The Reason Why This Society Is Full Of Nothing But Hypocrisy.

[Stanx22]

50 yo cancer patient loses his hair due to chemotherapy which will eventually grow back after the cancer is gone

People : "awwww, it's so depressing that he lost his hair" "i feel very bad for him" "losing hair must be a big deal for him".

20 yo male pattern baldness sufferer who lost most of his hair which will never grow back again and his life is completely destroyed

People : "just shave it bro" "stop being a pussy and man up!" "hair loss isn't that big of a deal" "the problem is with you not with your hair"

And bald shaming and victim blaming and women finally stop seeing you as a human being.

You know why people do this ?

Not because they give a sh*t about the cancer patient or anything, but because emphasizing with the cancer patient will make them look good and pure to hide their true shitty self from the world and cope with the fact that they're pure, but pure trash.

But the bald guy ? Who even gives a sh*t about this scum loser ? Why should i care about him when he has no value in the eyes of society ? I won't waste my time and effort to help this freak if i'm not getting anything in return.

This world is sick beyond imagination and anyone with enough awareness and intelligence will only see it.

People only start to feel themselves and how they are cruel c**** after they suffer enough to learn.

Suffering and pain are the only ways to mature in a right way.

 

[Rudiger]

Not because they give a sh*t about the cancer patient or anything, but because emphasizing with the cancer patient will make them look good and pure to hide their true shitty self from the world and cope with the fact that they're pure, but pure trash.

This kind of hypocrisy about people hit me early in life and really made me overly cynical and nihilistic.

I can't disagree that it's a lot more common in people than most people realise. However I at times started to realise that faux sympathy to impress others does not necessarily negate the genuine compassion they may feel in other facets of their lives, and while people can be absolute scumbags in lots of ways, they can also surprise you with the selflessness that they themselves aren't even aware of (which is why it's humble of course).

However- my cynicism can come full circle upon the realisation that these selfless acts or even just thoughts often involve direct family or friends, peers. So basically everything that tells us we need to preserve for our own self-preservation.

It's very hard to really know in yourself what kind of person you truly are, and those who claim to, are normally the worst hypocrites of all. So it's even harder to truly know what other people are like at their core.

 

[CopeForLife]

this is old classic FredTheBelgium with his "balding is worse than cancer"

 

[Stanx22]

this is old classic FredTheBelgium with his "balding is worse than cancer"

I'm not saying balding is worse than cancer.

I'm talking about the aspect of hair loss in both cases and how people react to it.

 

[Rudiger]

this is old classic FredTheBelgium with his "balding is worse than cancer"

That was my gut instinct as well but it isn't what he wrote (or at least wasn't the point of what he wrote).

 

[CopeForLife]

That was my gut instinct as well but it isn't what he wrote (or at least wasn't the point of what he wrote).

Yes point is another in this one

 

[Saurabhaj]

Baldness is a fun topic.

Do not bring it in public or read it on internet.

You will only see people making jokes about it.

 

[The Curse of Dolkite]

They are more sympathetic to the cancer patient's hair loss because a) it's a symbol of his sickness, and b) it happens far more rapidly than your average guy losing his hair over years.

I agree that remarks like "Man up, bro" or "It's no big deal" are not helpful, but what can you expect people to say? They could use a nicer tone, but would it really make you feel better if someone said, "Yeah, I know it sucks, man." I posted on here last week asking people if it would help if people were more sympathetic. It's bad enough losing your hair, but to know that other people find your balding to be amusing or even satisfying *if they really don't like you) AND for it to be socially acceptable to poke fun at it makes it much harder. Still, let's say people viewed your hair loss the way they did the cancer guy. It might feel good at first, but would you really want people saying for the rest of your life: "Oh, look at poor _____. He had this beautiful head of hair and then genetics took over. How hard it must be for him."

 

[seggy]

This kind of hypocrisy about people hit me early in life and really made me overly cynical and nihilistic.

In general people are, even smart people, very sloppy thinkers.

 

[Patrick_Bateman]

I'm not saying balding is worse than cancer.

I'm talking about the aspect of hair loss in both cases and how people react to it.

Balding is worse than some types of cancer for sure. I'd take testicular cancer before aggressive male pattern baldness in late teens.

 

[Stanx22]

Case in point, this classic retort that the vast majority of fullheads will come up with when the subject of balding comes up:

"Oh you know, if it ever happened to me, I'd just shave it all off and be done with it!"

Notice the simplicity of this belief, they know everything about hair loss, and they're 100% positive that if it happened to them, that would be their course of action.

It's such a simple axiom:

Noticing balding => Shaving it all off => Move on with life.

The real problem with baldness is that you can't just move on with life with it.

It's not about balding, it's about what will happen when someone finally goes bald.

Baldness IMO, is like carrying a huge weight on your shoulders and being expected to run as fast as people who carry nothing on their shoulders (fullheads).

 

[SmoothSailing]

It's just that they're willfully blind about some issues because it makes it easier for them to cope with reality.

Case in point, this classic retort that the vast majority of fullheads will come up with when the subject of balding comes up:

"Oh you know, if it ever happened to me, I'd just shave it all off and be done with it!"

Notice the simplicity of this belief, they know everything about hair loss, and they're 100% positive that if it happened to them, that would be their course of action.

It's such a simple axiom:

Noticing balding => Shaving it all off => Move on with life.

Now if you take the life of most of the young hair loss sufferers on this forum and compare what they had to go through to this arrogant statement, you'll notice that this isn't what happens at all: anxiety, depression, obsession, shaving? Not shaving? Hair transplant? Medication? Should I conceal it? Browsing the impact section. Do people notice? Is there wind outside? Denial. Hope. Acceptance. Back to denial. Bonus points if you get butchered by a FUT or if you lose tons of money on bogus natural treatments. Hope. Denial. Anxiety. Etc. etc. The chaos continues.

You get the picture, at least if you're a regular of this forum.

The truth is: the world of hair loss is a chaotic and endless pit, and those fullheads could lose their sanity by simply glancing at what's at the bottom of that pit. So instead of doing that (why would they anyway?), they just use that retort, and if you question it, they'll disregard your experience with hair loss and add:

"Grow up! You're obsessed with hair loss! No one cares about your hair! I'm done talking to you!"

And the next time the subject of balding comes up:

"Oh you know, if it ever happened to me, I'd just shave it all off and be done with it!"

"The only reason people care about your hairloss is because you care about it".

This is a logical nightmare to deal with.

> Act like you don't care about it and don't bring it up ever.

> It still negatively affects you.

> Continue acting like you don't care and not bringing it up.

> Continue being negatively affected.

> Bring it up with friends/family/therapist.

> "Well you obviously care about it if you're bringing it up with me. This is the route of your problem"

> "f***"

 

[BaldyBalderBald]

"The only reason people care about your hairloss is because you care about it".

This is a logical nightmare to deal with.

> Act like you don't care about it and don't bring it up ever.

> It still negatively affects you.

> Continue acting like you don't care and not bringing it up.

> Continue being negatively affected.

> Bring it up with friends/family/therapist.

> "Well you obviously care about it if you're bringing it up with me. This is the route of your problem"

> "f***"

You forgot

> Take jokes, remarks and stares at your rotting bird nest which acts as hair on a daily basis

> Try not to kill yourself when finally at home

 

[CaptainForehead]

It's just that they're willfully blind about some issues because it makes it easier for them to cope with reality.

In general people are, even smart people, very sloppy thinkers.

I was rewatching "The Inside Job" about the 2008 depression, and mulling over how even very smart people (Greenspan) could be so goddamn dumb on ignoring the dangers of certain financial weapons of mass destruction. Lately, I've also read retarded leftist tweets about how securing borders is just racist, that have been retweeted by people who I consider smarter than me. And I've been thinking how in the world could these smart people be so stupid.

My hypothesis is that people downplay the negatives if they haven't had personal experience with related situations. These people live in a bubble, and have no concept of the kind of pain that comes about when things go wrong. How could an NW1 have any concept of what it's like to start losing hair? Of the resulting loss in status?

As they say, pain is the best teacher.

 

[seggy]

It's just that they're willfully blind about some issues because it makes it easier for them to cope with reality.

I'm not sure it is always willfully. IT's just that people do not care to reconsider their own position ever on anything.

In My country, a while back, they decides to separate gender and sex on your passport. I had a discussion about that with friend. I found that, some of them have literally no reason to to be against it other than: this is the current way it is and transgender people are weirdo's. Once you point out that that in itself it is not a good reason, they start to reason ad-hoc. Well, it is a good property to identify somebody. So is skin color....and all of a sudden I'm the racist.

People, in general, do not care to think about anything. Even my mom says: well, nearly 70% of men will go bald, so it is not a big deal. Next time somebody gets cancer you can argue: well, everybody has to die some time, so no biggy. It's not that I want to equate hairloss with cancer, it's is the form of the argument.

In wonder how many people had experiences like this: when young going bald. People: "don't worry, look at Andre Aggasy, he is bald and sexy. Me go shave my head like Andrea Aggasy. People: omg, what did you do. Nice detail, Aggasy wore a wig for years. Imagine, a tennis super star feeling so shitty about his bald head that he wore a wig for years. Any how, that just my rant. I hope they will find a cure, but I doubt it.

 

[Saurabhaj]

I wish people correlate baldness with something like imprisonment of 10 years of youthfullness rather than cancer.

Aetiology of most cancer starts near age 35,so for science or god sake,please avoid this cancer related posts here.