Anyone Else Under Pressure To Get A Gf With Hair

[doyle11]

Good man. I get this totally. As time goes on, it's no longer about appearance anyway for your partner. It's about the memories, the history, the emotional bond, the future, excitement in the relationship in terms of doing things and not being stale. Guaranteed that the gf/wife won't care as much as the guy cares about his looks. This is not an excuse to look poor and let yourself go, we owe it to each other to maintain having that groomed look, hygiene e.t.c. Rather, it's not as important as an anxious baldy may think it is in his mind and will be overplaying it.

These superficial factors only matter when you're looking for a new girl rather than one that has already given herself to you. I'll say career is important though as financial security allows for better times when you grow up.

I know some may think if you look unattractive = divorce/cheat. But there's more to it than that. IMO she was never truly in love or fell out of it if she resorted to cheating. It wasn't as simple as people make it out on here "she missed a handsome guy screwing her so looked for one" Lol. Selecting a good girl is important. Different personality types are prone to at risk behaviour.

Sounds like you have a keeper but you don't need me to say that, obvious from your posts. Have a gr8 future!

Thanks man. I'm 33 and a hopeless romantic been in long term relationships for over 18 years with 6 girls so I like to think I have a bit of insight.

I find these lookisms and stuff are perpetuating an undeserved reputation for women. The kind of behaviour (gf dumping you for Chad etc) seem to be a parody of your American high school movies more than anything else.

I think the internet has got a habit of extrapolating rare behaviours as the norm.

Maybe it's different over here in the UK. I don't know.

 

[Kevin19888]

And remember, never, ever call attention to any shortcomings you may feel about yourself in conversation with the opposite sex. Especially about losing hair!

Exactly bro. Just gunna get more hair transplants and dump concealer on my head until some crap comes out in the future.

 

[Trichosan]

Thanks man. I'm 33 and a hopeless romantic been in long term relationships for over 18 years with 6 girls so I like to think I have a bit of insight.

I find these lookisms and stuff are perpetuating an undeserved reputation for women. The kind of behaviour (gf dumping you for Chad etc) seem to be a parody of your American high school movies more than anything else.

I think the internet has got a habit of extrapolating rare behaviours as the norm.

Maybe it's different over here in the UK. I don't know.

Congrats, @doyle11, you scored a good one there. No, we can't paint personalities with a broad brush but, There are many shallow, scheming, superficial women out there as many others on this forum will testify. And it pains me to see guys beat themselves up and even suicide because of some such encounters.

 

[Trichosan]

Exactly bro. Just gunna get more hair transplants and dump concealer on my head until some crap comes out in the future.

Well, while I'm no Don Juan, I've had more than my share of opposite sex experiences, but that advice is just the way I operate, never show a weaker side. Spilling my guts out to a woman about my worries just isn't my style. Not that there is anything wrong with discussing concerns with someone you love or trust.

 

[doyle11]

Congrats, @doyle11, you scored a good one there. No, we can't paint personalities with a broad brush but, There are many shallow, scheming, superficial women out there as many others on this forum will testify. And it pains me to see guys beat themselves up and even suicide because of some such encounters.

Of course they exist and you may run into them from time to time, there are also many men much the same. I think the thing to recognize is that the internet and all these shitty reality shows aren't a fair representation of women or men and often if people would spend more time out in the wide world socializing they would probably recognize this.

 

[Trichosan]

...there are also many men much the same.

I think of myself as a kind and caring, not superficial person, but when I think of the conditions I placed on my female attraction, I'm not sure I'd stop short of being a hypocrite. Then, to ultimately end up with a wife with all of them, I'm humbled by the luck I had, especially being a far, far sub-Brad Pitt type to a bald Stratham type. I must have done something good in a former life.

...I think the thing to recognize is that the internet and all these shitty reality shows aren't a fair representation of women or men and often if people would spend more time out in the wide world socializing they would probably recognize this.

Man, so true. I don't know but has it gotten to the point now where the door is closed to the real-time socializing for most guys?

 

[doyle11]

I think of myself as a kind and caring, not superficial person, but when I think of the conditions I placed on my female attraction, I'm not sure I'd stop short of being a hypocrite. Then, to ultimately end up with a wife with all of them, I'm humbled by the luck I had, especially being a far, far sub-Brad Pitt type to a bald Stratham type. I must have done something good in a former life.



Man, so true. I don't know but has it gotten to the point now where the door is closed to the real-time socializing for most guys?

Well, many people referring to incel theory, "stacey and Chad" and lookism are often young antisocial neets. Hardly social butterflies and I think even they would recognise that. Ive been there myself when ive had too much time on my hands and little human interaction.

All I'm saying is you easily become disconnected from reality especially when you get so wrapped up with the internet and television.

 

[jasonstatham]

I've been with my gf for 10 years. Engaged. We got together when I was bald as f***. (Still am, just less so) Norwooding to a 5 with very poor density. Kept it shaved to the bone.

I remember at uni getting obsessed one night and constantly looking at all angles in a mirror. She saw that I was worried about my hairloss and told me she didn't care about my hair.

I don't think it's a weakness admitting. If anything it made us stronger helping reassure me that she wasn't with me for my hair. Otherwise it would constantly be in the back of my mind and would cause arguments.

If the girl is of any substance she would appreciate you saying. I guarantee she knows you are losing your hair, She probably just cares very little.

Why are you here mate? I have myself a girlfriend and she doesn't care. But I care. So whats your story?

 

[doyle11]

Why are you here mate? I have myself a girlfriend and she doesn't care. But I care. So whats your story?

I hate hairloss. It's shitty as hell. At my worst I was a pretty classic Norwood 5. I would bic my head.

I used to be bitter and angry at hairloss, men, women, everything. I legit had over a year where I was confined to my room in my parents house, obsessed with my hair and depressed. I can count the amount of times i left the house on one hand.

I eventually had a 'f*** this' moment and applied to uni met a fantastic girl and got on with life. Life is short and I spent a whole year trolling the internet and being depressed. That's a year I will never get back.

I still think about hairloss every day but as you get older and have more responsibilites and dependencies you realise that hairloss drops lower down your list of priorities and worries.

Sometimes it takes something like a tragedy or death of a loved one to put things into perspective and unfortunately that happened twice in a very short period. It made me realise how important health and family is, and appreciate that life is fleeting.

 

[michel sapin]

@doyle11 , how old were you when you met your gf ? how old was she ?

 

[Trichosan]

...Sometimes it takes something like a tragedy or death of a loved one to put things into perspective and unfortunately that happened twice in a very short period. It made me realise how important health and family is, and appreciate that life is fleeting.

Or, that one special "other" girl in you life that contacts you after decades, you dig out the old pictures, then look in the mirror and go "holy f*****g sh*t, pray you suddenly vanish or get amnesia and forget about what your thinking. Bad.

 

[jasonstatham]

You think about it every day, but at the same time you are saying it gets down your list of priorities? lol. This just confirms that hair transplant is the only solution lol.
Why you not getting one? Your girlfriend will love it too.

 

[doyle11]

You think about it every day, but at the same time you are saying it gets down your list of priorities? lol. This just confirms that hair transplant is the only solution lol.
Why you not getting one? Your girlfriend will love it too.

I also think about a lot of other things every day. My mortgage, my work, planning the wedding, children, etc. When I was younger I didn't have to factor any of these other things in.

I met my gf at 24, She was 21. I've considered hair transplant multiple times, being that I've tried meds and lost on meds I thought it was wise not to.

Fortunately in the past few months my hair loss has recovered somewhat. Very much exacerbated by dairy

 

[INT]

Dude they are not banging them. They are raping them left and right.

"And some... might be good people"

 

[ghg]

I also think about a lot of other things every day. My mortgage, my work, planning the wedding, children, etc. When I was younger I didn't have to factor any of these other things in.

I met my gf at 24, She was 21. I've considered hair transplant multiple times, being that I've tried meds and lost on meds I thought it was wise not to.

Fortunately in the past few months my hair loss has recovered somewhat. Very much exacerbated by dairy

What do you mean exacerbated by dairy? Did you drop dairy altogether? How much dairy did you actually eat?

 

[doyle11]

What do you mean exacerbated by dairy? Did you drop dairy altogether? How much dairy did you actually eat?

Tonnes of milk, cheese and chocolate. A metric tonne of dairy. I actually made a thread about it. I've just been diagnosed as having quite a severe dairy allergy after many years.

This is when I started taking photos when I thought my hair was 'good'. (I wouldn't even entertain taking photos before as it would miss me off)

This is today after stopping dairy for a few weeks.

Photos seriously don't justify how shocking my hair was before. It's not great now but a damn sight better.

 

[ghg]

Good god, I think your hair looks great now. Did you have any reactions to milk? Why did you suddenly decided to drop it? I think I probably should do that too although I'm not such a heavy user as you but I do consume yoghurt and stuff almost on a daily basis. I just don't know what to eat instead lol 'cause I'm already on a non-gluten low-carb.

I think we share similar kinda genetics, our hair quality and color seems about the same and your facial hair is also lighter on your face than for example under your chin, just like mine.

 

[doyle11]

Good god, I think your hair looks great now. Did you have any reactions to milk? Why did you suddenly decided to drop it? I think I probably should do that too although I'm not such a heavy user as you but I do consume yoghurt and stuff almost on a daily basis. I just don't know what to eat instead lol 'cause I'm already on a non-gluten low-carb.

I think we share similar kinda genetics, our hair quality and color seems about the same and your facial hair is also lighter on your face than for example under your chin, just like mine.

The only thing I noticed since I started experiencing hair loss was a red, tight, spotty scalp. The hair gradually got worse over the years. It's only the past few years I had been noticing a lot of bloating, chest pain, shortness of breath and an abnormally high heart rate. My Dr thought it was reflux, they did ecgs, endoscopys, the lot.

A few weeks ago I had my breakfast and a milkshake at work during the morning and it nearly floored me. My doctor said I've probably had it all my life but they can become more apparent as you age or as your eating habits change. I'm also allergic to peanuts and asthmatic which often go hand in hand

 

[Trichosan]

Your body seems to react positively when you reduce negative factors. It may react better than most with additional nutrients. Cut dairy and gluten, get some blood tests done for thyroid, insulin resistance, magnesium CoQ10, zinc (maybe more, but that's all I can think of now). Find out if you are deficient and correct it you might have some surprising results. Best of luck, Mate.

 

[ghg]

I may be suffering from hypothyroidis myself, my thyroid blood tests are showing the red flag. But the "standard" treatment of l-thyroxin only worsened my condition, and there's no other option here in Finland anymore. I was very cold all the time and I suffered a severe case of shortness of breath. I think cortison could be a better option for me but I can't get a prescription here. My scalp skin has also been very bad since hairloss began and probably even before that, only on NW5-6 area of course. My shortness of breath is better without l-thyroxin but it is still there.