Losing hair is hard, I agree. In fact, it's shite. I'm 28 but started to notice my hairline and thinning at about 21.
I managed to conceal it fairly well for a few years through concealers and such but it got me down.
I don't agree with the sly motto of shave, tan and bulk up. Not everyone looks good with a shaved head, not everyone can build up muscle well, and tanning no good Doctor would advise patients to get out there and tan.
I'm blethering on, but you can still get attractive girls if you are bald or balding. Have a look outside and you'll see tons. Some will argue that they met those people before their balding took a serious grip. Yes, that could well be the case but there are a lot of balding/bald guys out there who ask out girls and still get dates, and with hot dates as well.
Then it'll be, I don't look good amazingly great bald but I'm doing well with women right now, much more than when I had hair and was better looking. I've always been pretty average looking and could do ok dating wise, but right now, I'm getting a lot of feedback from women and people saying I look nice. I know myself, I look older and less cute without the hair, so I have been trying to figure out why I've been getting more attention.
I have been shaving it recently, I had both compliments like being told I look like Kelly Slater or Zane (I take these as compliments anyways
and also the not-so goodones like Billy Corgan or HIV patient.
9/10 the compliments are from women and the negatives are from men.
I'm more confident. When I was constantly hiding behind caps and throwing on toppik/dermatch, I was probably giving of all the wrong body signals. When I decided to not worry about it, I decided also that I was going to better myself. Become the best person that I can be. Be friendly, outgoing, chatty, and of course try to be funny and nice as well.
We can't control our hairloss or we can to an extent depending on your luck with topicals and such, but we can control who we want to be.
Not every woman will love a bald head and I'm not telling you to 'rock the sly look'.
I'm saying, try not to worry about hairloss as much, and keep living life and try to better yourself everyday. Read, exercise, get out there and meet people, do what you enjoy doing.
As cliched as it is, we only get one chance at this life. I wasted 3 years of my life deciding not to go to parties or bars on certain nights because it was too windy, rainy or I hadn't be given enough notice to get my hair ready.
Go out and live life.