Realized today it's been nearly 3 years since i've had good sex, how to cope and move forward?

[Feelsbadman]

I define good sex as having these 3 components in no particular order

1 - some kind of emotional connection , doesn't have to be love but there's some connection there
2 - you're genuinely physically attracted to the girl
3 - there's sexual chemistry the act itself is good

I have not had this for nearly 3 years. I've tried to replicate this by paying for expensive hookers but it hasn't worked. I've slept with a few girls I met through work and apps but those experiences have been really poor and never all 3 components not even close.

Last time i experienced all 3 was when I had a girlfriend. I'd never want to get back with her and i don't care about her she was / is mentally ill but i do miss the good sex and the mental benefits/happiness that came with it.

Despite working out and trying to better myself I'm just trying to accept it will never be easy for me to have this and my one off experience may have actually been one off.

I've been trying to focus on other things and i feel a lot better about life just focussing on things like the gym, sport, reading and video games. But I can't help but miss that. Especially when you see attractive women on social media, in real life and all around you yet you get nothing.

How do you cope with this and move forward? is the best way just to try and accept the hand you were dealt?

 

[Friendo]

It's best to make another thread that is exactly the same and then maybe cry about it in my opinion

 

[Feelsbadman]

It's best to make another thread that is exactly the same and then maybe cry about it in my opinion

rude

 

[doubleindemnity]

Let me tell you that as you get older, balder and more successful it only gets more difficult. There's no easy way out of this. Throw yourself into your work or interests so much that you are too busy or exhausted to think about these things. Try nofap and see if it works for you. There is no easy answer to your question.

 

[Feelsbadman]

Let me tell you that as you get older, balder and more successful it only gets more difficult. There's no easy way out of this. Throw yourself into your work or interests so much that you are too busy or exhausted to think about these things. Try nofap and see if it works for you. There is no easy answer to your question.

Let me tell you that as you get older, balder and more successful it only gets more difficult. There's no easy way out of this. Throw yourself into your work or interests so much that you are too busy or exhausted to think about these things. Try nofap and see if it works for you. There is no easy answer to your question.

i'm starting to think that my experience was curse
wish i never experienced it.

 

[Capone]

Sex doll? There’s some absolute crackers on DH Gate

 

[disfiguredyoungman]

Just cut your dick off and become trans, bro.

 

[Norwoodcel]

Cope

 

[Butterbean Head]

I'm sick of telling you, street walkers.

£20 for bareback sex doggie style. Can even get fully naked(well, leave socks on) and talk dirty to them.

Watch them shuffle away to the next corner with your tadpoles inside they're soiled panties.....

 

[Feelsbadman]

wish i was dead
well the good news. is i cant remember her that well anymore yay

 

[doubleindemnity]

“What disturbs and depresses young people is the hunt for happiness on the firm assumption that it must be met with in life. From this arises constantly deluded hope and so also dissatisfaction. Deceptive images of a vague happiness hover before us in our dreams, and we search in vain for their original. Much would have been gained if, through timely advice and instruction, young people could have had eradicated from their minds the erroneous notion that the world has a great deal to offer them.”
― Arthur Schopenhauer

Read some philosophy books. Why is it so terrible that your life is so miserable? I'm reading some of his work and then moving onto others.

 

[Feelsbadman]

because sexless

 

[Ascension]

“What disturbs and depresses young people is the hunt for happiness on the firm assumption that it must be met with in life. From this arises constantly deluded hope and so also dissatisfaction. Deceptive images of a vague happiness hover before us in our dreams, and we search in vain for their original. Much would have been gained if, through timely advice and instruction, young people could have had eradicated from their minds the erroneous notion that the world has a great deal to offer them.”
― Arthur Schopenhauer

Read some philosophy books. Why is it so terrible that your life is so miserable? I'm reading some of his work and then moving onto others.

having sex>paying for hookers>buying a sex doll>f*****g your self with a dildo>killing your self>coping by reading philosophy

 

[Ascension]

not the question to ask on a hairloss forum.

 

[Feelsbadman]

I went from havng sex every week with an attractive girl to nothing for 3 years.

 

[doubleindemnity]

You're bald now so what do you expect? I think that you should push harder on the coping strategies or seek treatments such as a hair transplant or a system. It's scant consolation but as a bald single guy, I should be able to retire young.

 

[vondoom]

is he even bald? thought he is just nw2 and pretends to look like phil collins...

 

[Ourkes]

You're bald now so what do you expect? I think that you should push harder on the coping strategies or seek treatments such as a hair transplant or a system. It's scant consolation but as a bald single guy, I should be able to retire young.

How young?

 

[doubleindemnity]

How young?

Not that young really. But if nothing much changes or nothing much extreme happens, I don't see what would prevent retirement aged 40-45. Maybe I made a mistake in my calculations but that seems achievable.

 

[Ourkes]

Not that young really. But if nothing much changes or nothing much extreme happens, I don't see what would prevent retirement aged 40-45. Maybe I made a mistake in my calculations but that seems achievable.

I'm 42 - trust me if you look after yourself, you'll still feel young in your 40s. If you can retire then, with some good financial backing, you can have an excellent life, with or without a women - time to pursue your interests, travel, do voluntary work. Whatever floats your boat. Great plan to have.