Are Your Relatives/gf/close Friends Awared About Your Battle?

[Captain Rex]

I love him deeply. He's always been caring, loving and supportive, especially during my studies. When I started to lose my hair, he helped me a lot, gave me advice and talked to me about how he lost his hair in his 20s, too and how difficult that was for him. I feel very close to him.

yes, same thing here. My dad also helps me a lot. I don't know how to deal with this shitty baldness. Dad is never respected in my family and i know the reason that shitty baldness again. At work place, he has to do all the work but in return just gets nothing. I feel for him and sometimes thought of telling him about transplant ( i guess he knows abt that) but then i realised he is humble and doesn't give a thing abt balding at least now.
I just don't love mom. She is pathetic sometimes. Buys minoxidil for herself but not for me and the reason is waste of money. I wonder then why she is using it. Buys cosmetic creams and all but did nothing for my hair. Gives a look as if i am worthless but still expects a lot from me grades, high-paid job and what not. I trusted her a lot but not anymore.
Can't go against her, because of her so called love. Silence and non-cooperation are the best weapon for me now.
Dante, I think u r good in studies, aren't u?

 

[blackg]

, usually give me the same look of false pity (with a fake smile) you would give to a down syndrome child.

Come on. I'm sure you're better looking then a down syndrome kid.

 

[blackg]

Did I f*****g write that? I wrote about the way they LOOK at me and treat me.

You seem a bit dense today. Did you drink too much kangaroo sperm again?

OK.

 

[Captain Rex]

hey Dante, are you good at studies?
i mean mark any one of these
1. excellent
2. good
3. average
4. less than average

 

[CopeForLife]

hey Dante, are you good at studies?
i mean mark any one of these
1. excellent
2. good
3. average
4. less than average

his brain and personality compensate looks

 

[blackg]

his brain and personality compensate looks

Cope.

 

[Captain Rex]

his brain and personality compensate looks

agree 100% but who knows this, only us and the ppl around him are killing him from inside.//i know this because i have been experiencing the same thing but thanks to his posts i know very well how to respond to those humiliating attacks, i am not even depressed anymore.

But still want to hear from his own mouth i mean post. It will be an inspiration. I have been selected for Btech Computer Science now, just let me complete these 4 goddam years with the best grades and then who stops me. Will go for a transplant ASAP. Or if something good comes out then GREAT and again if the cure is found then VOILA yea baby yea

 

[Captain Rex]

Cope.

the fact that u r calling this cope is an another form of cope in itself.

 

[blackg]

the fact that u r calling this cope is an another form of cope in itself.

I already knew that.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

I'm probably like most men because I don't express my insecurities about my issues. Part of that is because either they cannot help me, but there is another part of me that is concerned that they will laugh about it behind my back. I know a lot of you might think that real friends wont do that to each other but the amount of times I've heard people joke about their friends gaining weight or getting cheated on has made me a lot more cynical.

I'll open up about little things like being concerned about a date or something. But anything major like depression, big insecurities, severe fears about the future I prefer to keep inside and I actually find it is easier to get impartial advice and honest sympathy from like minded people online.

 

[SmoothSailing]

I'm probably like most men because I don't express my insecurities about my issues. Part of that is because either they cannot help me, but there is another part of me that is concerned that they will laugh about it behind my back. I know a lot of you might think that real friends wont do that to each other but the amount of times I've heard people joke about their friends gaining weight or getting cheated on has made me a lot more cynical.

I'll open up about little things like being concerned about a date or something. But anything major like depression, big insecurities, severe fears about the future I prefer to keep inside and I actually find it is easier to get impartial advice and honest sympathy from like minded people online.

Major problems that have passed and that I have solved I will share with my friends. Such as my social anxiety/incel issues before balding.

But admitting to depression and fears will only make matter worse for me.

First people will inevitably talk about these issues behind my back, this bothers me as people will likely misrepresent the problems or confide in people that I would rather not have told.

For example I told my friends about my hairloss (they knew anyway but I told them I was tackling it and how much it bothered me). A few jokes and stuff but I was glad I did it. But then a few weeks later one of my girl-mates asked me how it was going.

A few things went through my head when she asked. Firstly I knew that my friends discussed this, without me there, and with girls present. No doubt some laughs were had.

Secondly that girls talk and that now likely all my mates know.

Thirdly that I was probably going to have to get used to answering this question in a positive manner in order to avoid further awkward conversation and further judgement.

Confiding one person in your problems is 100 times better than confiding a few. Because if it gets out when you only told one person it's obvious who it was. In a group people are far less careful and may even forget who actually knew about it in the first place.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

So... it can matter or not Cope?

Obviously he acknowledges the importance of intelligence - I'm sure it would go without saying.

If you had an IQ of 70 you probably wouldn't even be able to have a functional conversation.

I do wonder though if being overly intelligent could work against you in the sense that it could alienate you because nobody could keep up with you intellectually.

 

[CopeForLife]

So... it can matter or not Cope?

u didn't catch the irony?

 

[CopeForLife]

Obviously he acknowledges the importance of intelligence - I'm sure it would go without saying.

If you had an IQ of 70 you probably wouldn't even be able to have a functional conversation.

I do wonder though if being overly intelligent could work against you in the sense that it could alienate you because nobody could keep up with you intellectually.

looks are looks u cannot evaluate brains or personality by photo

 

[JohnsonDDG]

looks are looks u cannot evaluate brains or personality by photo

No I thought we were talking about face to face social interactions in our every day life.

 

[SmoothSailing]

Obviously he acknowledges the importance of intelligence - I'm sure it would go without saying.

If you had an IQ of 70 you probably wouldn't even be able to have a functional conversation.

I do wonder though if being overly intelligent could work against you in the sense that it could alienate you because nobody could keep up with you intellectually.

Depends on what type of intelligence. Those with strong social intelligence won't be negatively affected by their intelligence as they will know how to convey their thoughts in a clear way to everyone. Being witty/funny is helpful for making friends and getting looksmatched girls for sure.

Whereas being extremely intelligent at maths isn't going to work for you and will not lead to much interesting conversation with non mathematicians. In fact I'd guess there's a correlation with good math skills and poor social skills.

In my opinion, intelligence, other than social intelligence, only helps in that it allows you to achieve other goals that might help you. Such as more wealth and friends, and better living conditions and status.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

Depends on what type of intelligence. Those with strong social intelligence won't be negatively affected by their intelligence as they will know how to convey their thoughts in a clear way to everyone. Being witty/funny is helpful for making friends and getting looksmatched girls for sure.

Whereas being extremely intelligent at maths isn't going to work for you and will not lead to much interesting conversation with non mathematicians. In fact I'd guess there's a correlation with good math skills and poor social skills.

In my opinion, intelligence, other than social intelligence, only helps in that it allows you to achieve other goals that might help you. Such as more wealth and friends, and better living conditions and status.

Precisely. My area of study is a little niche in that it was literature (there aren't too many people the you can talk about Dante's Inferno with!). But fortunately I am not a complete social dunce and I wouldn't witter on about these books to an unsuspecting member of the opposite sex.

So long as you are talking to someone with average to above average IQ then you should be able to talk about anything from history, to music, to ambitions, to literature, to art, to politics.

 

[shookwun]

Precisely. My area of study is a little niche in that it was literature (there aren't too many people the you can talk about Dante's Inferno with!). But fortunately I am not a complete social dunce and I wouldn't witter on about these books to an unsuspecting member of the opposite sex.

So long as you are talking to someone with average to above average IQ then you should be able to talk about anything from history, to music, to ambitions, to literature, to art, to politics.

in other words read books.

Stupid people don't read. (truth)
Mostly just watch TV

Not to make it race related, but out of all my friends... None of the black people had books, and literature in there house holds.

 

[CopeForLife]

I lose every time I see this smile.

 

[blackg]

I lose every time I see this smile.

What do you lose? Your sexual appetite?