I have diffuse thinning all over. Even back and sides...even a hair transplant isn't an option for me. And i refuse to take propecia so in a strange way i feel like i am balding by choice. (Obv that isn't quite true).
I know lots of very happy and content bald guys.
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Not every comment is mean? Have you seen them!? They are overwhelmingly positive. They say how he looks better now. He doesn't look 50 at all and even if he does look older than his age then he will not age much at all now for many years.
Also...i think people here do hate positivity.... this thread for example has 4 replies (including me). A negative thread about a completely nonsense, made up article relating to prince william has 6 pages in less than a day. A lot of people here want to believe that baldness is the worst thing in the world and a show stopper when it comes to dating. But that is quite clearly not true.
The reason for the negativity on here is because hair loss is a very negative subject. If a person has minimal hair loss, they are more prone to exuding positivity because they still have most of their hair and therefore their looks are not deteriorating nearly to the degree as a person who is an NW6. The difference between say an NW2 and an NW6 is like the difference between night and day; one guy still has most of his hair, the other guy is full blown bald.
I initially thought your own hair loss was very mild and minimal since when you first joined here, you said that people really didn’t notice your hair loss and that in 5 years, your hair has barely changed. Even as an NW2 with diffuse thinning, if you don’t have any bald spots or your hair isn’t so thin that its extremely important, your outer looks will really not be impacted much, if at all. In fact, when I was an NW2 with diffuse thinning, I didn’t even notice it all, was a very positive person, and being on a hair loss forum never even occurred to me.
I really believe in the “walk a mile in my shoes” theory when it comes to basically anything in life, and especially when it comes to hair loss. In order to know how a specific situation feels, a person needs to experience it firsthand for themselves. Otherwise they’ll never know how it truly feels and therefore cannot adequately lecture anyone on the subject. (This is why many of us get pissed off when people with full heads of hair tell us to “man up” or “just accept it and move on”, when we just know that they could never follow their own advice.). Similarly, I believe that a person with minimal hair loss, who has most of their hair, cannot even comprehend what it is like to be a full blown baldie. The deterioration of a person’s outer looks, the feeling of depression every time you look in the mirror, the major blow to your confidence because your attractiveness is taking a major nosedive. No one will really notice if you have thinning temples, but if you are really bald, it is as noticeable as a neon sign.
Also, one cannot assume that bald people are happy and content because they are simply going out to work and functioning in life. If they didn’t do as such, they wouldn’t have food or shelter. People see me at the gym and they probably see a big, strong power-lifter. They’d surely never guess the depression I am experiencing over hair loss.
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Lastly, I did click on the link to Jack Ryder's bald photo. It's good that he is maybe owning up to it, and his opinion really does hold water because he really does have true, pronounced, and very noticeable hair loss. But unfortunately I believe his case is more of the exception than the rule. And also, some people (albeit the minority) don't see to care all that much about their outer looks. Jason Alexander used to say his baldness never bothered him, but I don't believe the anyone here would want to look or act like him. In fact, that George Costanza character seems like the epitome of a person that people on this forum would absolutely NOT want to look like.
