I keep on being matched with the same women from apps

[Oknow]

Of which many of them ghosted me first time round

I then message them again, they ghost me again.

is this some kind of joke or what?

to put into context, these are women I’ve matched with again after years. Why are they still single?

 

[Feelsbadman]

theres a reason why these women are on dating apps
i see women i matched with at 22 still there years later.
no one wants them and theyre addicted to the carasoul

 

[Oknow]

theres a reason why these women are on dating apps
i see women i matched with at 22 still there years later.
no one wants them and theyre addicted to the carasoul

LOL

yeah it’s f*****g mental

They have unrealistic standards?

 

[Feelsbadman]

LOL

yeah it’s f*****g mental

They have unrealistic standards?

yea but they are also usually very trashy
but yea doesnt make sense
imagine all the dates and sex theyve had and not a single man has said i want to make you my long term gf.
lol!

 

[Oknow]

yea but they are also usually very trashy
but yea doesnt make sense
imagine all the dates and sex theyve had and not a single man has said i want to make you my long term gf.
lol!

find the ones I’m seeing again were ultra picky , rejected me on the grounds of lack of chemistry ...makes you wonder how many they rejected on the same grounds

 

[doubleindemnity]

I used to have the same thing but now I am repeatedly seeing and liking the same people. How does this happen, you ask? If I swipe like on somebody they will have my profile at the very back of their swiping queue because my profile's attractiveness score is so low. So they never see my profile and a week later the app finds me a pool of people who have not seen my profile yet and it includes the people that I have seen before.

Long winded way of saying that NW6 guys basically get shut out of the apps by being bald and having a profile with low attractiveness. Another kind of speculative argument is that the app gives each person an attractiveness score and, since it aims not to maximise people's matches but successful relationships, tries to match people together with comparable attractiveness. A bald guy will have attractiveness score so low that there is nobody with comparatively low attractiveness to be shown his profile.

Getting back to your point, obviously somebody who has used these things for years will raise some red flags. But maybe that applies to you too.

 

[Oknow]

I used to have the same thing but now I am repeatedly seeing and liking the same people. How does this happen, you ask? If I swipe like on somebody they will have my profile at the very back of their swiping queue because my profile's attractiveness score is so low. So they never see my profile and a week later the app finds me a pool of people who have not seen my profile yet and it includes the people that I have seen before.

Long winded way of saying that NW6 guys basically get shut out of the apps by being bald and having a profile with low attractiveness. Another kind of speculative argument is that the app gives each person an attractiveness score and, since it aims not to maximise people's matches but successful relationships, tries to match people together with comparable attractiveness. A bald guy will have attractiveness score so low that there is nobody with comparatively low attractiveness to be shown his profile.

Getting back to your point, obviously somebody who has used these things for years will raise some red flags. But maybe that applies to you too.

it’s generally harder for guys to get into a relationship

if you are an attractive woman, no reason why you should be single after many years

totally jars the hell out of me how women rematch only to ghost

 

[Butterbean Head]

Just this minute come back(from another town) from a date.

Just rejoined POF where a specimen from another land texted. Only took two nights for her to arrange a meeting and give me her number.

Nothing came out it. I'm sure she felt the same way.

A couple of drinks, a burger and a nice converse.

The clocks ticking.........................

 

[Feelsbadman]

it’s generally harder for guys to get into a relationship

if you are an attractive woman, no reason why you should be single after many years

totally jars the hell out of me how women rematch only to ghost

usually those women hVe high standards probably hooked up or banged a chad for a while now wont settle for less

 

[vondoom]

LOL

yeah it’s f*****g mental

They have unrealistic standards?

well he is not completely wrong...
either they dont manage to get someone, or they do and after two weeks they go back on tinder... and that is most likely because the dudes who go on a date with them decide to cut it off again...
some say if that happens they got some issues that makes them no good partners...
combine that with high expectations from the womens side and you get some permanent tinder user...

 

[doubleindemnity]

it’s generally harder for guys to get into a relationship

if you are an attractive woman, no reason why you should be single after many years

totally jars the hell out of me how women rematch only to ghost

Remember that the older somebody gets and the longer they stay on the app, the higher their standards get. But to maximize their opportunities, they would need to lower their standards over time. That explains it.

I also think that our society is too hung up on looks and the ideal person rather than the ideal relationship. It seems to me that in some countries people get married because it's the expectation and end up quite satisfied. What I think is happening is that in some cultures, people may not be looks matched but they are matched in their commitment to have a successful relationship and raise children in a particular way. Commitment rather than infatuation or even feelings are the foundation of the relationship. I think that in a society like ours where dating is simply an exercise in looks matching, stuff like that won't happen because people won't go on more dates to see how the relationship might go if the infatuation isn't there. And of course people will go on hundreds of first dates and not be satisfied because they were looking for the wrong thing... Just my opinion. I'm a bald guy and I know that my opinion doesn't matter. I just saw the fight between Oleksandr Usyk and Anthony Joshua and it seemed like Oleksandr's "dating life" with a single wife and two children who he loves is much more satisfactory than that of Anthony, who I believe has multiple children with multiple ladies, and no wife.

 

[Feelsbadman]

well he is not completely wrong...
either they dont manage to get someone, or they do and after two weeks they go back on tinder... and that is most likely because the dudes who go on a date with them decide to cut it off again...
some say if that happens they got some issues that makes them no good partners...
combine that with high expectations from the womens side and you get some permanent tinder user...

this

 

[Oknow]

Remember that the older somebody gets and the longer they stay on the app, the higher their standards get. But to maximize their opportunities, they would need to lower their standards over time. That explains it.

I also think that our society is too hung up on looks and the ideal person rather than the ideal relationship. It seems to me that in some countries people get married because it's the expectation and end up quite satisfied. What I think is happening is that in some cultures, people may not be looks matched but they are matched in their commitment to have a successful relationship and raise children in a particular way. Commitment rather than infatuation or even feelings are the foundation of the relationship. I think that in a society like ours where dating is simply an exercise in looks matching, stuff like that won't happen because people won't go on more dates to see how the relationship might go if the infatuation isn't there. And of course people will go on hundreds of first dates and not be satisfied because they were looking for the wrong thing... Just my opinion. I'm a bald guy and I know that my opinion doesn't matter. I just saw the fight between Oleksandr Usyk and Anthony Joshua and it seemed like Oleksandr's "dating life" with a single wife and two children who he loves is much more satisfactory than that of Anthony, who I believe has multiple children with multiple ladies, and no wife.

I don’t get it tbh

I keep on rematching , same women, I have updated profile pictures , so my appearance can’t be the problem

people will say it’s me but they ghost right away some of them

like wtf

 

[Feelsbadman]

I don’t get it tbh

I keep on rematching , same women, I have updated profile pictures , so my appearance can’t be the problem

people will say it’s me but they ghost right away some of them

like wtf

i get that too
theres this one girl ive matxhed on and off with over 3 years LMFAO

 

[Oknow]

i get that too
theres this one girl ive matxhed on and off with over 3 years LMFAO

does she ghost you when it happens

 

[Feelsbadman]

does she ghost you when it happens

yes we talk then they stop respomding then match again a year later haha

 

[Oknow]

yes we talk then they stop respomding then match again a year later haha

Idiots
Do you call them out on it

 

[doubleindemnity]

I don’t get it tbh

I keep on rematching , same women, I have updated profile pictures , so my appearance can’t be the problem

people will say it’s me but they ghost right away some of them

like wtf

They matched with you based on photo but then out of all their matches they assessed that your photos weren't strong enough. And the same thing repeatedly. Like picking up a few different cereals at the grocery store and only going home with one. Maybe your old reliable NW2 is being outcompeted by some NW1 guys!? Just joking. It could be that your opening message is ineffective too. But if you can actually get matches then it means that your profile is not dead. I think that for a NW1 or NW2 this is the time - when COVID 19 restrictions feel like they have just recently eased - to put in the hours and go out approaching.

 

[doubleindemnity]

Idiots
Do you call them out on it

Here we go again. The first thing is that we must consider if @Feelsbadman messed up with his messaging. Only after excluding that can we entertain the possibility of their idiocy.

And he's bald.... they probably exchange some messages before checking out his photos then take a look and realize that they made a mistake with their positive swipe. It has happened to me before.

 

[Oknow]

They matched with you based on photo but then out of all their matches they assessed that your photos weren't strong enough. And the same thing repeatedly. Like picking up a few different cereals at the grocery store and only going home with one. Maybe your old reliable NW2 is being outcompeted by some NW1 guys!? Just joking. It could be that your opening message is ineffective too. But if you can actually get matches then it means that your profile is not dead. I think that for a NW1 or NW2 this is the time - when COVID 19 restrictions feel like they have just recently eased - to put in the hours and go out approaching.

doesn’t make sense

rematching over again if not sure about them looks wise is stupidity