I've decided.

[Ori83]

After last night, i understood that its all over, im not depressed nor do i rant, i've just made up my mind, no more women for me, i've been humiliated to such degree due to it that it made me understand there is no room for me in the dating scene, i dont fit the bald look unfortunately and all the power and energy used to put into chasing girls im going to focus in collage and making money, im not going to settle for partner in life, and thus im going to stay like i m at this point for now on, forever alone, maybe its not the best thing to do, but its the best thing for me!
as i mentioned before, either i date the girls i want or im not gonna date at all, and since i cant get them, im going to be by myself,
lookie now, if you cant pull the look, i strongly suggest that you leave the women aspect altogether, it only will end up hurting you, i know it sounds unreal, but once you understand that there is no room for unattractive bald men, and you just let it go, you gain so much energy, just stay away from girls and fill that huge gap with other things, because trust me, there is no point chasing something youll never be able to get, just focus on making money, traveling, getting wasted with friends, whatever... these girls are not worth our time guys, they just not... i moved on, i think im going to adjust a proud hermit attitude from now on, better for me and my interests.
good luck guys!

 

[uncomfortable man]

What happened last night? Give us the deets.

 

[Ori83]

i thought i imagining things, but after last night its all obvious to me, it doesnt matter what happened in details but you know the story, i just got rejected one too many times, every man has his limits, and my was broken last night, the details are futile but just to cure your curiosity, i talked with a girl my age, she thought im 37yo and rejected, then my LITTLE BROTHERS friend (who is 21 yo and lied about his age) picked her up lol, and not only that, i was in a very familiar situation, was walking with a friend of mine after we went out from the club back home and a girl approached, when i was younger this used to happen alot, girls would approach me, but this time, she went for my friend and asked him if he is available and fixed him her friend, then when i talked with her, she said im not her type and eventually my friend took them both to his place.... wtf?! now lately i had a bad run, i really thought it has something to do with my vibe... last night i had my confidence pretty f*****g high, i can pet my back for having an awesome body ( worked really hard for this for a year now!!!) but my hair is almost all gone, also i had few girls commenting about my hair and a couple of male friends, my spirit was broken, i got the hint and im done... thats it, hope your happy UM!

 

[Ori83]

Was thinking about it, but a lot of hassle, and all my friends i go with will think im crazy if ill show up one day with full head of hair....
there is no remedy for being bald.... unfortunately. :dunno:

 

[Shma]

"our greatest glory is not in never falling, but rising each time we fall"

Don't give up man.

 

[uncomfortable man]

Gut wrenching. I'm not happy ORI. Never am when I hear a spirit has been broken.

The bars are easily the biggest fixture of the dating scene, which as we know is hostile towards our kind. Cutthroat.

I had an experience a few months ago at such a bar that has since not only put me off to bar hoping but associating with my friends friends altogether. I only have two friends really, but they are more social than me and know alot of people. Well, my friend invited me out to one of his friends that I knows art show at a bar. His artwork is very graffiti inspired... many tattoo artists and the like as well. So being an artist myself I decided to go and show my support. Had a few drinks, took in the art, mingled a little. I found myself outside in the back area around a familiar group of folks. Everything was fine while bullshitting around when one of my friends friends (another tattoo artist) decides to out me.... "Yeah bro, enter my name is pretty cool but there is something about him he is hiding." I looked at him, pulled my hat off and said, "What this?!" everyone gasped. I said yeah I'm f*****g bald but you knew that already, what is your f*****g point? After calling me an alien I said f*** you and spit in his face. After that I was the bad guy, hell I was the bad guy as soon as everyone saw what I really am. So I didn't stick around. I left my "friends" at the bar and drove home, vowing off socializing with assholes forever.

I told myself that this douche felt the need to take me down a few pegs in front of everyone was because he knows I am a better artist than him. Which just so happens to be true. I remember another party we were both at where the host passed around a black book for people to draw in. I did a portrait of one of my friends that garnished alot of praise (even from the A-hole's own GF). When he saw my drawing he gave some jealous sourpuss reaction like aww I can draw better than that. Nobody seemed to agree with him. I wasn't trying to show him up or anything but he was offended none the less and I guess that night at the bar was his chance for revenge.

So I don't blame you for wanting to remove yourself from the scene because it is a harsh place for the wrong people. But for what it's worth, you are a good looking guy (I've seen your old avatar). I agree with your stance on focusing on more productive things however bittersweet it may be, ultimately you will prosper more from them.

You know what they say. Life is what happens while making plans. Stuff has a way of finding you when you least expect it. It's the expecting part that kills it.

 

[Shma]

[...] and spit in his face. [...]

Regardless what happened before or afterwards, but spitting in someone's face and then go away is one shitty thing to do. Thumbs down. :thumbdown2:

 

[uncomfortable man]

[...] and spit in his face. [...]

Regardless what happened before or afterwards, but spitting in someone's face and then go away is one shitty thing to do. Thumbs down. :thumbdown2:

Hey, if it were old school England then I would have removed my white glove and slapped him across the cheek initiating a duel in which someone would have certainly been killed. Hell people get into crazy brawls over less all the time. Whatever, we can't all be rational all the time. Besides, the a**h** deserved worse than a looch to the face. But you know what? This isn't about me, I'm trying to console a brother if you don't mind.

 

[Shma]

[quote="uncomfortable man":1pbog2rd][...] and spit in his face. [...]

Regardless what happened before or afterwards, but spitting in someone's face and then go away is one shitty thing to do. Thumbs down. :thumbdown2:

Hey, if it were old school England then I would have removed my white glove and slapped him across the cheek initiating a duel in which someone would have certainly been killed. Hell people get into crazy brawls over less all the time. Whatever, we can't all be rational all the time. Besides, the a**hole deserved worse than a looch to the face. But you know what? This isn't about me, I'm trying to console a brother if you don't mind.[/quote:1pbog2rd]

You're quite a pussy uncomfortable man. If he deserved worse, than grow some balls and find some other methods to get revenge, but do not spit anyone in his face and run off. You say earlier that you only have 2 real friends. Did you lose the others by spitting them into their faces too?

You should sit down and think about yourself. You really seem to think that the whole world's against you. But the more I read your posts the more I think that it's all your fault but you use your lack of hair as an excuse .... We do live in a very shallow world and baldness does indeed suck and make things a lot harder, but I'm sure you'd have a lot of trouble with a full head of hair too.

Btw, I tried to help out the OP as well, look at my first post in this thread.

 

[Ori83]

appreciate your input guys, Shma there is one thing i've learned from all this is that you cant judge a man until your in his shoes, dude overacted obviously, yet im not sure that id react differently, and you too.

but arguing over this is pointless.

(thanks for reminding me my own signature, you might want to check yours, im not hating on you but you preach your high morals on UM for being violent/disrespectful towards a guy you dont know and you yourself abusing him with your sig man.. )

 

[Shma]

thanks for reminding me my own signature

no problem man. I know how you feel. I'm heading Norwood 4 at the age of 22. I don't have it easy either.

you might want to check yours, im not hating on you but you preach your high morals on UM for being violent/disrespectful towards a guy you dont know and you yourself abusing him with your sig man.. )

You don't know the story behind that quote. Uncomfortable man keeps complaining about the cruel world that balding guys face. I don't really disagree with that, it's hard for us, but he' being shallow as well.

 

[HairPieceMan]

as far as UCMans sig goes at the end of the day if you have become a bit of a freak due to having no hair it only makes sense that you feel you can only attract a freak type girl or a fat girl.

i don't think a bald man should have a special right to feel he should hair to be normal and THEN diss other genetically weak females.

it slike crying becuase you have become a bit wierd then saying i dont want wierd girls as well.


"i am bald @ 25/30, now i can only get fat girls, woe is me"

this stuff gets no sympathy

 

[HairPieceMan]

ori you mentioned that your in your late 20 and the girl thought you were in your late 30s.

may i ask how you knew she thought that

did she ask you your age, then tell you she thought you were 37?

 

[bigentries]

as far as UCMans sig goes at the end of the day if you have become a bit of a freak due to having no hair it only makes sense that you feel you can only attract a freak type girl or a fat girl.

i don't think a bald man should have a special right to feel he should hair to be normal and THEN diss other genetically weak females.

it slike crying becuase you have become a bit wierd then saying i dont want wierd girls as well.


"i am bald @ 25/30, now i can only get fat girls, woe is me"

this stuff gets no sympathy

That's why I say the most pessimistic people seem to be guys who were very good looking and now feel bad because they lost their place in the social totem
It is very difficult for outsiders to feel sympathy for bald people when all they complain is how they can't get the hottest chicks anymore

 

[HairPieceMan]

yeah, i think we need to face reality and if you were attractive before hair loss and unnatractive after hair loss you're going ot have to lower your standards for dating.

to me this is the only real social issue i can see with baldness in men.

i don't like these huge debates about how someone is a NW6 with a hot wife and etc. etc.

fact is 95% of the time your going to have to compromise for your baldness for women, or the women will expect you to compensate for your baldness with something becuase she knows you can't go out on a night out on the town and pull a girl anywhere near as attractive as her (assuming she is a 6+).

this is why bruce willis gets hot girls half his age despite his physical limiations, becuase he compensates with money/power.

but take robert patterson in a club vs bruce willis with no hair in a club (he doesnt look as good IRL as he does in films) and robert patterson gets the GENUINE female attention and bruce willis is let alone in the bar or has to aim much lower.

to me this is real life and it makes sense.

 

[uncomfortable man]

Yet again I have to defend myself. Fine. That was an exceptional circumstance which I admit caused me to overreact.... I made out with a dude FFS. I think you would be a bit disgusted and angry if you found yourself in the same situation. It was hypocritical of me to say that I admit but you don't see me bashing overweight women on here all the time. I get along great with the larger ladies at my work, love those gals. Anyway, find a post of mine where I say I feel entitled to a hottie... even in Shma's sig I say a normal woman, not some supermodel.

as far as UCMans sig goes at the end of the day if you have become a bit of a freak due to having no hair it only makes sense that you feel you can only attract a freak type girl or a fat girl.

i don't think a bald man should have a special right to feel he should hair to be normal and THEN diss other genetically weak females.

it slike crying becuase you have become a bit wierd then saying i dont want wierd girls as well.


"i am bald @ 25/30, now i can only get fat girls, woe is me"

this stuff gets no sympathy

This post is full of contradiction. First you say it only makes sense to feel a certain way then you turn around and bash it. This is after filtering your post through the bad grammar and spelling. Not to mention that HPM has said himself that he would not date fat girls and only prefers attractive women... because he is vain.

Even ORI admits that he will not settle for anything less than his own expectations.

 

[TravisB]

Damn women! I bet if it wasn't for them, we wouldn't give a f*** about hair loss :mrgreen:

 

[bigentries]

Damn women! I bet if it wasn't for them, we wouldn't give a f*ck about hair loss :mrgreen:

Yet very few want to admit it.
At least this forum is not completely on denial. Other places make the most interesting (and lame) excuses about why they care about their hair loss.

There is no shame in admitting that you do things just to attract the opposite sex attraction. Everyone does.
The only reason to buy expensive clothing, care about grooming, having an good car is to attract women. I don't see anything wrong with that, specially if you are still young.
Some people claim it is pathetic, but everyone subconsciously does

 

[TravisB]

Yeah, every man wants to score a lot of pussy (except gay men - they want to score cocoa eye)

 

[seb]

I largely agree with that statement,although for ME its not(and has never been)about women.Its about being treated with respect as a human being(obviously we all have too earn respect as an individual),and how i percieve myself.At the end of the day i have too live with myself everyday,and i dont like this big,bald head looking back at me in the mirror.