I'm struggling with life fellas how to continue?

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I made so many mistakes in my early 20's and i'm paying the price. I'm in my late 20's and just struggling to get up each day.

My job is crap. I should/could have a good career but made mistakes in my early 20's. I'm stuck earning average income in a dead end customer service job where I get abused all day. I've been applying for other roles but no luck thus far and my motivation is bad.

The only relationship I ever had in my life was with a mentally ill almost deranged women who ended up cheating on me with multiple guys. I haven't been on a date or even had proper sex for a long time (without paying for it). I'm on dating apps and trying but no luck

My hair and looks are deteriorating despite finasteride and going to the gym.

My friends are getting married and getting more distant.

I just don't see the point anymore, i know im having a whinge but i am trying I guess i need to try harder? what more can I do?
 
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Feelsbadman said:
I made so many mistakes in my early 20's and i'm paying the price. I'm in my late 20's and just struggling to get up each day.

My job is crap. I should/could have a good career but made mistakes in my early 20's. I'm stuck earning average income in a dead end customer service job where I get abused all day. I've been applying for other roles but no luck thus far and my motivation is bad.

The only relationship I ever had in my life was with a mentally ill almost deranged women who ended up cheating on me with multiple guys. I haven't been on a date or even had proper sex for a long time (without paying for it). I'm on dating apps and trying but no luck

My hair and looks are deteriorating despite finasteride and going to the gym.

My friends are getting married and getting more distant.

I just don't see the point anymore, i know im having a whinge but i am trying I guess i need to try harder? what more can I do?
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Bro you got this! Think of where you want to be in 5 years. Your hair is out of your control but your confidence and motivation isn’t! Get yourself in a routine and be 1% better every day. So many people don’t realize how much time they still have. Your life is up to you man and I believe in you to make the change you want. Start with doing what you love and the happiness will follow. Yeah life is down sometimes but what is down always comes back up and remember that. Get into hobbies, read, work on yourself (the gym does wonders both physically and mentally if you truly push yourself). Be the best you and the money and happiness will follow. Again it isn’t an instant change, it’s a process. Take it one step at a time, write down what you want to change and think about the ways you can do that. Work on these things and get 1% better each day and by the end of a year you’ll be a new man.

I believe in you man, and you should believe in yourself. You have so much time, and with that I will tell you: YOU GOT THIS
 
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Bro you got this! Think of where you want to be in 5 years. Your hair is out of your control but your confidence and motivation isn’t! Get yourself in a routine and be 1% better every day. So many people don’t realize how much time they still have. Your life is up to you man and I believe in you to make the change you want. Start with doing what you love and the happiness will follow. Yeah life is down sometimes but what is down always comes back up and remember that. Get into hobbies, read, work on yourself (the gym does wonders both physically and mentally if you truly push yourself). Be the best you and the money and happiness will follow. Again it isn’t an instant change, it’s a process. Take it one step at a time, write down what you want to change and think about the ways you can do that. Work on these things and get 1% better each day and by the end of a year you’ll be a new man.

I believe in you man, and you should believe in yourself. You have so much time, and with that I will tell you: YOU GOT THIS
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the problem is i cant even think of where i want to be in 5 years i see nothing at all, my brain cant even come up with images anymore
 
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Feelsbadman said:
the problem is i cant even think of where i want to be in 5 years i see nothing at all, my brain cant even come up with images anymore
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What do you like to do? What did you want to do when you were younger? It all starts with having a direction and getting healthy mentally first, then the happiness will follow. Maybe it’s worthwhile to talk to a therapist to dump everything out on someone and have a guide!
 
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Ufz-h said:
What do you like to do? What did you want to do when you were younger? It all starts with having a direction and getting healthy mentally first, then the happiness will follow. Maybe it’s worthwhile to talk to a therapist to dump everything out on someone and have a guide!
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I wanted to become a pro soccer player that's irrelevant now...
 
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Ufz-h said:
Bro you got this! Think of where you want to be in 5 years. Your hair is out of your control but your confidence and motivation isn’t! Get yourself in a routine and be 1% better every day. So many people don’t realize how much time they still have. Your life is up to you man and I believe in you to make the change you want. Start with doing what you love and the happiness will follow. Yeah life is down sometimes but what is down always comes back up and remember that. Get into hobbies, read, work on yourself (the gym does wonders both physically and mentally if you truly push yourself). Be the best you and the money and happiness will follow. Again it isn’t an instant change, it’s a process. Take it one step at a time, write down what you want to change and think about the ways you can do that. Work on these things and get 1% better each day and by the end of a year you’ll be a new man.

I believe in you man, and you should believe in yourself. You have so much time, and with that I will tell you: YOU GOT THIS
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Don't feed the troll
 
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When you have health issues you go and see a doctor. When you have mental health issues you go and see a therapist.
You keep on using this forum as your therapy and it is obviously not working.

I offered to help you but have not gotten any messages from you...
 
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@Feelsbadman I mentioned before that I retrained in my mid to late 20's, lived on low income in to early 30's then established my own business through what I'd learnt and everything took off. Now in 40's, married late 30's. If you want to turn it all around you can, but you have to be prepared to put the effort in day in, day out - shut out all the negative noise and just go for what you want. Trust me, sometimes there are big lows, but if you're not prepared to quit, you can really change your life. But you have to take the reins.

Just to add, I had little to no money prior, didn't own a property. Had I have given up, I would have missed out on the best years of my life.
 
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INT said:
When you have health issues you go and see a doctor. When you have mental health issues you go and see a therapist.
You keep on using this forum as your therapy and it is obviously not working.

I offered to help you but have not gotten any messages from you...
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i've been to therapy already..
 
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Ourkes said:
@Feelsbadman I mentioned before that I retrained in my mid to late 20's, lived on low income in to early 30's then established my own business through what I'd learnt and everything took off. Now in 40's, married late 30's. If you want to turn it all around you can, but you have to be prepared to put the effort in day in, day out - shut out all the negative noise and just go for what you want. Trust me, sometimes there are big lows, but if you're not prepared to quit, you can really change your life. But you have to take the reins.

Just to add, I had little to no money prior, didn't own a property. Had I have given up, I would have missed out on the best years of my life.
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good to hear man
thanks for sharing
 
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Incredible, all the good advice and genuinely good people trying to help to this guy, only for him to keep trolling this forum with random threads
 
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