UC is correct on all fronts.
As are most of us who live in the real world and put ourselves out there.
I've become more comfortable with my baldness and have started to roll back my personality to the days before hairloss where I'd flat out ASSUME girls wanted me (as they did back then if I'm honest). I genuinely think if I keep myself in shape and not worry about women then the interest just happens, one of the fittest girls I've ever attracted is 10 years younger than me and could get anyone, wasnt on the scene when I had hair (I'm 29). I mean jesus, I buy all my clothes second hand from charity shops, it all works well for me as I'd rather have money than nice gear. When I'm in work I've got a suit on, when I'm not I'm in ill fitting rags, when people see me with one look they dont even flinch when I turn up for a pint in a pair of old trackies and an ill fitting jumper.. aslong as my body is in shape and I stand with my head held high, I know I look good.
I've posted this before but I now live hundreds of miles away from home after moving with work, honestly the only change is I'm not surrounded by people who knew me before I lost my hair. Everyone I meet now just simply knows me as a bald guy, even the guys I meet everywhere look at me and assume I'm getting laid all the time, on valentines day I had loads of blokes asking me in work where I was taking the missus for v-tines day. There wasnt even a question of are you single, it was where you taking her?
In reality I've grown alot inside and as macho as hard as we all like to act on here, I've grown alot spiritually which we dont really talk about, I' more independent on all fronts but most of all emotionally. I do not succumb to peer pressure anymore, I have no need for a woman in my life, infact I've little need for most people and thats not necessarily a negative thing. Any long lasting emotional connection I make with somebody could only be a drain on me these days, I dont need it at all. Years ago I felt the same but that was because I knew I had options.. now I feel the same but thats because I know my place on the food chain has gone up a few notches with a new outlook on the world. I can look at what guys on here worry about the same way I can laugh about the what the folks around me in person spend their days worrying about, mostly irrelevant BS, the world and its problems can only be invited into our lives, these women/people can only have the power over us that YOU afford them.
I think we can all agree that if women werent around then hairloss wouldnt be an issue, for me it isnt anymore, but I had to up sticks and move hundreds of miles to realise that.
I know for certain that when I next visit home I'll regress, I know fine when I next catch up with mates back home I'll fall back into my old uptight and self conscious state.
It's crazy such a move is what it took for me to feel comfortable, but getting away from people who knew me pre-hairloss has changed my life.
I'd go as far as recommending it, for those of you with strong minds and a strength of character that sets you apart from the rest of society... I'm not there 100% yet but I'm getting there.
I simply couldnt care a f**k for what any lass has to say about me, the reality is that they have nothing I need, its liberating and on here reads like an act but I can assure you nae-sayers its the truth.
