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[Ori83]

For the very first time in my life i dont give a f*** about how my head looks like... the last few weeks i noticed that although im still here (bad habits are hard to kick), when looking at the mirror i didnt noticed my hair, or lack of.

it could be a passing phase, but since i cant remember myself with a hair line, i got used to the idea of a "balding Ori".... maybe due to age (closing on 29 soon) maybe because i get good response from women (and not bad looking ones too)... no idea :dunno: for the first time since i was 18-19 i feel pritty good about how i look, i really afraid its a passing phase. yet i've noticed how much i missed during the years obsessing about it, and now... when i have all this "spare time" on my hands, i feel free to do almost everything. i know im being/sounding over-optimistic about it almost to a point of apologizing, but honestly...it feels great.. even if its just a passing phase....

i wonder if thats how people with a full head of hair feel all the time :dunno: (either-way.. f*** 'em! )

 

[ghg]

Don't even remember how it felt to be comfortable in my own skin... guess I've never been but hairloss sunk me to bottom. It's been 6 years of hell and still counting. Wish I could adapt your mindset. Age hasn't helped, I'm closing on 30...

 

[Beingbaldsucks]

i guess that when your tall and grown up and not 20 who just started his life (and in the army have to see people in your age all the time and cant even hide in his home)

then your situation is better,cuz when people grow up to this age of late 20 and starting thier 30' balding is less big of a deal for them. they used to see it. girls too.

problem is. if your short like me. you dont have the mainly apperence that can somehow save yourself. so you have to be at least enough buffed to not look like a cancer kid.

 

[Ori83]

I can honestly tell you right now, the problem is not the hair loss by itself, its the combination of hair-loss and a despondent attitude which is deadly for you. (with girls, socially, career-wise etc etc).
balding head is a given! *nothing you can do to change it* you can only change how you react to it!!! dont get me wrong, i still think its crippling to a big extant, and every time i see a young hair-loss sufferer, i feel like crying inside - its not fair, its sh*t! and no one deserves going throw this!
BUT you can choose how you deal with it!

(an extreme example incoming there are some cancer patients who still going on with their lives like nothing happened, its obvious that the live in a world of hell every passing minute, yet they chose to deal with it in an healthy way, same goes for people who got HIV, who got crippled etc etc..... imo balding sucks just as much, but once you understand that there is nothing you can do to fight it youll feel great relief and hopefully acceptance (to some degree) ... i know - its just words coming from a guy on a random forum, but its the truth... its sucks just as much as YOU *let* it suck.....

cheers.
thats all i had to say !

 

[maradona]

I go through that phase sometimes and lasts one day bc next I dream of the girl i am in love with then wake up and look myself in the mirror, the phase is over :sobbing:

Or something that reminds that of it....

But I agree it feels good like when you weren't balding and worrying about hair loss.

I don't think some of us here are supposed to be dealing with this bullshit like ghg.

It's unfair we got lots of other sh*t to worry about.

 

[Zeroman]

dont know that feeling at all

u ever stopped and just thought about it tho? 100% put ur effort into visualizing what it wud be like to have a full head of hair again, touching it, combing it, styling it, not a slave to rogaine and propecia, holy . . . . such a deep despairing thing to think about

its terrible beyond words

 

[uncomfortable man]

Coming from me, I know this sounds surreal but I think Ori is onto something with his OP. It's like the old adage says, grant me the wisdom to know the difference between what I can change and what cannot be changed- paraphrasing there, but it's true. Part of what makes hair loss so damned tough to handle is the memory of having hair and not being able to let go of that self expectation. Hell is discontentment and the above post is just the kind of thought process that will only make your minute to minute existence unbearable (I should know). I wish I was more like you Ori... your outlook is so much more healthy than my own.

It's super easy to let yourself become defeated by hairloss (I know I have) but we must rise to the challenge to make the sum of our parts greater than it's deficiencies.

 

[Beingbaldsucks]

I had a full head of hair just 2 weeks ago after 3 months on minoxidil and revivogen, before my state was terrible, Norwood 4 or 5, during the time I had the full hair I was stressed as he'll, afraid of losing it, sew hair falling, the minoxidil caused it to be oily, after I really grew a nice amount of hair it was hard to put the minoxidil, I sew many hairs falling so I buzzed it to 3 at first, after a week I sew my hair shed terribly, according to some info I sew it's a normal cycle, but I couldn't stand it so I shaved it all, all the hair that grow in the tamples fell and I back to be the Norwood 5 weirdo, I know it will grow again in 3 months, but I know thats a fake that's not really the feel of full hair guys, they can sleep good at night, us not, once you trying to buzz what you gained from rogaine it just fell like it's not really connected, its all fake bullshit, you need to be depended on whatever it's finasteride or rogaine for all your life, it's not really a cure, that's more like a pain killer. My life are miserable then ever now cuz I had 2 months of full hair, girls I met people I met now see me as a freak.

 

[uncomfortable man]

the Norwood 5 weirdo

I resent that remark. People look at me and treat me like a weirdo solely based on my appearance as a result of hairloss and it is the krux of my existence. It is image profiling plain and simple. IOW, there is more to being a weirdo than the way you look. It has to do with mental and behavioral issues but because I don't look normal to them they just infer that I am some maniac. I am not a maniac! I am not a wierdo! I am a hard working, loving father who is trying to support his family like any other NORMAL f*****g PERSON!!! There are some truly normal looking people out there who are f*****g bats, but everyone doesn't assume sh*t because they blend in. Meanwhile people accuse me of being a chronic masturbating, self-mutilating pedophile looser creep because apparently I FIT THE PROFILE!!

f*** THEM AND f*** YOU!!!!!