Nene said:I think this is partially true hope4hair, but tanning is super unhealthy.
Nene said:Hope4hair, yes I meant tanning beds is super unhealthy. Moderate amounts of sunlight is actually healthy. But I do think that the fear of going bald might be worse than actually being bald and there are ways to minimize the damage.
What is so terrible about it is that people don't seperate their appearance from their souls or core beings. They think that the way they look is an indicator of who they are as people. So by that logic, many people look at bald folks like just plain old bad people. I had someone say to me "well at least I'm not bald" like it was some sort of virtue to not be born with the male pattern baldness gene. Us baldies have to tolerate this unfair ignorant prejudice.cuebald said:As a 23 year old NW4 I now feel so far detached from other guys my age I might as well just buy a flat cap and some tweed and just accept that I am old.
Other young NW1/NW2's my age have the healthy "glow" and completeness that people like to be around, whereas I have messy, diffuse, f***ed up NW4, and pale and hairy skin.
The difference is enormous - I may as well be a completely separate race.
As a Bald man I have accepted that I will no longer have women gaze on me with a look of lust (or even admiration) like they do with the others.
cuebald said:As a 23 year old NW4 I now feel so far detached from other guys my age I might as well just buy a flat cap and some tweed and just accept that I am old.
Other young NW1/NW2's my age have the healthy "glow" and completeness that people like to be around, whereas I have messy, diffuse, f***ed up NW4, and pale and hairy skin.
The difference is enormous - I may as well be a completely separate race.
As a Bald man I have accepted that I will no longer have women gaze on me with a look of lust (or even admiration) like they do with the others.
mykal_P said:I've lost three woman I was dating online over the past 4 years due to the baldness. Sure initially i kept it from them and showed my good hair pics to which they gushed about how sexy it was. The moment i sent those bald ones end of game. No amount of confidence or charisma was gonna change that. Woman want full sexy heads of hair on a guy quit deluding yourselfs. Yeah maybe there's a few that don't mind but I don't wanna think i have to settle for what scraps are left over to pick from.
Oh and don't forget not everyone has a great shaved head shape. I for one have a huge egghead thats atrocious without hair.
qball01 said:mykal_P said:I've lost three woman I was dating online over the past 4 years due to the baldness. Sure initially i kept it from them and showed my good hair pics to which they gushed about how sexy it was. The moment i sent those bald ones end of game. No amount of confidence or charisma was gonna change that. Woman want full sexy heads of hair on a guy quit deluding yourselfs. Yeah maybe there's a few that don't mind but I don't wanna think i have to settle for what scraps are left over to pick from.
Oh and don't forget not everyone has a great shaved head shape. I for one have a huge egghead thats atrocious without hair.
dude...no offense, but even if the case is that some women just don't want to date a bald guy, the fact that you deceived them is far worse and would turn off women who may not have even had a problem with you being bald in the first place....the deception of showing pictures of yourself with hair first and then revealing you're actually bald makes the women align you with being deceptive, dishonest and insecure. Pluss, online dating...all the women have to go by for the most part is appearance...obviously they're going to be a hell of a lot more shallow. Its funny to me how guys who aren't very good looking complain that "even online I get rejected"...because they have a better chance of succeeding with women in the real world where they can properly convey their personality (and things like body language and voice tone, etc.) as opposed to online dating where all women see are pictures and text.
dudemon said:Colin297 said:Mate see my post in the other thread in this section
You need to use your presence and personality to blow these intial engrained stereotypes out of the water. You wont get a chance to do that online.
In other words - get out there.
Yah, so they can reject you in person. Always a better choice! :bravo:
You see some girls and you know they are single, and they'll tell you "I'm sorry, I'm already with someone" so you can sit and watch them from the other side of the room get picked up on by all kinds of guys (almost always with a full head of hair).
I know because I have been through that many, many times. :jackit:
Colin297 said:As above though, ultimately you only need to meet one girl. Why would you sell yourself short and let these other girls who do reject you, burn your confidence to a point it actually stifles you from meeting the girl that DOES want to meet you.
The field is brutal and it terrorises insecure and sensitive people. If you take thigns too much to heart your genes will actually be weeded out of existence.
Take yourself a bit more seriously.