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[uncomfortable man]

So by now some of you may be under the impression that I am an alcoholic by all of the bar antidotes I tell.... I swear I am only an occasional social drinker. BUT, I just came from a bar downtown and I've yet another story to tell

My old friend of sixteen years is having his 33 birthday and him and my other good friend convinced me to go out with them. I met up with them a little late and they already met some female company to talk to. We mingled around w/e. But towards the end of the night we start talking to these other two girls. One of them was an asian girl who was trying to shake this short guy who was talking to her. While in conversation, she kept insulting this guy calling him a short little runt and a half pint and so on (while he wasn't there) and she kept calling me a convict because of my beanie. After some funny jokes she put her arm around mine and said "let's get out of here, convict." I didn't want to have anything to do with this superficial b**ch so after I sent her some obvious signals that I wasn't interested I told her, let's just keep it friendly and then went outside for a smoke. Birthday boy followed me out and he told me that asian chick was on my nuts. I said what is the point? As soon as the beanie comes off then it's game over, so I pulled a pre-emtive strike for preventative measures. I've got a girl anyway and I was just out to have fun with my friends but damn, I f*****g hate having to hide under this god damned beanie just to be perceived as f*****g normal. It just rubs the pain of being bald in that much harder when you know if it weren't for this ONE GOD DAMNED MOTHER f*****g THING I could be mopping up right now.

 

[Ori83]

You know, a few years back i wouldnt agree with that attitude, but now when my hairloss got really severe, i understand where you coming from, this situation is very familiar to me! i really fancy this girl that works with me, she has everything i want (she is cute, but by no means *hot* or anything) she is in her early-mid twenties but there is no way on HELL im going to make a move, 100% sure ill get shot-down ( i know the signs when a girl is interested, and although she like my personality, she not interested... unfortunately ) and i dont want to go throw that experience with someone that i really like, yet i know if i had my hair it was completely different story... i mean im 28, i **should** be able to date girls in their mid twenties, but i know it wont happened, so why even bother? just make her uncomfortable while she has to reject me?! i like her, i dont want her to go throw this.

so yeah, i agree about taking preventative measures. and im very cautious these days when i approach, just to prevent unpleasant situation.

 

[seb]

Men who are bald/balding have to come too terms with the reality that NO women really find us appealing,humans are supposed too have hair on top of their heads....and forget quoting famous bald men that are deemed attractive,peoples minds have been brainwashed by the media.Fact,baldness is ugly,and thus we are,regardless of our postive attributes.

 

[TravisB]

UCman, interesting story, I wonder if this girl would act the same if you were without your hat? I think being a hat prisoner is one of the worst things you can do if you're bald. It will be way less shocking for people to see you bald instantly, than it will be after you remove your hat and present your bald head. I can imagine it drains you psychically.

 

[optimus prime]

UM you don't want a girl like that anyway. You want to avoid girls who you meet at bars and are willing to 'go home' with you. My friend (a girl) is 27 and she is dating a guy in his 40s who is bald. There are girls who don't care, and they are young and pretty as well. You just have to look in the right places.

 

[seb]

If a girl who is 27 and is with a guy who is in his 40s and bald,then it is obvious she is not with him for his physical attributes.Perhaps a father figure,sugar daddy,or some other material/or psychological need.

 

[optimus prime]

If a girl who is 27 and is with a guy who is in his 40s and bald,then it is obvious she is not with him for his physical attributes.Perhaps a father figure,sugar daddy,or some other material/or psychological need.

Why? Are you saying all bald guys in their 40s are ugly?

I think its a balance. Women get attracted to a man's aura, masculinity and personality more so than physical appearance. She wanted to settle down, he was mature and responsible. Nothing to do with money, she is financially ok.

 

[seb]

No I am saying ALL guys,regardless of age who are bald are ugly .Call me cynical,but IMO there has too be an underlining reason why a 20something woman would choose too be in a relationship with a bald 40something.

 

[Primo]

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[Primo]

UCman, I don't understand? On the one hand you're happily settled with your girlfriend and moaning about these superficial b****s, but on the other you wish you could be "mopping up" the game right now if it wasn't for baldness?

 

[uncomfortable man]

UCman, I don't understand? On the one hand you're happily settled with your girlfriend and moaning about these superficial b****s, but on the other you wish you could be "mopping up" the game right now if it wasn't for baldness?

I'm aware of the contradiction or conflict rather. I guess the real test would be if I had hair, could I have the strength to not be tempted by all the female attention? Maybe just feel tempted but not to act on it. Short answer: I'm a guy and although I am in a happy relationship, I suppose I still want to be found attractive by the opposite sex. Not that I would bang anything that moves if I had hair but it just sucks knowing that people in general (not just hot chicks) wouldn't be as cool with me if I went without the beanie. Besides, I made the mistake of cheating on her before (earlier in our relationship) and I would not repeat that again hair or no hair. But I can't help but think how much different my life would be if I had never lost my hair.

 

[deadlocks]

Don't understand it either... Really, I'd watch out with that kind of behavior.

 

[optimus prime]

UCman, I don't understand? On the one hand you're happily settled with your girlfriend and moaning about these superficial b****s, but on the other you wish you could be "mopping up" the game right now if it wasn't for baldness?

I'm aware of the contradiction or conflict rather. I guess the real test would be if I had hair, could I have the strength to not be tempted by all the female attention? Maybe just feel tempted but not to act on it. Short answer: I'm a guy and although I am in a happy relationship, I suppose I still want to be found attractive by the opposite sex. Not that I would bang anything that moves if I had hair but it just sucks knowing that people in general (not just hot chicks) wouldn't be as cool with me if I went without the beanie. Besides, I made the mistake of cheating on her before (earlier in our relationship) and I would not repeat that again hair or no hair. But I can't help but think how much different my life would be if I had never lost my hair.

You know, you should count yourself lucky. Yes your life would have been different if you had hair, but not necessary in a good way.

You cheated on the mother of your daughter. Lets imagine you had lots of hair. You would have then forgot about your ex. Maybe banged a few other women. Kept doing this for years until maybe you felt empty. Missed out on your daughters life.. Partied hard. etc. Eventually this lifestyle runs out, hair or not. We all get old and ugly.

However now you don't have hair and it has made you humble. You have managed to get another chance (Congrats by the way, I did not know this). You will never cheat on her again and it gives you the chance to treasure your daughter.

Why don't you marry your girlfriend, have another child and enjoy life and not worry as much what other women think. (I say this, but I do appreciate how important it is to feel handsome by other women even if you don't want them. I feel the same).

What my point is, sometimes you think life would be better with hair, but losing your hair made you treasure important things.

That happened to me anyway. Losing my hair made me settle down an take life more serious. Now that I take life more serious I wish I could have my hair back.

 

[Primo]

That it right there....

You can either go for a meaningful life of monogamy, a loving wife and family that you adore or a decadent, hedonistic lifestyle of a bachelor, with countless trashy w****s along the way, the two don't often mix very well... every guy obviously dreams of living the lifestyle of the latter, but even those guys "fortunate" enough to have had the chance to live like this admit that it grows wearisome and hollow after a few years.

Take that american guy, who reportedly has the largest penis in the world, he even said after a while he just got tired of shagging different girls every night and eventually felt "burnt out" :woot: I guess all that superficial attention and affection only goes so far.

 

[s.a.f]

That it right there....

You can either go for a meaningful life of monogamy, a loving wife and family that you adore or a decadent, hedonistic lifestyle of a bachelor, with countless trashy w****s along the way, the two don't often mix very well... every guy obviously dreams of living the lifestyle of the latter, but even those guys "fortunate" enough to have had the chance to live like this admit that it grows wearisome and hollow after a few years.

It does'nt have to be one extreme or the other. And for every bald guy in UCmans situation there seems to be 10 lonely single guys.
If you met a guy on welfare who said that having no money meant he learned to appreciate the simple things in life, would you feel tempted to give away all your worldly possesions and money?

For plenty of people the monogomous life you described just does'nt work out. And TBH to spend your 20's living the decadent, hedonistic lifestyle sounds pretty good to me. :whistle:

 

[CaptainForehead]

Anyone seen the south park episode:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_Healing_(South_Park)

It was hilarious.
"You mean to say young men will work hard to earn money and become rich just so that they can have more sex????"

 

[s.a.f]

I've heard it theorised that every great achievment of man was probably done in an effort to impress females.

 

[barcafan]

So by now some of you may be under the impression that I am an alcoholic by all of the bar antidotes I tell.....

No, but mistaking anecdote for antidote makes a good case.



JK BREH

 

[uncomfortable man]

Ha, I was drunk when I wrote OP. Drinkin too much antidote.