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This is just a reaction to a lot of posts I've read here over the years from young guys suffering with hairloss in late teens early 20s who don't know what to do with their lives and think it's all the end of the world.
One bit of advice I might humbly proffer to anyone young here suffering with hairloss - and obviously you can just laugh in my face and tell me to shut up, but I genuinely happen to think it's not a bad idea- is that if you have a motivation towards science, and are introspective enough to be researching your own conditions such as hairloss on here, and 'extrospective' enough to be on a board like this, communicating with ,advising and supporting others - consider studying MEDICINE , seriously.
You would probably be good at it, hopefully continue to develop the sense of empathy that this place tries to engender, and find it an interesting subject.
And to address one of the main esteem issues that young guys with hairloss here seem to have - getting 'chicks' ; well let me assure you
I have known plenty of guys from med school who were by early-mid 20s bald or balding who never had problems getting girls (med school parties, drinking, lots of female med and nursing students); and even since graduating and working, there have always been older bald docs in the hierarchy who the younger female med students and doctors fancy and date, even if they are bald and not that great looking - as long as they are intelligent,confident, successful, genuinely caring without being wimpy, and articulate. It's a big winner.
So it obviously doesn't just attract shallow women who are after money 'cos female doctors earn just as much as their male counterparts, and in any case if you encounter so-called gold diggers outside work, you will have the upper hand anyway because they kind of know at heart that you can get other women if you're a young doctor, and they probably know that they're shallow and you're not, and will eventually see through them.
You do meet LOADS of women through medical school and once you start practising, and girls in the medical and nursing professions, ideally, tend to be a bit less judgemental, more open-minded and caring (of course there are exceptions, but just entertain the generalisation for a bit), and hair loss doesn't seem to bother them that much, personality and the other qualities I described above impress them much , much more. Women doctors are still women of course, but many are really cute and lovely people and don't care less about the things that most of the women you guys are worrying about put emphasis on (superficial qualities like hair etc). And once/if you get a girl like that, you won't really care what the superficial bimbos think of you anyway, because you'll have a classy,intelligent and cute girl that really likes you for who you are, not your follicle count.
Personally my hair loss is fairly well controlled at the moment with propecia and nizoral since about 2005 and my own confidence issues are mainly just from still being quite skinny and being only 5'7-5'7 1/2 and looking quite young for 28! I know I won't get the 5'10 statuesque girls but that was never gonna happen even when I had all the hair I ever would at 19 or 20, so that's no shock. In fact the older you get as a doctor, the more attractive you will be to women in a similar age group because other men will start balding to by their 30s, but by that time you will not just be another baldy but probably a successful consultant physician/surgeon/whatever.
Of course none of the above was my personal incentive to apply to med school at the age of 18, because I had no idea hairloss even happened to people under 60 at that age! I did it for the same reasons anyone does - liked science, liked working with people, liked the idea of helping people (like everyone), didn't want to do a desk/computing/accounting type job etc...and yeah the status thing I did think would come in handy in the future in a variety of social situations (which it does). If it's just money you're after though, look elsewhere because at least in the UK it's not highly paid to start off with until you do loads of further training and become a consultant.
But it was definitely even more of a good choice given that I destined to end up with (a degree of) hairloss at 23. Studying and practising medicine will give you more focus, and also you will learn about an entire world and history of suffering and disease which makes you realise hairloss really isn't the end of the world, and put your own problems in perspective. It helps you temper the way you react to things, so when someone stalls at a traffic light, you don't fly off the handle and beep your horn, because you probably had to tell someone their loved one died earlier that day, and getting worked up over trivialites then looks insignificant.
Of course it's much easier to do all this in the UK, with our subsidised universities/med schools, and the shorter medical degree course (5years).
It takes a bit longer in the US, but any young brits who like the sound of the above, I would strongly advise considering it, . I originally decided near to graduation that I wanted to do dermatology (to cure hairloss..lol) but am now specialising in psychiatry, I think it's a bit more up my street and really fascinating.
So that's my personal recruitment drive for medicine. Think about it..I would appreciate any feedback if you think this is good advice. I've tried to pitch it to people with a combination of the right and real reasons to go into medicine, as well as explaining that there will be future bonuses which well help you develop confidence, self-esteem and a genuine feeling of self-worth as, trust me, for all the whinging about bad/dodgy doctors, you help a hell of a lot of unfortunate people and do make a difference.
One bit of advice I might humbly proffer to anyone young here suffering with hairloss - and obviously you can just laugh in my face and tell me to shut up, but I genuinely happen to think it's not a bad idea- is that if you have a motivation towards science, and are introspective enough to be researching your own conditions such as hairloss on here, and 'extrospective' enough to be on a board like this, communicating with ,advising and supporting others - consider studying MEDICINE , seriously.
You would probably be good at it, hopefully continue to develop the sense of empathy that this place tries to engender, and find it an interesting subject.
And to address one of the main esteem issues that young guys with hairloss here seem to have - getting 'chicks' ; well let me assure you
I have known plenty of guys from med school who were by early-mid 20s bald or balding who never had problems getting girls (med school parties, drinking, lots of female med and nursing students); and even since graduating and working, there have always been older bald docs in the hierarchy who the younger female med students and doctors fancy and date, even if they are bald and not that great looking - as long as they are intelligent,confident, successful, genuinely caring without being wimpy, and articulate. It's a big winner.
So it obviously doesn't just attract shallow women who are after money 'cos female doctors earn just as much as their male counterparts, and in any case if you encounter so-called gold diggers outside work, you will have the upper hand anyway because they kind of know at heart that you can get other women if you're a young doctor, and they probably know that they're shallow and you're not, and will eventually see through them.
You do meet LOADS of women through medical school and once you start practising, and girls in the medical and nursing professions, ideally, tend to be a bit less judgemental, more open-minded and caring (of course there are exceptions, but just entertain the generalisation for a bit), and hair loss doesn't seem to bother them that much, personality and the other qualities I described above impress them much , much more. Women doctors are still women of course, but many are really cute and lovely people and don't care less about the things that most of the women you guys are worrying about put emphasis on (superficial qualities like hair etc). And once/if you get a girl like that, you won't really care what the superficial bimbos think of you anyway, because you'll have a classy,intelligent and cute girl that really likes you for who you are, not your follicle count.
Personally my hair loss is fairly well controlled at the moment with propecia and nizoral since about 2005 and my own confidence issues are mainly just from still being quite skinny and being only 5'7-5'7 1/2 and looking quite young for 28! I know I won't get the 5'10 statuesque girls but that was never gonna happen even when I had all the hair I ever would at 19 or 20, so that's no shock. In fact the older you get as a doctor, the more attractive you will be to women in a similar age group because other men will start balding to by their 30s, but by that time you will not just be another baldy but probably a successful consultant physician/surgeon/whatever.
Of course none of the above was my personal incentive to apply to med school at the age of 18, because I had no idea hairloss even happened to people under 60 at that age! I did it for the same reasons anyone does - liked science, liked working with people, liked the idea of helping people (like everyone), didn't want to do a desk/computing/accounting type job etc...and yeah the status thing I did think would come in handy in the future in a variety of social situations (which it does). If it's just money you're after though, look elsewhere because at least in the UK it's not highly paid to start off with until you do loads of further training and become a consultant.
But it was definitely even more of a good choice given that I destined to end up with (a degree of) hairloss at 23. Studying and practising medicine will give you more focus, and also you will learn about an entire world and history of suffering and disease which makes you realise hairloss really isn't the end of the world, and put your own problems in perspective. It helps you temper the way you react to things, so when someone stalls at a traffic light, you don't fly off the handle and beep your horn, because you probably had to tell someone their loved one died earlier that day, and getting worked up over trivialites then looks insignificant.
Of course it's much easier to do all this in the UK, with our subsidised universities/med schools, and the shorter medical degree course (5years).
It takes a bit longer in the US, but any young brits who like the sound of the above, I would strongly advise considering it, . I originally decided near to graduation that I wanted to do dermatology (to cure hairloss..lol) but am now specialising in psychiatry, I think it's a bit more up my street and really fascinating.
So that's my personal recruitment drive for medicine. Think about it..I would appreciate any feedback if you think this is good advice. I've tried to pitch it to people with a combination of the right and real reasons to go into medicine, as well as explaining that there will be future bonuses which well help you develop confidence, self-esteem and a genuine feeling of self-worth as, trust me, for all the whinging about bad/dodgy doctors, you help a hell of a lot of unfortunate people and do make a difference.
