Listen well. For I will only try to set you free once. Just once.
The only reason you live like that is because you have depression. It is not your hair, your height, your penis, your muscles or your status. You have grown to hate yourself and become victim of cheap advertisements and stereotypes. At the same time, you have grown accustomed to judge from the safety of your room and waste your days for nothing. You’re miserable and your excuse here is your hair loss. Fear not. This is all reversible and I’m gonna tell you how.
This is all because of depression which is nothing more than YOUR own decision to shoot your self in the foot by creating false realities and negative thoughts, generating an insane amount of excuses.
You use false ways of judgement, such as generalization, all or nothing, etc. You need to learn to manipulate your brain and you’ll be free from depression.
Examples:
Someone makes a negative comment on your hair while you are out having coffee. Your reaction will be that everyone thinks you look ugly. Your second thought will be that the girl you are with has just rejected you.
Correction:
A single person’s opinion does not mean every single person on that bar or shop has come to the same conclusion because you have no proof such thing has happened. Being bald does not mean you are ugly because you have had compliments by family members or even strangers on your looks, compliments that you shut down and did not accept. Being bald does not mean that you have no other good looks. The girl has met you bald and is now with you for coffee so she cannot possibly reject you for that, she has seen you bald, she is with you.
See what I just did? I used logic to defeat the automatic negative thoughts generated by your own brain. Another person can never harm you with what they say, even if they are correct. For example: a co-worker blames you for being late at work. You were late at work. He calls you useless, perhaps incompetent. Now, you may become stressed and think that you will be fired or that your co-workers think you are a jerk. Let’s break it down: while the fact you being late is true, the rest is not. You are not incompetent because you have had days and days of being efficient at work, you have done your job properly. You will not be fired for a single incident. Your co-workers do not think you are a jerk because they have not behaved at you in such manner and you possible have co-workers as friends with whom you speak to on a daily basis. Thus, the right course of action is to understand you were late and say “I will try to be on time”.
See that? I just remained calm and assessed the situation properly. I did not create a number or imaginary situations that would make my brain go nuts.
This is exactly the same with hair loss. Is baldness something that you rather not have than have? Yes. Does it create frustration to you for damaging your looks and your perception of acceptance? Yes. Do these have any basis at all? Yes, for you. Are they real? No. Why? Because the frustration is purely a sentiment generated by YOU and YOUR thoughts. If I call you “hey baldyyyy” fifty times, it means nothing. You can choose to filter the information accordingly or let it make you depressive.
The same applies for the over-generalization mistake you usually make: one girl commented bad on my hair, I will never find a girl, I will be alone for ever.
What are the mistakes here? Over-generalization (all girls don’t want me), all or nothing (I need hair or I’m done), falsely guessing the future (I will never find a girl, I will be alone for ever). I won’t explain it further, you get the point.
Now, this is how you save yourself. You can keep a calendar, write down your negative thoughts and then on the side, write the rationalization I gave an example of. Another thing is your belief that you don’t do enough in your day. You feel useless. Again, not true. You can buy a small item that registers clicks and every time you complete a chore or an activity, click it. Monitor how many clicks you have per day.
See? Another simple way.
All this is but a glimpse of what you can do. I want to tell you that without the use of drugs and without hair, you can transform your life and banish depression for ever, finding freedom. It is not a secret that most of you have issues beyond hair loss, such as your height, face, etc. Use these principles, remember what I told you. It takes time but it works.
Some of you would be eager to swallow poison or pay 100k to some Japanese dude promising things. It’s worth investing few minutes every day to do what I described here.
Good luck.
The only reason you live like that is because you have depression. It is not your hair, your height, your penis, your muscles or your status. You have grown to hate yourself and become victim of cheap advertisements and stereotypes. At the same time, you have grown accustomed to judge from the safety of your room and waste your days for nothing. You’re miserable and your excuse here is your hair loss. Fear not. This is all reversible and I’m gonna tell you how.
This is all because of depression which is nothing more than YOUR own decision to shoot your self in the foot by creating false realities and negative thoughts, generating an insane amount of excuses.
You use false ways of judgement, such as generalization, all or nothing, etc. You need to learn to manipulate your brain and you’ll be free from depression.
Examples:
Someone makes a negative comment on your hair while you are out having coffee. Your reaction will be that everyone thinks you look ugly. Your second thought will be that the girl you are with has just rejected you.
Correction:
A single person’s opinion does not mean every single person on that bar or shop has come to the same conclusion because you have no proof such thing has happened. Being bald does not mean you are ugly because you have had compliments by family members or even strangers on your looks, compliments that you shut down and did not accept. Being bald does not mean that you have no other good looks. The girl has met you bald and is now with you for coffee so she cannot possibly reject you for that, she has seen you bald, she is with you.
See what I just did? I used logic to defeat the automatic negative thoughts generated by your own brain. Another person can never harm you with what they say, even if they are correct. For example: a co-worker blames you for being late at work. You were late at work. He calls you useless, perhaps incompetent. Now, you may become stressed and think that you will be fired or that your co-workers think you are a jerk. Let’s break it down: while the fact you being late is true, the rest is not. You are not incompetent because you have had days and days of being efficient at work, you have done your job properly. You will not be fired for a single incident. Your co-workers do not think you are a jerk because they have not behaved at you in such manner and you possible have co-workers as friends with whom you speak to on a daily basis. Thus, the right course of action is to understand you were late and say “I will try to be on time”.
See that? I just remained calm and assessed the situation properly. I did not create a number or imaginary situations that would make my brain go nuts.
This is exactly the same with hair loss. Is baldness something that you rather not have than have? Yes. Does it create frustration to you for damaging your looks and your perception of acceptance? Yes. Do these have any basis at all? Yes, for you. Are they real? No. Why? Because the frustration is purely a sentiment generated by YOU and YOUR thoughts. If I call you “hey baldyyyy” fifty times, it means nothing. You can choose to filter the information accordingly or let it make you depressive.
The same applies for the over-generalization mistake you usually make: one girl commented bad on my hair, I will never find a girl, I will be alone for ever.
What are the mistakes here? Over-generalization (all girls don’t want me), all or nothing (I need hair or I’m done), falsely guessing the future (I will never find a girl, I will be alone for ever). I won’t explain it further, you get the point.
Now, this is how you save yourself. You can keep a calendar, write down your negative thoughts and then on the side, write the rationalization I gave an example of. Another thing is your belief that you don’t do enough in your day. You feel useless. Again, not true. You can buy a small item that registers clicks and every time you complete a chore or an activity, click it. Monitor how many clicks you have per day.
See? Another simple way.
All this is but a glimpse of what you can do. I want to tell you that without the use of drugs and without hair, you can transform your life and banish depression for ever, finding freedom. It is not a secret that most of you have issues beyond hair loss, such as your height, face, etc. Use these principles, remember what I told you. It takes time but it works.
Some of you would be eager to swallow poison or pay 100k to some Japanese dude promising things. It’s worth investing few minutes every day to do what I described here.
Good luck.
