How to get over missed opportunities? Haunted by the past

[Feelsbadman]

When I peaked looks wise before my hair loss I managed to get a gf I could of had all this amazing crazy sex with her because she had issues herself, but I was too inexperienced, immature and unsure of myself. I blew a once in a life time opportunity and it still haunts me because a few years later my hair has gotten worse, im on finasteride which has lowered my drive and i know i'll never be able to re experience that chance again (peak looks + androgens + sex).
I've been trying to replace what I had with her for years but I'm starting to reach the conclusion it's not going to happen. I try not to think about it and I thank god that i've seemed to forgotten the memories (as i'd rather not remember than remember what i had and lost).
It still haunts me though
How do I get over it?

 

[Feelsbadman]

@Oknow any advice?

 

[DoctorHouse]

@Oknow any advice?

You can wallow in regret which I do sometimes when I have nothing better to do or set goals to not repeat past mistakes. You have three choices, live in the past, the present, or the future.

 

[Feelsbadman]

You can wallow in regret which I do sometimes when I have nothing better to do or set goals to not repeat past mistakes. You have three choices, live in the past, the present, or the future.

Thanks but I genuinely believe this opportunity won't happen again even if i set myself goals
it really hurts even after years.

 

[DoctorHouse]

Thanks but I genuinely believe this opportunity won't happen again even if i set myself goals
it really hurts even after years.

Then why do you keep asking? You realize there is no solution to your problem except one. And honestly for the sake of your parents, I don't think it's the best solution.

 

[Feelsbadman]

Then why do you keep asking? You realize there is no solution to your problem except one. And honestly for the sake of your parents, I don't think it's the best solution.

I just can't live in this pain any longer everyday i'm not sure if i can keep doing this

 

[disfiguredyoungman]

You have three choices, live in the past, the present, or the future.

This is the stuff basic anglo women slapp on their living room walls, right next to the 'live love life' sheit

 

[b4sedt0ny]

Nothing can make up for missing out on formative experiences such as teen love.

 

[Oknow]

@Oknow any advice?

So I recently was in a dating drought in August

Lot’s of matches going nowhere, to struggling to get a match. Saw more friends on social media posting photos of them married up. Also I was depressed, and frustrated like you, comparing myself to others. I started reminiscing about my f*** ups and how I should have worked harder to maintain my relationship with my ex gf.

I persisted, fast forward a few weeks, I have a date lined up and a couple of women wanting to go on a date with me.

I also shifted my mindset onto other activities to help me cope - friends, meditation and gym.

What you are experiencing is completely normal, you just need to accept these feelings and let it pass. Then focus on the present and creating new opportunities and taking them as they come. New opportunities will come by eventually.

You also need to let go of the past , whatever happened then was not meant to be that was why it ended. God did you a favour with your ex.

 

[Oknow]

You can wallow in regret which I do sometimes when I have nothing better to do or set goals to not repeat past mistakes. You have three choices, live in the past, the present, or the future.

one day he will meet someone , and then he will realise that all of his anxiety over women was for nothing.

I bet he meets someone when he least expects it, I’ve always found with dating the more you want a GF/Sex it never happens but when you care less, and start to have a groove going women pop out from nowhere.

 

[Feelsbadman]

So I recently was in a dating drought in August

Lot’s of matches going nowhere, to struggling to get a match. Saw more friends on social media posting photos of them married up. Also I was depressed, and frustrated like you, comparing myself to others. I started reminiscing about my f*** ups and how I should have worked harder to maintain my relationship with my ex gf.

I persisted, fast forward a few weeks, I have a date lined up and a couple of women wanting to go on a date with me.

I also shifted my mindset onto other activities to help me cope - friends, meditation and gym.

What you are experiencing is completely normal, you just need to accept these feelings and let it pass. Then focus on the present and creating new opportunities and taking them as they come. New opportunities will come by eventually.

You also need to let go of the past , whatever happened then was not meant to be that was why it ended. God did you a favour with your ex.

Thanks brother