How to get motivation again

[LewisHamilton]

Since succumbing to hair loss how the hell do you get motivation to get up every morning and put a shift in. If you wake up look in the mirror and respect and admire what you see and know that you're getting up at 6am every morning to provide for your wife and kids or whatever then I get that. If you have a full head of hair your whole life you just wake up and go no anxiety no stress when looking in the mirror getting ready must be so nice. But when you now despise what nature has done for you, realise that quite possibly you don't have the same future you thought you would how are you supposed to get the energy to scratch and claw your way up on the career ladder? Just having hair loss to me is a full time job and I don't mean applying all the multiple treatments you need I mean the stress and energy it takes out of you it definitely feels like a full time job. Then theres the respect factor its a lot harder for both men and women to respect you if you look like a prematurely balding loser. I know business is cutthroat and looks are important, and I have seen a difference to how people talk to you when your receding , you stop becoming a member of a conversation and become a joker- someone people can laugh at and get some comic relief. You're made to feel like an outsider .

I mean it used to be so easy when I was 18-19 looking to the future with hope and enthusiasm it was easy to work a 9-5, but these days I'm more worried about how my hair is doing . I have to check weather forecasts to make sure its 'hair friendly as I don't wanna be caught out in a massive rain storm with gale force winds. I gotta apply all these greasy wet topicals everyday even thought they might be doing **** all wake up put in minoxidil, apply hair fibres so I can look like a member of society again not an extra terrestrial go to work, come home immediately (no social life) to wash out the fibres so I can apply more topicals, have a shower and then at the end of the day realise that is this **** worth it? I mean it just feels like I'm hanging in there when I have no opportunity to enjoy life right now. Whats even worse is I know months years down the line its going to be even more painful and harder, so hope is gone for the future

Of course there's things you wanna do in life like progress up the career ladder , ask out the girl that you like and do all the things that everyone takes for granted in life but how do you accomplish these things when your motivation for living and being successful is in the toilet, your confidence has been obliterated by your fivehead. The depression this causes is unreal , I'm so lost on how to deal with this ****.

 

[swingline747]

Wish any of us had the real answer, could say something humorous here or poke some fun at the confidence line, but its all been said before.
I honestly got nothing for you friend.

 

[xetudor]

It's only going to get worse if you let things consume you. That's not to say it isn't perfectly natural to get depressed over this ****. You have to accept you will never going to have your teenage hair again. Now it's all about damage control. Hair transplants can work great. A lot of celebrities wouldn't look nearly as good without them. Don't think everyone is perfect and is living it easy.


There are celebrities living with the same problems as you, some even wearing hair system and people worship them. Life's hard, we just have to make the best of it. You shouldn't let others decide for your hapiness.


You work for yourself, to do the things you want to do. Hair is imporant for your identity but you have to work for money. I never found work to be easy, I am working for over 4 years, it doesn't get any better. Maybe I'm just a very lazy person.

 

[blackg]

Sorry for your situation, my friend. You really brang up some very relevant points.

How to keep up the energy?? I can totally relate.

 

[marco75]

Since succumbing to hair loss how the hell do you get motivation to get up every morning and put a shift in. If you wake up look in the mirror and respect and admire what you see and know that you're getting up at 6am every morning to provide for your wife and kids or whatever then I get that. If you have a full head of hair your whole life you just wake up and go no anxiety no stress when looking in the mirror getting ready must be so nice. But when you now despise what nature has done for you, realise that quite possibly you don't have the same future you thought you would how are you supposed to get the energy to scratch and claw your way up on the career ladder? Just having hair loss to me is a full time job and I don't mean applying all the multiple treatments you need I mean the stress and energy it takes out of you it definitely feels like a full time job. Then theres the respect factor its a lot harder for both men and women to respect you if you look like a prematurely balding loser. I know business is cutthroat and looks are important, and I have seen a difference to how people talk to you when your receding , you stop becoming a member of a conversation and become a joker- someone people can laugh at and get some comic relief. You're made to feel like an outsider .

I mean it used to be so easy when I was 18-19 looking to the future with hope and enthusiasm it was easy to work a 9-5, but these days I'm more worried about how my hair is doing . I have to check weather forecasts to make sure its 'hair friendly as I don't wanna be caught out in a massive rain storm with gale force winds. I gotta apply all these greasy wet topicals everyday even thought they might be doing **** all wake up put in minoxidil, apply hair fibres so I can look like a member of society again not an extra terrestrial go to work, come home immediately (no social life) to wash out the fibres so I can apply more topicals, have a shower and then at the end of the day realise that is this **** worth it? I mean it just feels like I'm hanging in there when I have no opportunity to enjoy life right now. Whats even worse is I know months years down the line its going to be even more painful and harder, so hope is gone for the future

Of course there's things you wanna do in life like progress up the career ladder , ask out the girl that you like and do all the things that everyone takes for granted in life but how do you accomplish these things when your motivation for living and being successful is in the toilet, your confidence has been obliterated by your fivehead. The depression this causes is unreal , I'm so lost on how to deal with this ****.

Have you tried buzzcut and growing good stubble? If it looks good on you then do that and just forget about it and be confident and happy and sociable. You will achieve more in life this way than moping in self pity. There are thousands of bald CEO's, loads of bald guys banging hot women, if they can do it you can. It's all in the mind, people with worse situations are confident and happy you need to man up!

 

[swingline747]

Have you tried buzzcut and growing good stubble? If it looks good on you then do that and just forget about it and be confident and happy and sociable. You will achieve more in life this way than moping in self pity. There are thousands of bald CEO's, loads of bald guys banging hot women, if they can do it you can.

Please lets stop with the bald CEO thing. The chances of breaking mediocrity and becoming the CEO millionaire of a global corporation is about a GILLION to one.
You have to have connections, super brains, ZERO interest in social lives and women and love screwing people over.
Its like the old "oh look at Bruce WIllis" line people love to spurt.

Best advice is get out, get a job, find something you like doing, reduce your expectations in a mate and dont hope for too much (last one is slightly a joke)

I would agree with marco as to maybe try shaving it once. If you like it great, if you dislike it grow it back. If you dislike it but it does look good start treatments and grow it back so maybe youll be surprised when it does.
We do live in a digital age, so finding ANYONE should not be a problem, but your not going to be beating them off with a stick, thats if you were before.
I mean other things to consider are your height, weight, physique, income, etc etc.

 

[marco75]

Please lets stop with the bald CEO thing. The chances of breaking mediocrity and becoming the CEO millionaire of a global corporation is about a GILLION to one.
You have to have connections, super brains, ZERO interest in social lives and women and love screwing people over.
Its like the old "oh look at Bruce WIllis" line people love to spurt.

Best advice is get out, get a job, find something you like doing, reduce your expectations in a mate and dont hope for too much (last one is slightly a joke)

I would agree with marco as to maybe try shaving it once. If you like it great, if you dislike it grow it back. If you dislike it but it does look good start treatments and grow it back so maybe youll be surprised when it does.
We do live in a digital age, so finding ANYONE should not be a problem, but your not going to be beating them off with a stick, thats if you were before.
I mean other things to consider are your height, weight, physique, income, etc etc.

Im not saying he will be a CEO, I mean baldness doesn't hinder in anyway a career unless its related to looks, i.e. model, actor maybe sales.

 

[swingline747]

Im not saying he will be a CEO, I mean baldness doesn't hinder in anyway a career unless its related to looks, i.e. model, actor maybe sales.

This I actually disagree with. Look can be a deciding factor on a LOT of stuff. I have gotten jobs in the past over others due to looks. My GF works HR and says in most cases pretty people get hired. There have actually been studies about this.
She says theres an expression in they use a lot. Who gets the nut? The rat or the squirrel? A pretty fuzzy tail makes a big difference. Hell she is where she is because in her younger years she was GORGEOUS. Ive told this story before. Attractive people just generally have better luck when properly used. My brother is pretty much full retard, yet manages to always skate through on life, its because he still has genuinely good looks.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blo...bout-why-beautiful-people-are-more-successful

"So we are left with the first two explanations, which imply that more attractive people are, on average, wealthier and have higher-paying jobs (if your company buys you a F/B class ticket when you travel for work, chances are you have a high-paying job) than less attractive people. This happens to be a well-known fact that has been reported by dozens of studies done by economists and psychologists. Many of these studies are summarized and discussed in the 2011 book Beauty Pays: Why Attractive People Are More Successful, written by Daniel Hamermesh, an economist at the University of Texas in Austin."

Now as for CEOs yes of COURSE they want skills and credentials because you are handling billions of dollars and managing global companies. You rarely see them unless you need to. They want know how not pretty faces but if 2 guys with the same credentials and one is george castanza and the other clooney, who do YOU think they will hire?

I mean youth and hard work is to prepare you somewhat for this but in the end it really only counts when you get HIGH up there, which few of us will today. This is not the world of the 80s/90s throw money out the window economy.
If you want to do blue collar work, IE construction, plumbing, electrical etc etc, looks prob dont matter as much either since you will be considered a grunt to the rest of the world, nevermind you will be probably making 6 figs. Doesnt matter the world today will view you as a dirty, ugly blue collar slouch.
Remember most average jobs will train you, so unless you are a REAL BUMBLEFUK, if you're pretty to look at you are probably good to go. Our entire engineering dept literally went from like 2 bleck (bleck NOT black, its not a typo) women and all men to ALL hot women after the men left. As soon as one was hired it was like the flood gates opened. I call it the cheer leaders club now. My friend up there says the meetings are a lot of hair twirling now.
I feel bad for the two women left over cause next to these girls they looks like the guys who left lol.

 

[CaptainForehead]

A related link: http://www.dougsrepublic.com/20091114-hlth-baldbeautiful.php

 

[Saurabhaj]

I really appreciate this link,felt like i am not reading but feeling it...its 100% correct.