LastSamurai
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First of all, hello everyone and happy 2020..What a f*****g year.
Anyway. I haven't been on here for a while to be honest. If anything I've been living my life and to be honest the COVID pandemic had kind of sucked my attention away from my hairline. I buzz cut my hair back in December 2019, and to be honest my hair grew back relatively fast. I passed through different points of beard and short hair / stubble before I started to get some length back. By April / May I already had decent growth again, so actually looking back it didn't take much longer than 4 months or so.
I've been dating a great girl over the past 2 months. But last night I had a kind of feeling that she looked at me and I could tell she was looking at my hair and being disappointed. In fact, she looks at my hairline more than I care for. Last night, I had gone for a tighter cut on the sides and also clean shaven after having stubble for a while. The reality is, I don't look so healthy anymore with a clean shave. The years of looking at a computer screen and living in the centre of a busy city have taken their toll somewhat, I look gaunt yet like a boy, its almsot like my face is too 'young'. A bit of a baby face that sometimes at age 31 doesn't work in my favour.. When I rocked up to hers, she made this remark, 'your hair is really short!' but in a kind of 'omg, you are balder then I realised' kind of manner, reading between the lines. And generally, I just felt a bit uncomfortable around her, it was that kind of feeling that you weren't sure whether she completely accepted you or not. She didn't at one point say, nice cut, you look great, or anything. And perhaps that lack of reassurance left me feeling somewhat insecure.
Anyway, it was a cruel reminder that clean shaving is no longer an option for me with my gaunt face and nw3.5 kind of look. I need to constantly maintain a beard. And the thing is, facial hair does make a massive difference to my face, older, more self assured, more manly. It's just a better look in so many ways. I kind of look like a boy in a man's body without a beard, and it does look kind of strange. I guess a weird thing happens when you have a beard for 3 months +, in that after that time period going back to clean shaven just doesn't seem natural anymore. Anyway. I'm not sure where I'm going with this. Only that I've remembered why I don't clean shave. Because it looks like sh*t. There is something about a beard that softens the features and takes the eyes away from the hairline. Especially if you still have coverage on top, most people don't even realise. But all of a sudden, you shave and it's like bam, people notice straight away.
Back to a substantial beard I think.
Anyway. I haven't been on here for a while to be honest. If anything I've been living my life and to be honest the COVID pandemic had kind of sucked my attention away from my hairline. I buzz cut my hair back in December 2019, and to be honest my hair grew back relatively fast. I passed through different points of beard and short hair / stubble before I started to get some length back. By April / May I already had decent growth again, so actually looking back it didn't take much longer than 4 months or so.
I've been dating a great girl over the past 2 months. But last night I had a kind of feeling that she looked at me and I could tell she was looking at my hair and being disappointed. In fact, she looks at my hairline more than I care for. Last night, I had gone for a tighter cut on the sides and also clean shaven after having stubble for a while. The reality is, I don't look so healthy anymore with a clean shave. The years of looking at a computer screen and living in the centre of a busy city have taken their toll somewhat, I look gaunt yet like a boy, its almsot like my face is too 'young'. A bit of a baby face that sometimes at age 31 doesn't work in my favour.. When I rocked up to hers, she made this remark, 'your hair is really short!' but in a kind of 'omg, you are balder then I realised' kind of manner, reading between the lines. And generally, I just felt a bit uncomfortable around her, it was that kind of feeling that you weren't sure whether she completely accepted you or not. She didn't at one point say, nice cut, you look great, or anything. And perhaps that lack of reassurance left me feeling somewhat insecure.
Anyway, it was a cruel reminder that clean shaving is no longer an option for me with my gaunt face and nw3.5 kind of look. I need to constantly maintain a beard. And the thing is, facial hair does make a massive difference to my face, older, more self assured, more manly. It's just a better look in so many ways. I kind of look like a boy in a man's body without a beard, and it does look kind of strange. I guess a weird thing happens when you have a beard for 3 months +, in that after that time period going back to clean shaven just doesn't seem natural anymore. Anyway. I'm not sure where I'm going with this. Only that I've remembered why I don't clean shave. Because it looks like sh*t. There is something about a beard that softens the features and takes the eyes away from the hairline. Especially if you still have coverage on top, most people don't even realise. But all of a sudden, you shave and it's like bam, people notice straight away.
Back to a substantial beard I think.
