I give up on life

[superfrankie]

I have shaved my head for more than one year now. Its taken LOTS of energy (have developed serious obessive syndrome cause of it) but its been necesarry due to my 22 y old NW5 f*****g development. BUT I cant even do that anymore since I cut myself really bad two weeks ago with the fuckign headblade and now it appears that its going to leave some very fucked up scars on the back of my head (its very red even though the hair is still there). So now I cant shave anymore which has been quite of a lifeline for me. Now I will have to let it grow and imagine being 22 y old, having a NW5 and look like a professor.

I see no reason to live on now. The reason I have wanted to live on before this is that I have been optimistic that one day my suffering will go away so I can live my life as it should be lived(incl. attracting girls) Now I cant see that. I just see permanent misery and hopelessness in the future. If I wasnt such a coward, I would end my life right now!

 

[Nene]

I have shaved my head for more than one year now. Its taken LOTS of energy (have developed serious obessive syndrome cause of it) but its been necesarry due to my 22 y old NW5 f****ing development. BUT I cant even do that anymore since I cut myself really bad two weeks ago with the fuckign headblade and now it appears that its going to leave some very f***ed up scars on the back of my head (its very red even though the hair is still there). So now I cant shave anymore which has been quite of a lifeline for me. Now I will have to let it grow and imagine being 22 y old, having a NW5 and look like a professor.

I see no reason to live on now. The reason I have wanted to live on before this is that I have been optimistic that one day my suffering will go away so I can live my life as it should be lived(incl. attracting girls) Now I cant see that. I just see permanent misery and hopelessness in the future. If I wasnt such a coward, I would end my life right now!

Can you buzz your hair until the cut heals?

 

[superfrankie]

The problem is that if its going to be a scar, scar tissue will form which in turn will stop hair from growing in that area. If its still red after two weeks things arent looking good.

 

[Nene]

The problem is that if its going to be a scar, scar tissue will form which in turn will stop hair from growing in that area. If its still red after two weeks things arent looking good.

Hmmm. I wouldn't stress too much bro. I'm sure it'll heal. If not I'm sure you can see a dermatologist to help reduce the visibility, maybe even FUE into the scar, but honestly I doubt it'll be noticeable! How bad can a cut from a shaving blade be?

 

[dirtyHairy]

Have been hanging around this forum a while now, but had to register to reply to your post. Sorry about my bad english.

Don't give up man ! You need to go see a psychologist or atleast talk your situation throu with someone you trust. Loosing your hair is really not that bad, you need to get a bigger perspectieve on things.

I have been balding since I was 19, but still have had a great life I am now 37. I was probably NW5 your age too, still had girls a wife and children.

It will probably limit your range of girls, but the girls that look at your hair and not your person are not girls that you want to spend any of your valuable life on anyway!

I totally understand your frustration, but get someone to talk too, and don't let it bring yourself down.

Why am I lurking these forums then when I don't have a problem you might ask. Well I would like to bring my hair back, not that I really need it but more for the fun of it. A Norwood 7 can be reversed I am sure. Actually I made a lot of progress the last 3 months.

 

[superfrankie]

The problem is that if its going to be a scar, scar tissue will form which in turn will stop hair from growing in that area. If its still red after two weeks things arent looking good.

Hmmm. I wouldn't stress too much bro. I'm sure it'll heal. If not I'm sure you can see a dermatologist to help reduce the visibility, maybe even FUE into the scar, but honestly I doubt it'll be noticeable! How bad can a cut from a shaving blade be?

It f*****g sucks now cause its visible as hell. If it was just a minor cut it would have been healed in a couple of days. Now, though the redness is still there and shows no signs of improving. It will probably take a year or more for it to go away.

I still have hair growth on the cuts though. Its a good sign, but maybe these hair will go away as the cut will heal into a scar. Or maybe if it was a serious scar, the hairs would already be gone. :dunno:

 

[cuebald]

It would have to be a centimetre deep to affect the follicles mate.

 

[toocoolforhair]

The scars might make you like a tough SOB who fears nobody.

 

[uncomfortable man]

When you are as young and as bald as SF then it can feel like the whole world is on your shoulders and any little thing can send you over the edge. My primary concern with the cut is that you treat it properly to avoid infection. If you shave with a blade then a scar that sticks out like a bump can be a problem, hmm. Don't they have some sort of liquid skin or something like that to heal such wounds? Try getting in touch with a dermatologist SF, and try to postpone your initial hopelessness until you get informed as to all your options.

 

[Fender89]

Man, i have the deepest respect for you.

People who don't have hairloss have NO IDEA how much impact this can cause. Before i was losing my hair, i would look at someoe balding and think nothing of it. I mean, i guess that's good in itself. The fact if i didn't notice or make remarks, perhaps the vast majority who don't have it themselves don't say anything. But now that i have it, i understand truely how distraught someone can feel due to to losing their hair.

keep fighting my balding brother.

 

[superfrankie]

When you are as young and as bald as SF then it can feel like the whole world is on your shoulders and any little thing can send you over the edge. My primary concern with the cut is that you treat it properly to avoid infection. If you shave with a blade then a scar that sticks out like a bump can be a problem, hmm. Don't they have some sort of liquid skin or something like that to heal such wounds? Try getting in touch with a dermatologist SF, and try to postpone your initial hopelessness until you get informed as to all your options.

I take 4 grams of MSM (methyl...something) internally and externally aswell as 99% pure aloe vera gel. What I hope for is that this can help the body to heal the cut and replace it with normal skin, instead of scar tissue.

 

[superfrankie]

Man, i have the deepest respect for you.

People who don't have hairloss have NO IDEA how much impact this can cause. Before i was losing my hair, i would look at someoe balding and think nothing of it. I mean, i guess that's good in itself. The fact if i didn't notice or make remarks, perhaps the vast majority who don't have it themselves don't say anything. But now that i have it, i understand truely how distraught someone can feel due to to losing their hair.

keep fighting my balding brother.

I dont recognize myself in the mirror anymore. Its not me. This is someone else! Its like the old "me" has died and that I have been reborn in a 42 y old body. I just cant believe what Im seeing. Very often I feel like Ive lost touch with reality, since I from time to time think Im just having a bad nightmare which I soon will wake up from.

I feel like a sub human, an alien. A stranger to the human race. I dont feel welcomed. Someone people turn their heads at. I feel forgotten. I feel lost. I feel I have no rights in a world where everyone is judging me even before I get the chance to open my mouth.

Im glad I have my bald NW5 older brother who can understand me. He is the only guy irl who can relate. If it wasnt for him I would have stopped fighting a long time ago.

Ive been seeing psychologists and taking medicin, with no results. That even made it worse since I couldnt take that some randoom 40 something guy with hair on his head who has had a normal youth whitout even having to worry about things like this, was trying to make me feel better. It just felt so f*****g pathetic.

 

[wesleyBelgium]

are you on any hairmeds ?
there things that could have stopped you male pattern baldness
i was also norwood 5 , 2 years ago , now i will be hardly a norwood 2...

i think its best to contact a psychiator , he can talk with you how to take another look into your depression about your hair , sinds its not the most important thing in your life ...
also there meds that could boost your mentally high up , but i would keep it with the light version , not the big stuff that you could be hooked on the rest of your life...

good luck... and chin up

 

[s.a.f]

Lets see this cut - surely it cant be that bad? Its not like you've had a massive hair transplant with a 10" strip scar and still have to shave it which is the position some guys are in.

 

[Boondock]

All I can offer is one of my favourite quotes, which I always remind myself when I'm feeling really rough. From Mr Winston Churchill:

"When you're going through hell, keep going."

 

[qball01]

superfrankie...I don't see this latest development as that big a deal...first, try looking into any creams or lotions that minimize the appearance of scars/redness. If all else fails, you can still shave your head, people aren't going to be focusing on one spot on your head...

maybe try using a set of clippers instead of the razor until you notice any improvement with the scar...but either way, don't let this latest thing get you so down man...I remember reading that post from you recently about that hot girl who didn't give a damn about your hairloss and was really into you....you've shown that life doesn't have to suck and that you can create your own success....its hard though, I know that too man...I let hairloss get me down a lot, mainly because of the age factor. It feels unfair...but there are also moments I realize it really doesn't f*****g matter in the grand scheme of things. I'm not a different person...I don't feel less intelligent to others (in fact I think I'm smarter...deeper thinker than a lot of my peers and hairloss has been one of the factors that has forced me to mature)...I'm no better OR WORSE than others...I'm just different, and in this day and age...I don't see different as being a bad thing. If you've got the guts to take it then standing out from the crowd can be a bonus. Nobody is making you feel sub-human. Despite all the negatives that can come with hairloss, there isn't a crowd of people pointing and laughing trying to make you feel like you don't belong....the key is not to act in that way....act like you belong, and to the people that are actually worth any substance in this world...you will belong.

Either way...just don't let a stupid little red scar get you down man...I hope it heals ASAP though.