Sad video about being bald vs having hair

[doubleindemnity]

This video basically explains or agrees with my interpretation of the world. The fact is that, as a bald guy, no matter how confident you are, no matter how good you look bald, you'll be treated differently (in a negative way) because of your baldness. And yes, as a result, you probably won't be able to get married or have a family. The video almost brought me to tears because I don't have the scalp donor to get a good result and I don't have the courage to get a system.

 

[Selb]

I would love to emphathize, but we’ve already gone over this. You’re not willing to put in the actual work to save your hair. The amount of effort and time you’ve put into complaining about the bald life could have gone into more proactive things, like starting a hair loss regimen. Thickening your donor with finasteride or dutasteride, getting SMP and transplants (regardless of what transplant surgeons say about your donor), microneedling, etc.

I’d understand if you were in the process of balding and were afraid of treatments making things worse, but you’re already bald and hate it with a manic obsession. What do you have to lose? Your mental health is already shot. And according to you you can’t even get a girl with a bald head.

If you really did try and still ended up bald, I would feel sorry and let you have your rants and threads. But all you’re doing now is making bald people feel bad

 

[doubleindemnity]

I would love to emphathize, but we’ve already gone over this. You’re not willing to put in the actual work to save your hair. The amount of effort and time you’ve put into complaining about the bald life could have gone into more proactive things, like starting a hair loss regimen. Thickening your donor with finasteride or dutasteride, getting SMP and transplants (regardless of what transplant surgeons say about your donor), microneedling, etc.

I’d understand if you were in the process of balding and were afraid of treatments making things worse, but you’re already bald and hate it with a manic obsession. What do you have to lose? Your mental health is already shot. And according to you you can’t even get a girl with a bald head.

If you really did try and still ended up bald, I would feel sorry and let you have your rants and threads. But all you’re doing now is making bald people feel bad

Bald people don't need me to make them feel bad. There's a whole world out there.

I am afraid to use anti androgens. SMP is not a hair loss treatment, in my opinion. I was refused by reputable surgeons but some of the fast result clinics said that they would take me. I'm scared of getting a bad result or losing out on my donor. I even had the money ready for a transplant in North America but sadly got turned down. As you see, I'm totally spineless.

 

[justinbieberscombover]

some of the fast result clinics said that they would take me. I'm scared of getting a bad result or losing out on my donor.

How many grafts did they say you have? Maybe I would take that chance if I were you.

 

[doubleindemnity]

How many grafts did they say you have? Maybe I would take that chance if I were you.

Between 2000 and 3000 from the scalp.

 

[justinbieberscombover]

Between 2000 and 3000 from the scalp.

Yeah that's.. not great unfortunately. Can you get additional 2000-3000 grafts from the beard maybe? Leave the crown bald and go for a buzz transplant.

 

[ImKaratekid]

Bald people don't need me to make them feel bad. There's a whole world out there.

I am afraid to use anti androgens. SMP is not a hair loss treatment, in my opinion. I was refused by reputable surgeons but some of the fast result clinics said that they would take me. I'm scared of getting a bad result or losing out on my donor. I even had the money ready for a transplant in North America but sadly got turned down. As you see, I'm totally spineless.

So baldness impact you in such an extreme way that it completely ruined every aspect of your life, you have no joy in life, you are depressed and lonely. But still afraid to take anti androgens? and afraid to try hair transplant so you wont lose out donor?
I thought you are rational person but actually it doesnt seem so

 

[Selb]

Bald people don't need me to make them feel bad. There's a whole world out there.

I am afraid to use anti androgens. SMP is not a hair loss treatment, in my opinion. I was refused by reputable surgeons but some of the fast result clinics said that they would take me. I'm scared of getting a bad result or losing out on my donor. I even had the money ready for a transplant in North America but sadly got turned down. As you see, I'm totally spineless.

It doesn’t help to rub it in though.

At this point it’s like you’re avoiding solutions. You’re not gonna get your hair back without anti androgens and more hardcore protocols. So if that’s off the table permanently, you won’t get your natural hair back. Not until a better treatment is out ten years from now.

So what do you do now? Shave it all off and look at least better than a balding person. Get a hair system. Or get SMP done. The point isn’t to regain your hair, you’re not willing to do that at this point. The point is to make you look more attractive than the average bald guy.

 

[justinbieberscombover]

Beard grafts look like pubic hair.

Yeah but if he keeps it buzzed it won't matter

 

[justinbieberscombover]

Then there's no point in the transplant

Maybe you're right

 

[doubleindemnity]

So baldness impact you in such an extreme way that it completely ruined every aspect of your life, you have no joy in life, you are depressed and lonely. But still afraid to take anti androgens? and afraid to try hair transplant so you wont lose out donor?
I thought you are rational person but actually it doesnt seem so

Any hair transplant I get I'm using up those grafts. They won't come back. That is scary. It could potentially look worse afterwards. Also there must be a reason why the reputable surgeons turned me down. Around 4 years ago when I was turned down by the North American clinic, part of me thought "maybe the stuff that they say is true and that I'll have no problems in life when I'm successful" (I was still a student back then). So I forgot about the hair transplant at that time. And I am scared of the AA side effects, post finasteride syndrome and anything that persists after ceasing the medication.

Baldness has surely ruined my life. These days I wake up and write depressing things in my journal every day. Baldness is one of the reasons why my life turned out this way.

I already use minoxidil. Haven't missed a day in 3 years. I also tried dermarolling but it doesn't seem to have much of an effect on top of the minoxidil.

I have plenty of beard and body hair. But I thought that beard hair won't look right on the head and should only be used to fill in the crown. It's sharp and rough.

 

[whatintheworld]

Bro, we understand this condition is bad, but what you say doesn't make sense.

If baldness was so bad for you, how could finasteride make it any worse? If your life was already ruined, what did you have to lose?

You are basing your decision for a transplant from one clinic, that is anonymous, that we have no idea if it is reputable or not? Have you sent your donor to the top 5 doctors in the world? Have you saved up money for a potential transplant from only the elite surgeons?

It just doesn't make sense. You espouse here how bad this condition is, yet you haven't even done the bare minimum (trying finasteride) to fight it.

I was headed to Norwood 5/6 in my early twenties. I hopped on finasteride and started using minoxidil religiously 2 times a day. I tried micro needling, and other various topicals and herbal supplements. Must have spent thousands of dollars.

I am going to pay thousands, upwards of tens of thousands of dollars at one of the most elite transplant surgeons in the world. I saved up money meticulously to be able to afford this.

What is stopping you from doing what I'm doing?

 

[goku_black]

Man up you little pussy. Stop crying

 

[doubleindemnity]

Bro, we understand this condition is bad, but what you say doesn't make sense.

If baldness was so bad for you, how could finasteride make it any worse? If your life was already ruined, what did you have to lose?

You are basing your decision for a transplant from one clinic, that is anonymous, that we have no idea if it is reputable or not? Have you sent your donor to the top 5 doctors in the world? Have you saved up money for a potential transplant from only the elite surgeons?

It just doesn't make sense. You espouse here how bad this condition is, yet you haven't even done the bare minimum (trying finasteride) to fight it.

I was headed to Norwood 5/6 in my early twenties. I hopped on finasteride and started using minoxidil religiously 2 times a day. I tried micro needling, and other various topicals and herbal supplements. Must have spent thousands of dollars.

I am going to pay thousands, upwards of tens of thousands of dollars at one of the most elite transplant surgeons in the world. I saved up money meticulously to be able to afford this.

What is stopping you from doing what I'm doing?

I can already get the funds for a hair transplant in North America. I'm lucky there. I'm not going to try finasteride because I am scared. Life is good besides baldness. I get to study, watch movies, play video games, read books, learn music etc. Finasteride side effects could change that via brain fog. Then all my fitness results could disappear via any hormonal effects. The percentage possibility of side effects is too high, in my opinion.

I'd try more needling and herbal supplements if any of them had been really shown to work. Seems like they do not and that's why I stick to minoxidil only.

What is stopping me from doing that is my fear of minoxidil and my donor. I'm a NW7 with thinning outside of the donor area. Around 1000 grafts would already need to be used on the sides, you know. I've discussed with multiple surgeons and all were saying that I am not a good candidate until last year. The latest was one reputable surgeon who, just before the pandemic stopped me from traveling, said that if they used my body hair as well, they could give me a very conservative result. At the time, the prices seemed very high, but here I am around 9 months later with more funds and more misery. And part of me still believes the crap that "a bald guy who is successful, in shape, intelligent etc. etc. can do well in life".

Man up you little pussy. Stop crying

If a guy whose life is ruined stops crying about it, his life will still be ruined. It doesn't make a difference. So I'll cry if I want to.

 

[whatintheworld]

I can already get the funds for a hair transplant in North America. I'm lucky there. I'm not going to try finasteride because I am scared. Life is good besides baldness. I get to study, watch movies, play video games, read books, learn music etc. Finasteride side effects could change that via brain fog. Then all my fitness results could disappear via any hormonal effects. The percentage possibility of side effects is too high, in my opinion.

I'd try more needling and herbal supplements if any of them had been really shown to work. Seems like they do not and that's why I stick to minoxidil only.

What is stopping me from doing that is my fear of minoxidil and my donor. I'm a NW7 with thinning outside of the donor area. Around 1000 grafts would already need to be used on the sides, you know. I've discussed with multiple surgeons and all were saying that I am not a good candidate until last year. The latest was one reputable surgeon who, just before the pandemic stopped me from traveling, said that if they used my body hair as well, they could give me a very conservative result. At the time, the prices seemed very high, but here I am around 9 months later with more funds and more misery. And part of me still believes the crap that "a bald guy who is successful, in shape, intelligent etc. etc. can do well in life".

If a guy whose life is ruined stops crying about it, his life will still be ruined. It doesn't make a difference. So I'll cry if I want to.

I mean, if you can do all that, how exactly is your life ruined by baldness?

I couldn't do any of that. I got brain fog and depression from hair loss. I couldn't concentrate on studying and was failing my classes. Lost interest to read or do anything.

Like, if you could do everything normally like you say without hair loss holding you back, how exactly was your life ruined?

Most people have a binary classification system to do something about hair loss. Either they perceive their life to be so much worse that they are willing to try out medications/transplants for it, or they accept it and move on with their lives.

This intermediate group of allowing it to ruin your life, yet to not do anything about it, doesn't make sense. Anyone rational, if they felt their life was ruined by anything, let's take hair loss out of the equation hypothetically, would use that as a catalyst to change their lives and try to solve the problem.

 

[DarkHairHair]

I can already get the funds for a hair transplant in North America. I'm lucky there. I'm not going to try finasteride because I am scared. Life is good besides baldness. I get to study, watch movies, play video games, read books, learn music etc. Finasteride side effects could change that via brain fog. Then all my fitness results could disappear via any hormonal effects. The percentage possibility of side effects is too high, in my opinion.

I'd try more needling and herbal supplements if any of them had been really shown to work. Seems like they do not and that's why I stick to minoxidil only.

What is stopping me from doing that is my fear of minoxidil and my donor. I'm a NW7 with thinning outside of the donor area. Around 1000 grafts would already need to be used on the sides, you know. I've discussed with multiple surgeons and all were saying that I am not a good candidate until last year. The latest was one reputable surgeon who, just before the pandemic stopped me from traveling, said that if they used my body hair as well, they could give me a very conservative result. At the time, the prices seemed very high, but here I am around 9 months later with more funds and more misery. And part of me still believes the crap that "a bald guy who is successful, in shape, intelligent etc. etc. can do well in life".

If a guy whose life is ruined stops crying about it, his life will still be ruined. It doesn't make a difference. So I'll cry if I want to.

You lose your hair since when ?

 

[Capone]

Bro, we understand this condition is bad, but what you say doesn't make sense.

If baldness was so bad for you, how could finasteride make it any worse? If your life was already ruined, what did you have to lose?

You are basing your decision for a transplant from one clinic, that is anonymous, that we have no idea if it is reputable or not? Have you sent your donor to the top 5 doctors in the world? Have you saved up money for a potential transplant from only the elite surgeons?

It just doesn't make sense. You espouse here how bad this condition is, yet you haven't even done the bare minimum (trying finasteride) to fight it.

I was headed to Norwood 5/6 in my early twenties. I hopped on finasteride and started using minoxidil religiously 2 times a day. I tried micro needling, and other various topicals and herbal supplements. Must have spent thousands of dollars.

I am going to pay thousands, upwards of tens of thousands of dollars at one of the most elite transplant surgeons in the world. I saved up money meticulously to be able to afford this.

What is stopping you from doing what I'm doing?

Tens of thousands? Why blow that much.. check out Keser or Pekiner in Turkey and save some of that money for something else.

 

[doubleindemnity]

I mean, if you can do all that, how exactly is your life ruined by baldness?

I couldn't do any of that. I got brain fog and depression from hair loss. I couldn't concentrate on studying and was failing my classes. Lost interest to read or do anything.

Like, if you could do everything normally like you say without hair loss holding you back, how exactly was your life ruined?

Most people have a binary classification system to do something about hair loss. Either they perceive their life to be so much worse that they are willing to try out medications/transplants for it, or they accept it and move on with their lives.

This intermediate group of allowing it to ruin your life, yet to not do anything about it, doesn't make sense. Anyone rational, if they felt their life was ruined by anything, let's take hair loss out of the equation hypothetically, would use that as a catalyst to change their lives and try to solve the problem.

I just want to get married and have kids. I just want one half year or so to have a normal dating life. I've tried quite a few things but it just isn't possible as a bald guy. With hair I'd get that overnight. But what if I figure out that it's not what I want, and I don't actually want to have a family, and that, consequently, I have spent tens of thousands on a hair transplant that I didn't really need? So many questions and so much uncertainty. I'm scared about it all. Even when I went to get assessed for a system, the person at the store said that I could pull off the shaved look and didn't need a system. But years later I have found that it's not about pulling off the look or looking good. It's just about the presence of hair.

 

[whatintheworld]

Tens of thousands? Why blow that much.. check out Keser or Pekiner in Turkey and save some of that money for something else.

Nah, can always make more money but have a very finite, precious supply of donor. Rolling the dice with Turkish clinics isn't something I want to do.

Konior, Lorenzo, Cuoto, Feirrera, Zarev is the short list.

 

[whatintheworld]

I just want to get married and have kids. I just want one half year or so to have a normal dating life. I've tried quite a few things but it just isn't possible as a bald guy. With hair I'd get that overnight. But what if I figure out that it's not what I want, and I don't actually want to have a family, and that, consequently, I have spent tens of thousands on a hair transplant that I didn't really need? So many questions and so much uncertainty. I'm scared about it all. Even when I went to get assessed for a system, the person at the store said that I could pull off the shaved look and didn't need a system. But years later I have found that it's not about pulling off the look or looking good. It's just about the presence of hair.

Suit yourself man, I think people here just want to help you out, but they can only recommend so much. It is up to you to have the courage of your convictions to take some action in your life if you want to see change. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.

Ultimately baldness isn't only about attracting women. It is also about being comfortable with your own self image. That is another thing with me. Being bald just did not correlate with how I saw myself.