Why doesn't coping freaking work? I don't get it

[Feelsbadman]

I tried coping but you just can not turn off he feeling no matter how hard I try. I was happy I got promoted last week. I focus on my health and the good things i life and try and practice gratitude. But no matter how hard i cope i can't switch off my desire to be with women.
It is not the main focus in my life, but people just don't seem to get it.

It's like if you are well fed, you don't care about food
if you are rich you don't care that much about money

but how about if you are starving hungry? food is always on your mind you just can't not think about it

The guys on here who say balding isn't that bad and women aren't the priority in their life or they haven't had a girlfriend in a while probably are in a position where they already get a lot of female attention and dating options in the first place.

But what if you have 0 options due to bad genetics? you're virtually a ghost?

there is no 'abundance' mind set because well you have nothing in the first place.

how ddo you copee?

 

[Diffused_confidence]

You don't. People like us are at the mercy of new treatments

 

[Feelsbadman]

You don't. People like us are at the mercy of new treatments

I get depressed thinking about my lookswhat can I do?

 

[DoctorHouse]

I get depressed thinking about my lookswhat can I do?

Have you actually shown anyone what you look like on here? I remember other posters who were like you and when they finally showed their photos they were actually well above average.

 

[Templah]

I get depressed thinking

Dutasteride brainfogmaxx

 

[Feelsbadman]

Dutasteride brainfogmaxx

yes finasteride gives me brain fog its good my memories are so bad so thus i dont remmeber or care about sex or anything just felen numb and confusde all day lol

 

[Diffused_confidence]

yes finasteride gives me brain fog its good my memories are so bad so thus i dont remmeber or care about sex or anything just felen numb and confusde all day lol

Send pics and I'll explain if you can looksmaxx or it's over.

 

[Feelsbadman]

Send pics and I'll explain if you can looksmaxx or it's over.

I already know that I can but it causes me depression..

I looksmaxxed and got a gf. But all it did was made me realise how superficial everything was. Looksmaxxing was a curse. I can't ever just have a relation or interaction with a women for being me. I've been on both sides of the coin and its night and day. It's made me realise that personality doesn't mean much at all. Women just think you're interesting and funny if youre' good looking.

I don't even bother going on dates when I look like crap or my natural look. Through a tonne of trial and error I know what i need to do to look good but doing these things costs to much (mentally). I have an ugly/round face so I need to starve myself to an extremely low body fat and this gives me almost model like features (high cheek bones and bit of a jaw line) + making sure i drink tonnes of water and sleep well (due to my genetic dark circles) + tanning (due to my naturally sick pale skin) + making sure my hair is 100% on point + a tonne of other things.

I go through these extreme measures and have success but it is not sustainable. Even a slight increase in body fat and my face goes back to being ugly, or if i eat a bit of salty food it looks like i've been punched in the eyes. It's ruined relationships/dating as I know i cant get women for being "me' and i need to go to these extremes to have success.. which isn't sustainable or a happy life.

 

[wardaxan]

Lol

 

[Oknow]

I tried coping but you just can not turn off he feeling no matter how hard I try. I was happy I got promoted last week. I focus on my health and the good things i life and try and practice gratitude. But no matter how hard i cope i can't switch off my desire to be with women.
It is not the main focus in my life, but people just don't seem to get it.

It's like if you are well fed, you don't care about food
if you are rich you don't care that much about money

but how about if you are starving hungry? food is always on your mind you just can't not think about it

The guys on here who say balding isn't that bad and women aren't the priority in their life or they haven't had a girlfriend in a while probably are in a position where they already get a lot of female attention and dating options in the first place.

But what if you have 0 options due to bad genetics? you're virtually a ghost?

there is no 'abundance' mind set because well you have nothing in the first place.

how ddo you copee?

To cope, it’s important to start by accepting the situation for what it is. You will then be less frustrated and a bit happier

I’ve recently been on a drought

- getting matches ghosting after a message
- not being able to go to the gym, vaccine knocked me out
- work frustration

I was struggling to cope, now things are starting to pick up again