The Drastic Transition Of Losing Your Looks And It's Horrifying Impact On Life.

[buckthorn]

My life is incredibly different these days. I have gone from a life of getting checked out by young girls all the time to a life where, even if i simply look in there direction, I am an old creep. I can see it in there eyes. It used to be a very flirtatious smile, or if in a car a giggle between friends and a quick look away. Now, it is a straight face, immediate look away as if they are disgusted and think I am some sort of old predator.
I used to know the later. I was a bartender for many years and I got to know them very well. The girls were trained to avoid them. I never thought I would be considered one. I mean, I don't even give two fucks about women these days. However, I know that they now consider me one of those men.
I am by no means "unnattractive" or "ugly". Now, I get the googly eyes from single moms, or older ladies. Which of course I enjoy.
It just happened so quick, within 2-3 years. Honestly. I don't know if the sickening stress of my own life compounded with losing my hair and having a disfiguring transplant has aged my face, or if it's simply the look in my eyes of abandoned hope.
I simply cannot comprehend how in such a shallow, image-based world, one copes with losing their image, losing their looks. I am an educated, self-made, successful man who has overcome the most horrendous situations, and yet, I cannot now or ever comprehend how to accept this.

Thanks for listening. I love you guys. I really do.

 

[whatintheworld]

Dude, if you got attention before, hair loss will hurt but it won't completely demolish your chances.

Do you have a clear complexion and nice teeth?

Do you run regularly/hit the gym?

Dress well?

Work on everything else you can and hope that meds/transplant will at least keep your hairline. What I've found is that if you at least have some type of hairline (mine is diffuse and utter sh*t but at least it frames my face), you aren't in the "bald guy" category. For most people it's like a binary thing (is he a "bald guy" or not?), where for us male pattern baldness sufferers we see the whole norwood spectrum of this disease, and tend to be our own worst critics.

 

[davesmith420]

tfw you always get looks of disgust from women in your mid 20s

J U S T

 

[buckthorn]

Dude, if you got attention before, hair loss will hurt but it won't completely demolish your chances.

Do you have a clear complexion and nice teeth?

Do you run regularly/hit the gym?

Dress well?

Work on everything else you can and hope that meds/transplant will at least keep your hairline. What I've found is that if you at least have some type of hairline (mine is diffuse and utter sh*t but at least it frames my face), you aren't in the "bald guy" category. For most people it's like a binary thing (is he a "bald guy" or not?), where for us male pattern baldness sufferers we see the whole norwood spectrum of this disease, and tend to be our own worst critics.

I do think I have a very handsome face, really good skin and nice teeth. I am still overweight, but working on that. I have a muscular build and workout intensly every day. still... it seems none of it actually matters when you have a big forehead and balding. none of it actually matters.

 

[buckthorn]

I don't remember you having a big forehead...

that's because you only saw the top of my head while it was between your beautiful legs.

 

[CopeForLife]

can't judge without pictors

 

[Dontwannabeabetabob]

How bad is you hair OP?

 

[CopeForLife]

How bad is you hair OP?

he has hairline!

 

[Dench57]

It just happened so quick, within 2-3 years. Honestly. I don't know if the sickening stress of my own life compounded with losing my hair and having a disfiguring transplant has aged my face, or if it's simply the look in my eyes of abandoned hope.

I simply cannot comprehend how in such a shallow, image-based world, one copes with losing their image, losing their looks. I am an educated, self-made, successful man who has overcome the most horrendous situations, and yet, I cannot now or ever comprehend how to accept this.

 

[blackg]

We need updated pictors. Love ya, Buck!

 

[PappinAce]

you're a good guy Buck. it's tough when the day comes that we stop receiving validation for the external parts of ourselves. i hope that you can keep focusing on the aspects of life that make you you! be good to your dog, play your instrument, read and learn new concepts, etc.

having your interactions with the opposite sex gutted by nature's machete, so early in life, is a shitty thing for all of us. but the most real things in life are always the thankless ones.

"when the wind rises, you must keep living."

may your hair loss stabilize

 

[buckthorn]

We need updated pictors. Love ya, Buck!

no, you don't. love you too Blackg!