keep telling myself to be patient.
In the last week or two it's started paying off. I've been in couple situations where I've got extremely strong messages of interest, but they weren't my type. I usually don't care if they are my type, I'd still try to bang them if they are easy enough. Unfortunately, in both cases the situation wasn't suitable for a short term relationship, so I just didn't show any interest in return. At least it gives me the confidence that the odds of meeting someone new are decent :whistle:
Here is another situation... What do we do if we fancy someone in particular who doesn't pay attention to us.. I don't have the solution to that one yet. I'm still working on it :whistle: I hear there is something called facebook :smack: (my ex doesn't even have a FB account).. it's just that from what I've seen from my younger friends it looks like the amount of messages a girl gets from boys trying to get into her pants is crazy... The odds of impressing a girl through facebook aren't good :sobbing:
I guess what I need to re-learn is how to chase a girl. (I tried with someone today, and I suggested that I could help her with something.. If she gets back to me on that one, I might have a shot.. I presume she won't take it literally and expect me to help her with her work)
first of all I know this is not a dating advice site, but as a fellow balding guy I feel the same psychological depressions as you do..
Let's make this more generic and about 30+ yo guys who are single or newly single, as I am. Most guys in my age group are probably out of the dating game for some time, and getting back into it feels difficult.
This is generally how I think it should be done, please make corrections/suggestions/additions.
1. Being desperate is never good: So, take your time, don't rush into it as it won't generally work.
2. Be confident: I'm a strong believer in body language, presence, etc.
3. Expand your circle of friends: we need to somehow meet those girls.
4. Socialise: someone will eventually cross your path and things will happen. That's how I've always done it...
5. Don't be scared of rejection: what's there to lose. Go and talk to her, if she doesn't like you, you'll get the message...
6. I don't think I need to say this.... Don't go back to your ex or ex's, forget about them.
Is it working for me??? It's too soon to tell.. It's been 2-3 month since I officially broke it off with my ex, so I've been taking my time and trying not to come across as desperate. So, I keep telling myself to be patient.
In the last week or two it's started paying off. I've been in couple situations where I've got extremely strong messages of interest, but they weren't my type. I usually don't care if they are my type, I'd still try to bang them if they are easy enough. Unfortunately, in both cases the situation wasn't suitable for a short term relationship, so I just didn't show any interest in return. At least it gives me the confidence that the odds of meeting someone new are decent :whistle:
Here is another situation... What do we do if we fancy someone in particular who doesn't pay attention to us.. I don't have the solution to that one yet. I'm still working on it :whistle: I hear there is something called facebook :smack: (my ex doesn't even have a FB account).. it's just that from what I've seen from my younger friends it looks like the amount of messages a girl gets from boys trying to get into her pants is crazy... The odds of impressing a girl through facebook aren't good :sobbing:
I guess what I need to re-learn is how to chase a girl. (I tried with someone today, and I suggested that I could help her with something.. If she gets back to me on that one, I might have a shot.. I presume she won't take it literally and expect me to help her with her work)
