doubleindemnity
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I was on a few dates recently and tried to delve into the kind of men that the woman whom I was dating had dated in the past. They were all bankers, lawyers, doctors etc. And they all invariably had hair. So I came to the realization that a bald guy, no matter how well he does in his career, with his personality etc., doesn't realistically have a chance. If she is slim then she is surely going to be able to date a man who has everything going for him, just like the bald guy, but also has hair. You may think that "there aren't enough NW1 guys to go round" but that doesn't seem to be the case at all because most women will, perhaps begrudgingly, tolerate polyamory. It hit me during one of these dates that even being a top 2% earner would not be enough. A bald guy would have to be at least a half millionaire if he wants to careercel or statuscel his way to a marriage.
I've had so many dates in which the woman seemed a bit uncomfortable at first (because I look intimidating with my shaved head) but eventually warmed to me and had long, interesting conversations with me about her passions and interests. Well, they never led anywhere and now I know why. Without hair, I just can not compete. She can find the same exact guy with hair who is willing to date her. Make no mistake about that.
I'm steadily accepting my position. There are standards out there. A man must have hair or, if not, must be at least a half millionaire. A guy who does not live up to those standards does not deserve love. I've invented that but there is definitely a standard like that in force. Maybe that's how it is and none of us really deserve love. Maybe accepting this is the way forward, rather than trying to fight it.
Before the economic crises, every young professional could expect to buy his or her own apartment after a few years in his or her job. Now, that's no longer the case. You really need to be in the top 5% of earners to buy in some regions. In fact, in some regions, that could be the top 1.5%. The point is that buying your own home is now, in some countries, a luxury and not a thing that everybody does. My view is that this is exactly the same with men and marriage. There was a time during which almost all men who wanted to marry a woman could do so. But, today, standards (like prices) have changed and getting married is a luxury, not something that a man can expect in return for having a good career. The sooner that we accept this and the fact that we bald guys simply fall short of the standards, the sooner we will stop complaining. Acceptance is the best medicine.
I've had so many dates in which the woman seemed a bit uncomfortable at first (because I look intimidating with my shaved head) but eventually warmed to me and had long, interesting conversations with me about her passions and interests. Well, they never led anywhere and now I know why. Without hair, I just can not compete. She can find the same exact guy with hair who is willing to date her. Make no mistake about that.
I'm steadily accepting my position. There are standards out there. A man must have hair or, if not, must be at least a half millionaire. A guy who does not live up to those standards does not deserve love. I've invented that but there is definitely a standard like that in force. Maybe that's how it is and none of us really deserve love. Maybe accepting this is the way forward, rather than trying to fight it.
Before the economic crises, every young professional could expect to buy his or her own apartment after a few years in his or her job. Now, that's no longer the case. You really need to be in the top 5% of earners to buy in some regions. In fact, in some regions, that could be the top 1.5%. The point is that buying your own home is now, in some countries, a luxury and not a thing that everybody does. My view is that this is exactly the same with men and marriage. There was a time during which almost all men who wanted to marry a woman could do so. But, today, standards (like prices) have changed and getting married is a luxury, not something that a man can expect in return for having a good career. The sooner that we accept this and the fact that we bald guys simply fall short of the standards, the sooner we will stop complaining. Acceptance is the best medicine.
