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This is mostly for those who remain skeptical claims made on this forum, backed by countless studies and anecdotes, that physical appearance is of primary importance in attracting the opposite sex. I link to this long thread, running ten years now, from bodybuilding.com:
http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=898532
Were you treated differently after losing alot of weight?
I've been reading it on and off for a while now, getting the anecdotes for inspiration. By now thousands of people have commented, though I have not made it all the way through. Here are the trends I have noticed:
- Both men and women notice a difference in how the opposite sex responds to them;
- This is true for both sexual companionship and just general aspects of life, like friendship or help with random things, etc;
- For men, it may not be a continuous process, but rather a "jump" in response levels from women when BF% drops to the 10-13% range. For me this may be the most counterintuitive finding;
- Some men say they didn't notice much difference when they first lost weight. Rather, they had to lose weight, then gain muscle, then lose fat again before getting much better treatment;
- A rare poster says "no difference";
- Once you look better, it takes you a while to lose the personality and temperament of the fat loser, you can be a fit person on the outside but not on the inside;
What we have here are a lot of anecdotes (there's no precise studies for this) showing a tremendous impact from just adjusting two factors: body fat percentage and lean body mass, doesn't include the other things you could be going. I personally find it inspirational, it's helped me lose ~half the total weight I need to lose, and gives me a little something more to look forward to as I've always had a suboptimal time with women. I'm self-driven most days, but haring success stories helps for those other days, and hence helps with consistency.
http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=898532
Were you treated differently after losing alot of weight?
I've been reading it on and off for a while now, getting the anecdotes for inspiration. By now thousands of people have commented, though I have not made it all the way through. Here are the trends I have noticed:
- Both men and women notice a difference in how the opposite sex responds to them;
- This is true for both sexual companionship and just general aspects of life, like friendship or help with random things, etc;
- For men, it may not be a continuous process, but rather a "jump" in response levels from women when BF% drops to the 10-13% range. For me this may be the most counterintuitive finding;
- Some men say they didn't notice much difference when they first lost weight. Rather, they had to lose weight, then gain muscle, then lose fat again before getting much better treatment;
- A rare poster says "no difference";
- Once you look better, it takes you a while to lose the personality and temperament of the fat loser, you can be a fit person on the outside but not on the inside;
What we have here are a lot of anecdotes (there's no precise studies for this) showing a tremendous impact from just adjusting two factors: body fat percentage and lean body mass, doesn't include the other things you could be going. I personally find it inspirational, it's helped me lose ~half the total weight I need to lose, and gives me a little something more to look forward to as I've always had a suboptimal time with women. I'm self-driven most days, but haring success stories helps for those other days, and hence helps with consistency.