How to not be depressed about your genetics?

[Feelsbadman]

How can you not be sad about it?
If you were born with the physical traits that are not desirable for women?

I've 'looksmaxed' and realised how important looks are. Although it got me laid and even a relationship, it made me realise how superficial the world was and dating is. I was overall, a better person at heart when I was uglier. When I looksmaxed I became incredibly narcissistic, and self absorbed. It wasn't until i had a relationship with someone like this that I realised I had become a bad person inside from focussing on looksmaxing so much

But my genetics are horrible looksmaxing is very mentally taxing. I've just accepted defeat now. I'll never be someone a women want a relationship with or want to be with. just got to accept that.

 

[INT]

Therapy

 

[INT]

Also, there is not a single soul on this forum who does not know your story yet so no need to keep on describing it in every OP

 

[Feelsbadman]

Also, there is not a single soul on this forum who does not know your story yet so no need to keep on describing it in every OP

ive already seen a therapist

 

[INT]

ive already seen a therapist

And the reason why you quit was because she did not ‘understand modern day’ dating. That shows that you went for the wrong reasons.

 

[Feelsbadman]

And the reason why you quit was because she did not ‘understand modern day’ dating. That shows that you went for the wrong reasons.

What do you mean?
It's hard because they literally told me to go on dating websites..

 

[INT]

What do you mean?
It's hard because they literally told me to go on dating websites..

You think that your genetics and lack of pussy are 100% of your problem. But there is a lot more that brings you suffering than just that. Your thinking patterns, how you view yourself and others, maybe there are attachment issues, maybe there are some things that happened in the past. I don’t know.

You are just focused on just one thing and since you are not able to change that and look for solutions in the wrong places, nothing changes.

 

[Feelsbadman]

You think that your genetics and lack of pussy are 100% of your problem. But there is a lot more that brings you suffering than just that. Your thinking patterns, how you view yourself and others, maybe there are attachment issues, maybe there are some things that happened in the past. I don’t know.

You are just focused on just one thing and since you are not able to change that and look for solutions in the wrong places, nothing changes.

But no amount of "loving yourself' or being "confident" or "self acceptance" will work?

 

[INT]

But no amount of "loving yourself' or being "confident" or "self acceptance" will work?

Where did I say that?

 

[Feelsbadman]

Where did I say that?

you didn't but that's what the only options are

 

[INT]

you didn't but that's what the only options are

No.

 

[DoctorHouse]

But no amount of "loving yourself' or being "confident" or "self acceptance" will work?

For you maybe not, but most people who make the effort it might. I asked you this before and I will ask you again, do you believe someone on here has the solution for you? You keep asking but you never seem to listen. I know somebody else on here who is like that. And they know who they are.

 

[Feelsbadman]

For you maybe not, but most people who make the effort it might. I asked you this before and I will ask you again, do you believe someone on here has the solution for you? You keep asking but you never seem to listen. I know somebody else on here who is like that. And they know who they are.

Im not sure guess im just trying to find some route to happiness

 

[Timii]

I'm gonna be honest, "being depressed over one's poor genetics" sounds like narcissism. But yeah, it's hard to be 100% mentally strong/healthy these days

 

[spring15]

Sounds like your life revolves around being attracted to by the opposite sex. Try focus on other things?

 

[Feelsbadman]

I'm gonna be honest, "being depressed over one's poor genetics" sounds like narcissism. But yeah, it's hard to be 100% mentally strong/healthy these days

Yes i have bad narcissistic tendenccies but its because im insecure.

 

[Feelsbadman]

Sounds like your life revolves around being attracted to by the opposite sex. Try focus on other things?

it's not people have said that
but i mean , like if yo have aj ob, and friends, and workout and do things, how do yu not get depressed being a ghost to women? how do u not focus on that?

 

[INT]

Yes i have bad narcissistic tendenccies but its because im insecure.

Finally some honest introspection. First step towards improvement.

 

[Feelsbadman]

Finally some honest introspection. First step towards improvement.

I'm incredibly narcissistic i realised, it wasn't until i had a relationship with a mirror of myself i realised how awful i am im trying to change now, become a better persn with strong morals but i'm still heaivly attached to my looks, appearance and the red pill/dating aand all that (because i was like this for years and years)

 

[Feelsbadman]

I have found that no one cares (women) don't care of yur morals if yuare good looking thats all that matters
so now im confused