wasted early 20s

[noneother]

man

i just want to get this off my chest.

i've become a recluse in when i started balding. hiding from the world. because of this i turned down social events and didn't meet many people during my early 20s.

i'm now 25 and looking back - 5 years wasted of doing sh*t!

FML.

i'm going to get a toupee and make up for lost time.

 

[Joe-1991]

i have been a little bit of a recluse for 6 months but because finasteride made me impotent and gave me other issues too, not my hair

 

[fodandahalf]

I was a bit of a recluse at the age of 17 because my hair took so long to style appropriately. I have a large forehead (that's always been there) and the right side of my hairline has been receded a little since I was 14/15. The other side has just about caught up now so I'm thinking it's a mature hairline.

Nevertheless, there are so many bald headed men who have such a great life- I really don't think it's a priority when it comes to image. If it was something we were born with, like some men have a crooked nose or a lazy eye, then we'd get over it. It's the gradual loss that makes it so devestating, if we can get over that, or like you say just fix it with a piece, transplantation, SMP whatever, then we'd see that there is so much more than just hair. Sure we can do our best to keep it, we should want to present ourselves as best we can, but it's really not a s big a deal as people think!

 

[Pacman]

male pattern baldness sucks but I would never take it on myself to stop socalising or become a recluse as a result.

Although I guess you could say that sub-consciously - it has effected my confidence/self belief/esteem in ways that I'm not immediately aware of. Perhaps if I had that nw1 I wouldn't think twice about starting up a conversation with that nice girl, or going that extra mile in life. I don't feel consciously that I am purposely taking a step back from life due to my hair loss. I'm trying to win in life..but who knows how much hair loss effects in a deep way that may be hard to notice in day to day life..

Also..I think of it this way. We become so used to our patterns of thoughts over the years that maybe even though I feel 'normal' in terms of confidence, that perhaps actually I already have negative thought cycles due to hair loss, its just that they have become so ingrained that they are hard to notice now.

But in my case, I believe I am trying to improve in life. I believe that hair loss/baldness isn't the be all and end all and I believe we should all be as positive as we can, even if hair loss does make an impact that is hard to just shrug off, both in how others perceive us and how we perceive ourselves.

But never surrender from life.

 

[BrightonBaldy]

for the past 2-3 years i neglected myself because of hairloss, i would turn down invitations and find every excuse to not go out or even just round to friends places.

ive always had a problem with it when around people that knew me when i had hair, ive never cared about being 'the bald guy' with strangers and its always showed with my confidence levels between work and private life.

so what did i do about it? ive started again, im in my late 20's with no ties, if i was ever going to up sticks and f*** off into the unknown then it was now or never. being bald is a non-issue for me now, i want my hair back but it doesnt phase me day to day..

ive found myself talking with people openly about rooneys hair transplants, rogaine etc in a way that wouldve killed me 6 months ago.. because all the people i meet now have never known me with hair, it isnt a talking point at all. im chatting sh*t to the fittest women like im brad pitt again.

all i had to do was move 500 miles away from home lol...

 

[BrightonBaldy]

ps. i didnt restart my life because of baldness, i lost my job so had to travel for a new one. having self confidence again is just an extra i wasnt expecting.

i cant help but speculate just how much of a role my being a recluse changed my standing in my old job though, im a new man these days so it wont happen again.

anybody who is similar, in that they struggle around old friends rather than strangers, do the same as me.. pick a new city, throw a dart at a map, f*** off to it.. see what happens

 

[BrightonBaldy]

you might want to try a hat up there mate

or a tropical pacific island?

i ended up moving to an even bigger city than the one i went bald in

 

[noneother]

for the past 2-3 years i neglected myself because of hairloss, i would turn down invitations and find every excuse to not go out or even just round to friends places.

ive always had a problem with it when around people that knew me when i had hair, ive never cared about being 'the bald guy' with strangers and its always showed with my confidence levels between work and private life.

so what did i do about it? ive started again, im in my late 20's with no ties, if i was ever going to up sticks and f*ck off into the unknown then it was now or never. being bald is a non-issue for me now, i want my hair back but it doesnt phase me day to day..

ive found myself talking with people openly about rooneys hair transplants, rogaine etc in a way that wouldve killed me 6 months ago.. because all the people i meet now have never known me with hair, it isnt a talking point at all. im chatting sh*t to the fittest women like im brad pitt again.

all i had to do was move 500 miles away from home lol...

yeah that what i plan to do...move to diff city and start fresh

 

[CaptainForehead]

. I was just showing how I feel sometimes about the world

Yeah, I sometimes feel that way too! unk:

 

[BrightonBaldy]

it would be ironic and funny if somebody did piss off into the wilderness to get away from his baldness but ended up somewhere so cold they had to wear a hat all the time

 

[uncomfortable man]

I'm sorry but all this talk about moving to another town seems a little extreme to me. Your bald, not a child molester or on the witness protection program.

 

[BrightonBaldy]

lol too true UM.

in my defence i did move to get a new job first and foremost, ive regained a social life because ive never cared about being a baldy to strangers. everything considered it has helped me, it wouldnt help everyone.

im due to head home for a week in december and tbh im not lookimg forward to it, ill have to deal with all the people who knew me with hair again.