Boondock
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One thing that's always struck me as odd is how some users here report being mocked regularly for baldness, while others say it very rarely happens. This seems to be the case even taking account of the different countries or states posters live in, and the different career paths and age groups people are in. Why should it happen?
Here's one theory for why these differences exist.
I believe that in many cases, when people rip on others for baldness they are not mocking them because they are bald. Rather, they are using the baldness as a means to mock someone who they already want to insult. In other words, they have some motivation to rip on a person, and baldness is just the weak spot they use to get at them.
Have you ever noticed how some short people get abuse, but others get very little? Or how one friend who's not the brightest spark will get ripped on about it, while another won't?
The difference, I believe, is how people perceive you in the first place. If you're a basically respectable person, good to people, successful, and fun to be around, people won't mock you for baldness because they don't give a damn about it. If you're someone who's not very likeable, or who is rude to people, or who is a failure or weak-willed or the kind of person others rip on as an 'easy target', you may get abused for baldness because people know it's a way to get at you.
In either scenario people don't really hate you for baldness. It's just that in the latter case baldness is used as an insult because the abuser knows it's gunna get to you.
So my argument would be that there are very few people who are mocked for baldness who are also:
- nice
- fun to be around
- successful
- strong-willed and able to stick up for themselves
- respected, and high in the 'pecking order' socially
The only people who'll be abused for it will be those who, for one reason or another, set themselves up to be people who'll get abused, and also happen to be bald.
The implication of this is that if you're balding and worried about being mocked, if you work hard to become a successful and respectable person, you'll be a lot less likely to get ripped on for it.
If you think of any bald but respected and successful people in your own life, I'd wager that you'll never have seem them socially mocked for their lack of hair.
Thoughts?
Here's one theory for why these differences exist.
I believe that in many cases, when people rip on others for baldness they are not mocking them because they are bald. Rather, they are using the baldness as a means to mock someone who they already want to insult. In other words, they have some motivation to rip on a person, and baldness is just the weak spot they use to get at them.
Have you ever noticed how some short people get abuse, but others get very little? Or how one friend who's not the brightest spark will get ripped on about it, while another won't?
The difference, I believe, is how people perceive you in the first place. If you're a basically respectable person, good to people, successful, and fun to be around, people won't mock you for baldness because they don't give a damn about it. If you're someone who's not very likeable, or who is rude to people, or who is a failure or weak-willed or the kind of person others rip on as an 'easy target', you may get abused for baldness because people know it's a way to get at you.
In either scenario people don't really hate you for baldness. It's just that in the latter case baldness is used as an insult because the abuser knows it's gunna get to you.
So my argument would be that there are very few people who are mocked for baldness who are also:
- nice
- fun to be around
- successful
- strong-willed and able to stick up for themselves
- respected, and high in the 'pecking order' socially
The only people who'll be abused for it will be those who, for one reason or another, set themselves up to be people who'll get abused, and also happen to be bald.
The implication of this is that if you're balding and worried about being mocked, if you work hard to become a successful and respectable person, you'll be a lot less likely to get ripped on for it.
If you think of any bald but respected and successful people in your own life, I'd wager that you'll never have seem them socially mocked for their lack of hair.
Thoughts?