Another Lonely Christmas & New Year Holiday Season For The Baldies.

[buckthorn]

But it's not just a gift, it's also a choice you have to make in life. Maybe, once you've stand alone reading an entire book all day long, barely stoping to eat (okay, I would take pause for a coffee ) you will find it really hard to live in a world monopolizing your attention all the time.
I mean... it confuses me how much time we spend on phones or on the computer. At work (I am rewritter and publisher so I need to focus) I see my collegues on their phones maybe 5 times in the afternoon and I struggle to understand how they can really work. Children are constently absorbed by facebook, instagram and all that... they don't know how to spell basic words anymore... it's not that surprising. There are electriv lights and sounds everywhere! When I listen to Wagner while walking crowded streets... I feel something miserable is happening to this world. (okay, I am a bit dramatic )
Since I have been really suffering from my hair loss, I can tell I spend more time here. It helps, but at the same time, I lose myself a little and can feel stupid. But I need it right now.

wow, your english is good and your mindset is beautiful. I hope you have a pleasant Christmas.

 

[Swoop]

@h.l.

Of course, true loneliness as in the sense of pure isolation or near isolation is detrimental to one's health. I agree completely. We are all social beings.

What I mean is the processing of stimuli between humans. It differs between individuals, and no I don't believe you can change the fundamentals of this.

Introverts lose energy from being around people or high stimuli environments and need to recharge by being alone.

Extroverts, on the other hand gain energy from other people and their energy gets sapped when they spend too much alone.

Brain imaging studies have shown that introverts and extraverts process stimuli differently. Acetylcholine/dopamine etc, it's utilized in a different manner.

See you tell that you have troubles reading for more than 10 mins. It's probably cause your brain just wants to engage in a high stimuli/rewarding environment at that point.

On the other hand introverts contrary to you will have troubles engaging constantly or too much in a high stimuli environment. Eventually they will start fading out and will literally NEED time alone or they won't feel at ease. At that point they will need to be alone with their thoughts. It's just as nourishing for them as sleep.

Now obviously very few people will fall into one extreme side of the spectrum. But the overwhelming majority of people are more into the one spectrum than the other.

Off course "balance" is important and I at least feel that introverts may have a tendency to easier fall into isolation than extraverts. On the other hand a extravert may get imbalanced that he doesn't give him enough time "alone".

That's not to say that a extravert can't fall into isolation. Off course he can have self-esteem issues, anxiety whatsoever, but that has nothing to do with being an introvert.

 

[hairblues]

Luckily I have my dog and that's more than enough. I could go completely bald tomorrow and he wouldn't even notice.

What kind of dog did you get?

 

[rclark]

f***. sorry man. I've been through that a couple times. it's very heartbreaking. hope you have a good holiday.

wait... someone GAVE you these things?? if so, I would choke them with one hand and repeatedly punch them in the face with the other, despite baby Jesus's birthday. Amen.

Usually they give me things they want (Amazon kindle, which I hate). Does your
family do this?

Next year, I'm going to buy them a weight lifting set, money for a free hair transplant, and
a ticket to Holland for some good marijuana!

Gonna to find the slutiest back message therapist I can find.

Buying them Finasteride and Minoxidil this year, which they don't need.

 

[rclark]

I, too, have very few friends and I spend Christmas only with my family. Unfortunately, some relatives ruined the evening by making comments and remarks on my baldness, without caring about my feelings on the matter, but that's just it, after all. When you're ugly and bald, you get used to loneliness and unhappiness and after some time you even start to enjoy them, since you don't really have a choice.

Sorry to hear that. At least you have personality.

Just buy them things YOU WANT.

Also, make sure you get them insulting things they DON'T want.

 

[rclark]

Oh, that's a relief, no doubt! Yeah, having "personality" turned out to be very useful to me.

I agree with @buckthorn : when you're ugly and bald, all you need is a dog. He won't care how you look like, and he'll love you nonetheless.

At least you have a cool avatar. Besides, this Jesus avatar is a scam. (I'm an atheist,
but who gives a sh*t??)

Hopefully it will trick people into giving me points.

After all, the US has lots of Trump supporters!

 

[rclark]

Me, I have a NEED to be alone, like... a lot. I often feel like my work or my "social" life keeps me away from the essential. I read a lot and listen to a lot of music. I also like to walk alone (walking my minds) and "create" things. Many people around me think it's kind of sad or something, but not me. When I go out several nights in a row, at a certain point I start feeling bad, asking myself "what am I doing with my time?"...
I must admit, there are really few people I really enjoy the company. I am more into long distance bounds also, if this sentence makes sence?!?

We can exercise our brains in more ways being alone than with being with people.

Two of the higher functional sides of our brains, mathematics and visual spacial skills, can't
really be exercised in social situations. Actively participating in sports, to some degree, maybe.
But not very much.

Let's be honest, we can't exercise the mathematical, visual artistic/spacial skills in social
situations.

I think too much socialization is a bad thing, to some degree.

 

[rclark]

People are often lazy looking for something that would please you for Xmas. First of all, they would have to really know you... which is often not the case. My own parents have no idea what I do for a living, when I told them I was a prostitute, they acted all surprised. Kidding. They thought I was working PR... that is not the case at all I find it kind of funny. My sister said to me during the dinner she was going to get me a wig... There was an aukward silence... everybody stopped eating. I started to LOL and told her to forget about the wig and, if she really loves me, open a bank account to pay Mr Tsuji. Thank god... I have some humor left in me

A wig. You're nicer than me.

The things I wanted to say to my family, after I got vitamin shampoo/conditioner
for balding men! A few curse words came into mind.

Felt like learning them in a different language...

Let's just say this. Any other hair loss talk site, besides this, I would be BANNED.

 

[rclark]

Next time, get them some suppositories for haemorrhoids case. That's what I would do if I were you.

I'm saving for my holiday present already!

They're gonna get a years supply of Minoxidil and Finasteride tablets.

 

[buckthorn]

No, but I'd really want to. I've always loved dogs. Noble creatures.

everything humans are not. everything humans should be. somewhere along out evolution we traded in unconditional love and humility for greed and vanity. Now we are all just rotting trash scum.

 

[Rudiger]

But it's not just a gift, it's also a choice you have to make in life. Maybe, once you've stand alone reading an entire book all day long, barely stoping to eat (okay, I would take pause for a coffee ) you will find it really hard to live in a world monopolizing your attention all the time.

If only it was a simple choice! If only right now I could go, "I wish my brain didn't need a constant stream of distractions for me to feel sane" and then I picked up one of the many books I'm about 50 pages into and just read for the next 3 hours.

I see what you mean that it is still a "choice" but it's a continuing one, it doesn't simply stop, even if I fought against my every impulse and focused on things I deem constructive to me, for the next 2 months, I'd still be fighting against my human nature and inevitably it wouldn't last forever. In order to read a lot or listen to music like you do, there is the backbone of you genuinely enjoying it that will keep you knowing the humble rewards you will get.

The "choice" I am intending to make is that, from whatever means necessary, I will one day be able to enjoy more humble pursuits, not reading for the sake of being smart, not seeing a film to relate my opinions to others, and not working out just to look good or have dominance, but because there's a personal peace that I could get from hobbies. And this is no straight forward "choice", it's about practically re-wiring a human mind.

Of course I couldn't have chosen a worse time to completely re-balance how I live, right in the middle of the holidays, but I can prepare myself for the January comedown and although the New Year is a corny time to "start again", it's also no worse of a time to do it either.

@h.l.

Of course, true loneliness as in the sense of pure isolation or near isolation is detrimental to one's health. I agree completely. We are all social beings.

What I mean is the processing of stimuli between humans. It differs between individuals, and no I don't believe you can change the fundamentals of this.

Introverts lose energy from being around people or high stimuli environments and need to recharge by being alone.

Extroverts, on the other hand gain energy from other people and their energy gets sapped when they spend too much alone.

Brain imaging studies have shown that introverts and extraverts process stimuli differently. Acetylcholine/dopamine etc, it's utilized in a different manner.

See you tell that you have troubles reading for more than 10 mins. It's probably cause your brain just wants to engage in a high stimuli/rewarding environment at that point.

On the other hand introverts contrary to you will have troubles engaging constantly or too much in a high stimuli environment. Eventually they will start fading out and will literally NEED time alone or they won't feel at ease. At that point they will need to be alone with their thoughts. It's just as nourishing for them as sleep.

Now obviously very few people will fall into one extreme side of the spectrum. But the overwhelming majority of people are more into the one spectrum than the other.

Off course "balance" is important and I at least feel that introverts may have a tendency to easier fall into isolation than extraverts. On the other hand a extravert may get imbalanced that he doesn't give him enough time "alone".

That's not to say that a extravert can't fall into isolation. Off course he can have self-esteem issues, anxiety whatsoever, but that has nothing to do with being an introvert.

This forum can be great at times, generally we come on here to complain about some 20 year old chick looking at our thinning and then talk about a celebs hair transplant, but can also come away with truly informed posts that can change and shape how we view the world.

So anyway, I see what you mean now, and I can understand why you feel it's impossible to change the fundamentals of how our brains are stimulated entirely, and maybe my previous posts about "completely restructuring" how I function is mis-leading, instead I realise that it's going to take extreme efforts to even change slightly as a person. In your terms, it would be embracing the introversion more than the extrovert in me.

 

[resu]

Me, I have a NEED to be alone, like... a lot. I often feel like my work or my "social" life keeps me away from the essential. I read a lot and listen to a lot of music. I also like to walk alone (walking my minds) and "create" things. Many people around me think it's kind of sad or something, but not me. When I go out several nights in a row, at a certain point I start feeling bad, asking myself "what am I doing with my time?"...
I must admit, there are really few people I really enjoy the company. I am more into long distance bounds also, if this sentence makes sence?!?

I'm the same, when I was in my 20's, when my anxiety was at an all time high, when I was working I felt I was wasting my life because I was not having fun going out and when I was hanging around I felt I was wasting my life because I was not working.

 

[buckthorn]

True. I've read many books, but one of the best and most accurate descriptions of humans I've ever heard (and one I appreciate most) is from a movie, not a book, strangely enough:

"What sick ridiculous puppets we are / and what gross little stage we dance on / What fun we have dancing and f***ing / Not a care in the world / Not knowing that we are nothing / We are not what was intended." (Seven).

The more I learn about people, the more I think this is true.

I love that quote. what a great movie. disturbing as hell, but great.

 

[hairblues]

I love Seven.

Whats in the box????

 

[EvilLocks]

Great movie

One of my faves actually

 

[DoctorHouse]

I guarantee most of the people dont even know, and understand what true loneliness is.

As I said earlier, when you have family, and friends into your lives it's very easy to live a happy life, even without a partner. Granted having a women in your life is great, it won't bug you as much as being alone without NOBODY.

I doubt anyone in here even knows what it's like to be truly alone.


Live my life, and that is being truly alone. Very few would be able to handle on top of being depressed about there aesthetics. I was surprisingly happy when I had lot's of people involved in my life, even when I had hair problems prior to my transplants. Being around others constantly, talking and going out helps enormously. The moment you start living in your own mind, and having little exposure to others that care about you, is when you will start to understand what it's like to be alone.



Ever notice how just talking to someone at the gym, work or grocery store tends to make you feel happy, and wanted?

Shook, I promise you that you are not "alone" in the sense that your life is very similar to others in this world. I have lived "your mindset" much longer than you and I can tell you "regret" would sum up my life now. Work on changing your mindset or you will regret it later like I do. Trust me, you still have plenty of time to change your mindset. I don't have as much time as you do. Cherish that time and use it wisely.

 

[blackg]

True. I've read many books, but one of the best and most accurate descriptions of humans I've ever heard (and one I appreciate most) is from a movie, not a book, strangely enough:

"What sick ridiculous puppets we are / and what gross little stage we dance on / What fun we have dancing and f***ing / Not a care in the world / Not knowing that we are nothing / We are not what was intended." (Seven).

Not a bad way to describe the creatures that we are, but the last line, "We are not what was intended."

It's obviously open to interpretation...
But, what was intended? And by whom?

 

[blackg]

P.S.: the way Brad Pitt delivered the line is ridiculous, in my opinion. In the Italian dub it's much better, much more emotional and realistic.

Nah, mate.
That line sounds best when spoken in American.

 

[blackg]

Maybe, as a matter of fact, I stated that it was merely my personal opinion. I can't appreciate the original version because I'm not a native English speaker and because I got used to the Italian dub.



True, the psychopath (John Doe) was probably referring to God.

Have I ever told you that I love you, Dante?
I'm thinking of you over this Christmas /new year shitstorm.

 

[blackg]

I can't appreciate the original version because I'm not a native English speaker and because I got used to the Italian dub.

"Italian dub"?
Is that a form of Mediterranean reggae?