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[Michael84]

It's always annoying and frustrating when people comment your baldness. At those moments I wish they died painfully... But another shitty situation is when you unexpectedly meet someone whom you haven't seen for ages and you see his or her amazed look and eyes running from your hairline to your eyes up and down. It happened to me once and after that I think that I would never want to see my old fellows again because I just don't want to experience these situation and feelings anymore. That's stupid but it's just so stressful. You know, when people meet you for the first time, they accept you like you are and everything is ok. But when a person has an old image of you in his memory, your bald shinning (or even just receding) head can really shock him... Were you in similar situations?

Actually once I was on the other side when one of my friends, who had full had of hair, came to visit me and I saw his NW3. I never thought that I would be shocked. Actually I don't even know why I was so surprised as I suffer hair loss too. I just couldn't look at him. Strange emotions..

 

[Ori83]

Yes, ive met an old friend after long time and he asked me "how did you managed to lose all your hair", i responded rudly. he deserved it, although i really dont care about other people and what they think of me, i only do care about how women look at me now, which is quite different then how it was 5 years ago. friends and family can f*** themselves if they dont like my bald head. :jackit:

 

[prometheus]

this has to be the worst feelig ever right?

its happened to me a couple times that ive met someone after such a long time and my hair is actually the first thing that people comment on.

I try not to get angry or show that i am bothered but from the inside it proper kills me, but the fact is I cant control my hair or change it

I try my hardest to move on and also I try not meeting people I havnt seen in ages.

 

[elliotramsey]

I had an audition for a show yesterday, and i knew the director and several of the people auditioning.

Many of them commented on my hair (it's been buzzed since the last time they saw me), but they all had positive things to say. "I like your hair short Dan" etc..

Even the second the director saw me he said "I like the hair!"

 

[cuebald]

A few friends knock on my door, one of them being a quite cute girl I hadn't seen in a few years. I open it.

"Ahhhh! What happened to your hair!?"

 

[superfrankie]

A few friends knock on my door, one of them being a quite cute girl I hadn't seen in a few years. I open it.

"Ahhhh! What happened to your hair!?"

Has happened to me a few times as well. I dont like that suprised and negative undertone when they ask it. I literally HATE meeting people I havent seen in a few years, because last time they saw me I was a NW1, now a NW5. Its probably the thing I FEAR the most in life atm. It always creates that uncomfortable feeling within me.

Its not that I care how they will perceive me, its more the fact that I get so pissed inside when they look at me suprised with that "holy sh*t, what has happened to you,are you sick?" look. I hate it. f*****g hate it.It makes me feel like Im not human for a short moment.

 

[kejan]

Agree about the meeting friends anxiety, most post here.

Just last night, one of my friends who is a NW4 with severe diffuse thinning think Arjen Robben's hair but he grows it out. I recently shaved mine with a razor and I'm a NW2.5 yet every bald guy was 'My Brother or My Double (lookalike)'. I was close to saying you look like shít with your hairgrown out, but didn't say it.
I'd say overall, I've had some decent reviews about my hair and it being shaved down now, but I do get negative comments too.

I've found the loud-mouth friends or people you know will still be the same. If it wasn't your hair, it would be your belly, if it wasn't that it would be your facial hair. There are somepricks out there who just want to bring People down. And chances are if you weren't bald on top, they find something to say about you.

I can't stand the look of eyes to hairline either - a part of me gets really annoyed about it. It's ok if it happens once or twice, but when someone you speak to keeps doing it - I end up wrapping up the conversation quick and lose interest very soon in contiuning talking to them. It's silly I know but it annoys the shít out of me.

Been focusing a lot on keeping myself in shape and do lots of cardio. I'm 28 and tons of People I went to School with are now getting really out of shape and fat/beer bellies. I met a HighSchool pal who was always thin but is now with ManBoobs and a big Beer gut, the first thing he did was smile at me and say "Holy. You are totally bald now" and my gut instict hit me and said "And you are really, really out of shape it looks".
It's maybe not the 'Manly' thing to do but f*** it, if some arsehole is being cheeky for the sake of it or bringing you down, take a chunk out of their book and slag them off.

 

[Hound]

if some arsehole is being cheeky for the sake of it or bringing you down, take a chunk out of their book and slag them off.

Yeah, I totally agree. Have had the "Wow! What happened to your hair?!" bullshit thing loads of times, but it's always girls who say that, and while it literally makes me want to spit in their face I just laugh it off because I know they're not doing it deliberately.

But next time I get any chat at all from a bloke, I'm coming straight back with whatever defect they have. Like:

"Wow! What happened to your hair dude?!"
"Dunno Steve, what happened to your tits?"

 

[kejan]

if some arsehole is being cheeky for the sake of it or bringing you down, take a chunk out of their book and slag them off.

Yeah, I totally agree. Have had the "Wow! What happened to your hair?!" bullshit thing loads of times, but it's always girls who say that, and while it literally makes me want to spit in their face I just laugh it off because I know they're not doing it deliberately.

But next time I get any chat at all from a bloke, I'm coming straight back with whatever defect they have. Like:

"Wow! What happened to your hair dude?!"
"Dunno Steve, what happened to your tits?"

Yeah, like that

Some people can joke it off. I know another baldie and he's in a worse position than me - NW5 but grows it out and it's thinning all over and he comes away with "came off in the wash", "it left me like that b**ch ex of mine" etc.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder as they say, but I've found, well in my case 9 out of 10 people who make negative comments or bring you down are the ones who are usually ugly themselves or have self esteem issues.

The other 1 out of 10, he's just a wanker!

P.S. Great avator! Is that a Newfie? I've always wanted one.

 

[Hound]

Hi, no he's a Tibetan Mastiff, I am totally getting one one day when I leave the big city, a beast like that needs space