Really need some advice on handling this...

[Joe1191]

I'm 21 and my girlfriend who I haven't seen in a year (we've been together for 7 months) is coming in two weeks to live with me for a month. We have an absolutely wonderful relationship despite the distance and she brings up future plans for us moving in together a lot and she brings up how she's never been this happy in a relationship before and she admires the person I am.
She is not a shallow and she is a very understanding person but as she has not seen me in a year and we were not in a relationship at the time she doesn't really know about my thin crown* (nw2.5 bordering nw3, just thin no complete baldness) my hairline has no recession to it. I style my hair in a way that makes it not noticeable at all really and I'm very tall so no one sees the top of my head much. I know she'll be able to notice eventually as we will be living together for a month. Should I tell her I'm using treatments if she brings up my hair loss? I'm not sure how to approach this at all. I'm extremely nervous about approaching this. I've been constantly thinking about what if she decides to break up with me over it or finds it very unattractive. I may be overthinking it.
Any help is appreciated.

 

[Hairon]

Just be yourself, act normally, if she tells you something about it you can either act casually and sweep it off like it means nothing to you or tell her you're using treatments to make it better, personally I'd just tell her it is what it is and you don't mind it, if she leaves you because you're balding then it's for the best and it means she isn't worth it, if she did that she would also dump you over anything that would make you look less attractive, not just hair.

Also personally I wouldn't use the treatments next to her, I think she would see it as a weakness as men aren't supposed to be so cautious and caring about their hair and use treartments and such like girls do, so any topical treartments/foam use when you're alone, that's my opinion.

 

[Joe1191]

Thanks for the advice. I think I'll decide whether or not to tell her that I'm using treatments depending on the flow of the conversation, if she brings it up. And I'll definitely act like it's no big deal if I do end up losing all my hair.

I agree with you on the treatments used in private. I feel like it would be awkward if anything. That'll get tricky though as I use lipogaine (liquid minoxidil) and spironolactone cream.

 

[Notcoolanymore]

Just get her pregnant and she will be stuck with you.

 

[sheraz1392]

Just get her pregnant and she will be stuck with you.

Guess you didn't read that thread of Fred's!

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To the OP, I think your hair look decent judging the way you are describing it and you are probably over-thinking about it. And also there's nothing wrong with telling her that you are on treatment.

 

[Roberto_72]

...she brings up how she's never been this happy in a relationship before and she admires the person I am.
...I may be overthinking it.
Any help is appreciated.

My opinion is that if you are almost NW3 then you seem be crazy if you were NOT to use anything to stop the balding. I guess this girl will understand because women dig men who take care of their looks.
And you ARE overthinking it. Do yourself a favor and stop!

 

[Notcoolanymore]

Been there, done that.

Didn't work .

Sorry Fred. Didn't mean to post a reminder.

 

[CopeForLife]

I know it is retarded advice but "just be yourself" - if you will be nervous about your hairline she will be as well. But she'll notice with high probability so it may not help you.

Anyway better to calm down.

 

[Joe1191]

I know it is retarded advice but "just be yourself" - if you will be nervous about your hairline she will be as well. But she'll notice with high probability so it may not help you.

Anyway better to calm down.

Thank you, you're definitely right. But that's the thing I meant to say NW2.5-3V as I have no receding hairline. Just at the crown. That's why I think it'll surprise her.

 

[hellouser]

I know it is retarded advice but "just be yourself" - if you will be nervous about your hairline she will be as well. But she'll notice with high probability so it may not help you.

Anyway better to calm down.

Or you could just fake your 'confidence' and your insecurity will go unnoticed.

 

[Roberto_72]

Or you could just fake your 'confidence' and your insecurity will go unnoticed.

ROTFL
you did it again