The Death Of The Person That You Were.

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It's closing time where I work so I'm done working for the day. But before I leave the office I wanted to share with you all the reason I think we are all depressed about losing hair. In my view, hair loss = the death of the person that you were. That's why you're in mourning over hair loss. You're burying a person that you care about - the person that you were.
 
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I totally agree. Before my hair loss, I thought of myself as a pretty attractive woman with lots going for her. Now I feel like I'll never be that person again and I'll have to worry about my freaking hair for the rest of my life. It sucks!

I saw one of your posts on my other thread and you mentioned that you're cool if you're alone for the rest of your life. I thought it was so sad. Forgive me if that's a dumb question but why won't you date anyone?
 

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It's closing time where I work so I'm done working for the day. But before I leave the office I wanted to share with you all the reason I think we are all depressed about losing hair. In my view, hair loss = the death of the person that you were. That's why you're in mourning over hair loss. You're burying a person that you care about - the person that you were.

well said. absolutely. As a bald man, you are a physically a completely different person. Everyone will see you different and you have to wake up, look in the mirror and try to create the most positive perception out of it. I just don't know how I will cope when that day comes... which for me, seems really soon.
 

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The worst thing about each day is actually waking up.
 

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Nameless, you totally hit the nail on the head. Since hair loss affects so many aspects of your life, how can you even be the same person that you were before it?
 

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Nameless, I feel you.
But I have to suggest an alternative visual.

At 44 I have already envisaged that it is not only hairloss that makes human interactions go South.
Growing up, getting older, getting old.
There is practically no human interaction that improves while you get older. I have no kids but I see my friends with kids complaining that, as they grow, they distantiate themselves from their parents.

Probably hair loss makes everything worse. But the nature of life is that it is more eventful when it is newer.
 

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I totally agree. Before my hair loss, I thought of myself as a pretty attractive woman with lots going for her. Now I feel like I'll never be that person again and I'll have to worry about my freaking hair for the rest of my life. It sucks!

I saw one of your posts on my other thread and you mentioned that you're cool if you're alone for the rest of your life. I thought it was so sad. Forgive me if that's a dumb question but why won't you date anyone?

That's just the way it's going to play out.
Women do NOT want bald guys. I have come to
terms with this.
 

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It's because... you become a stranger in your own life.
 

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The worst thing about each day is actually waking up.

Wait..Black G.
I want to add few things.
Feww days back..
Because of my mistake,i slept on my left arm.
After waking up,my cutaneous sensations were lost for half a minute with tingling sensations running,
I literally had to pick my left harm like it was paralysed and dead by my Right Hand while waking up from bed.
This is due to ulnar nerve compression
Happily i recovered soon.
But it made me think if my hands were.



I lost my young looks.
Thats it.
Just a 30 sec of ulnar nerve can shook my hairloss depression.
Imagine an accident were one loses...
I don't want to complete that sentence.

Everyone should love themselves.

Many times i also feel hopeless because of hairloss
But accepting defeat is not a solution.

When i gave my exam,their were about 400 guys and girls.
I was one of the very very few baldies among them.

Imagine being bald at a controlled atmosphere...



Every boy and girl was watching me because exam hall entry had not started and all were looking at the entry gate.
Still i looked at every guy and girl who looked at me.

50% girls were of my height.
I kept my brain away from thinking bad about me.

Enjoyed that experience.

I never felt the power of Self Respect and Self Esteem before that day
 
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Wait..Black G.
I want to add few things.
Feww days back..
Because of my mistake,i slept on my left arm.
After waking up,my cutaneous sensations were lost for half a minute with tingling sensations running,
I literally had to pick my left harm like it was paralysed and dead by my Right Hand while waking up from bed.
This is due to ulnar nerve compression
Happily i recovered soon.
But it made me think if my hands were.



I lost my young looks.
Thats it.
Just a 30 sec of ulnar nerve can shook my hairloss depression.
Imagine an accident were one loses...
I don't want to complete that sentence.

Everyone should love themselves.

Many times i also feel hopeless because of hairloss
But accepting defeat is not a solution.

When i gave my exam,their were about 400 guys and girls.
I was one of the very very few baldies among them.

Imagine being bald at a controlled atmosphere...



Every boy and girl was watching me because exam hall entry had not started and all were looking at the entry gate.
Still i looked at every guy and girl who looked at me.

50% girls were of my height.
I kept my brain from thinking bad about me.

Enjoyed that experience.

I never felt the power of Self Respect and Self Esteem before that day
This was a nice story. Thank you.
 

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@Suarabhaj that's called advanced Coping, glad it helps you.

Hope one day you will eventually shave your head to sleek bald and gain the ultimate form of it.

Nice story tho.
 
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