sorry, another "it sux to be me" post

fred

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I am 23 yo from belgium (exkiouz for bad english) with aggressive diffuse thinning, I have itchy scalp, and my case has dramatically worsened the last 6 months.
I am not here to tell everyone that "it sux to be me"... Sorry it is stronger than me anyway. It really sux to be me.
for a lot of reasons, do you recognise yourself in that situation:
1) bald look doesn't suit me at all
2) I used to have long thick hair :hairy:
3) I have an untannable pasty white skin
4) I am a 23 yo who hasn't entirely assumed the fact I am not a teenager anymore;) (I want to be yooooung :smoke: )
5) Most of my success with girls came from the funky hairstyle I used to have. I had success with girls before but never really took advantage of it. If I had knew... :cry:
6) I have a very young looking face and people assume that I am 18-19 yo. The young looking face/horseshoe combo doesn't sound good to me. :roll:
7) I am dating a girl who is much younger (17) than I, who isn't aware of my hairloss yet (though at the rate it falls right now, within 2-3 weeks she unevitably will), and when I said that my 29 yo brother has no more hair she said "what? he lost his hair that young??? :freaked2: " erm... 8O and I could understand she wouldn't date a guy looking like her daddy...
8) and most of all, a bit of youth is falling out from my head every day (or rather everytime I take a shower twice a week) in a diffuse manner. I don't look the same everytime I get out of the shower. I really have the feeling that my youth is "countdowned" in a fast pace.
9) I frequent people who don't suffer from hairloss :hairy:
10) I don't have much money
11) and people don't get it.

For some reasons, those who deny my hairloss anger me rather than reassure me :evil:
for now, people don't really take a look at my hair but assume that I am on a bad hair day (well it's been 6 month that I am on a bad hair day), since my hair became impossible to style (I used to spike it but now the top is just short, thin, messy, and flat like a... well think about something flat). my friends jokingly ask me if I happen to comb my hair sometimes, which is actually not funny, since I last 3 times longer than before in my bathroom to make my hair look "correct". I have the feeling that I look 6 years older now than 6 month ago :( , and that it is just the beginning. people say they don't notice my hairloss yet but still I feel less attention from people, around me.
You figure out how important it is to look good when you begin to look bad. :cry: :cry: :cry:

Man, there are people depressed because they get some white hairs at 40... it sucks to degrade physically, visibly a bit more every week, that fast when you are 23. Taking a shower is the worst moment of the day, and I avoid like plague to look at the mirror when I have wet hair.

Well if you haven't commited suicide reading my post (I am in my dark humor period :twisted: ) then I would like to know if there is anyone in my situation (well since I am on a hairloss related forum I guess the answer is: Yes) and recorded some success with whatever regimen? how do you deal with that, what regimen are you on??? I would like advices and a cheap alternative I don't have much money. I am using a Dercos (Aminexil) shampoo which I know is crap (I had the illusion it worked the first days though) but I think it is still better than nothing till I decide to make a step for something serious. I would be happy if I can keep the hair I have right now, but since I am an agressive thinner, I guess I cannot reverse the situation since I should grow hairs in a faster rate than I lose them, which seems impossible to me, am I right??? Is there a hope?? sorry for the long post, I have less hair now than when I typed the first word of this post :) (no it is not -that- fast)
 

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Most people will tell you to get on Finasteride (Propecia), Minoxidil 5% and Nizoral shampoo (twice a week). The earlier you start, the better. Read the intro + faq section on this site as well if you haven't already. There's great info. there.

Hopefully Nizoral is available without prescription in Belgium and you can order generic Minoxidil pretty cheaply online if you can't find the 5% over the counter. Try to find a doctor that will prescribe you Proscar (which is the same drug as Propecia but in 5mg tablets) and you can use a pill cutter to split into fifths. It's much cheaper. That should keep your overall regimen below 50 euros/month?

Be patient. I'm only a couple weeks into my treatment, and from what I hear, it can get worse before it gets better.

Also, try not to stress or obsess too much. Easier said that done, I know!
 

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Fred: wow. I think you perfectly described my entire life. I'm 23 too, fair skin, dark hair...on the skinny side. My crazy hair is what used to attract the chicks too. I was known for my hair actually. I too fear looking old. I cant believe the stress I've been through because of this. I want to be young again too. You start to notice all other little imperfections when you begin to lose your hair. For example: "is my skin looking old?" "is my skin sagging" "do i have sun damage" "is my nose too big?" The list goes on. It is a sickness :( I find myself in a constant state of reassurance seeking from my peers. My day isnt good unless I have 1 or 2 chicks "check me out." I think I can still attract some chicks, but probably not as many as before.

I work part time as a health inspector while I'm finishing school. With a $500/month car payment and school bills I dont have a lot of money either. However, I am about to be promoted at work which is 60% more of my current income and I plan to use the extra money for a house and hair transplant. My parents said they would lend me the money if I needed it (for the transplant that is).

My advice? Try propecia 1mg or .5mg. Nothing else. See how that works. I'm going to be 24 soon, I will probably get a transplant at age 25 or 26. I refuse to be bald :)

Try not to stress over it man. If you need to talk PM me or something bro
good luck
 

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Fred, I feel for you man.

At some point you will have to come to an acceptance of what is happening to you. No, I am NOT saying you should give up... I AM saying that you need to get over the fact that your hair is falling out, and start concentrating on your fight. Not only your fight to keep your hair, but your fight to maintain your dignity and self esteem while you are beginning your treatment.

I highly recommend the "Big 3" for you. Finasteride (sold here in the states as Propecia) as a DHT inhibitor, and Minoxidil 5% as a follicle stimulant. These two treatments are the only ones proven and licensed here as being effective at treating hairloss. Nizoral shampoo is also recommended, it will improve the health of your scalp. Here in the States, the Minoxidil and Propecia treatments will cost about $2 per day on an ongoing basis. You can get these cheaper if you hunt around for generic online stores, plenty of which are mentioned here in this forum. These treatments WORK for a very high percentage of people who use them, so keep your head up because there is hope.

MOST IMPORTANTLY is that I strongly believe any hair loss treatment needs to be addressed from an internal nutrition situation as well. MAKE A COMMITMENT to your health and to nutrition. You don't need to be perfect, but keep in your mind as you make food choices through the day to try to make some healthier choices. Eat a variety of foods, and don't forget your fruits and vegetables. Cut down on fat, and quit smoking, right f*****g now. Quit it. Smoking damages blood vessels and speeds the natural ageing processes in your body. Get in some exercise too.

Lastly, you have to develop a healthier attitude. No matter what happens to your hair, and I hate to say this but even with treatment it always gets a little worse before it gets BETTER, you need to be POSITIVE and STRONG. So much of how girls view us men is not from our hair or clothing, but from our attitude, how confident we are... if we are happy with ourselves, it will show as beauty in the eyes of a woman. If we are sorry for ourselves, sad, we show it in how we carry ourselves, in our posture, etc and is unnattractive.

Get tough. Perhaps exercise and build up some additional muscle mass, now THAT will get you some positive attention and take away a little of the focus that people might have on your hair! It gets the endorphins into your blood, improves your sleep quality, your complexion, etc..

Make your fight against hair loss part of a broader fight against ageing, and FOR your overall attractiveness regardless of your hairline.

We are glad you are here... keep us posted, keep in touch.
 
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