Bald spot at 19

[worthlessstrands]

Here we go, the crown is almost bald now, and quite noticable with a number 1 buzz. It's a matter of days/weeks for it to be slick. finasteride gives me sides, and rogaine that I'm using right now is probably not enough for my extremely aggressive male pattern baldness. I can't even get a few f*****g months of hair it's so aggressive. The changes are by the f*****g day.

 

[decro435]

Same age , same aggressive male pattern baldness like you man. Work on our body and skin and keep up the Keto+PO shampoos. Finasteride gave me sides and rogaine just isn't an effective treatment in my opinion.

Are you also losing hair on the sides of your head?
How is the inflammation?

 

[worthlessstrands]

Yes, I've lost a lot of hair on my sides and back. There isn't much inflammation anymore. I can't even pull off a guard 0.5 now anymore. It's been a year and 10 months since I started losing, and I'm pretty much reaching the end of the norwood scale, that is if the sides and back don't dissappear completely.

 

[decro435]

Me and you see to be in the exact same position . Unfortunately for me I've a f*cking rugby ball for a head and pale skin. I know I'm going to look retarded next year and I can't do anything about it because the treatments give me severe sides. It's crazy really , I'm diffuse thinning all over now with the crown/temples and sides the worst. My inflammation has become unbearable , Nizoral etc. doesn't seem to do much. The only thing that really helps is spironolactone , unfortunately the "side effect" free product gave me sides. I told my parents and went to the doctor , but nobody has a clue about inflammation caused by male pattern baldness. So what do I do?

I'm 19 , diffuse thinning rapidly with a receding hairline. I have extremely annoying inflammation which I can't treat. I have a retarded head shape and pale skin. I look about 16. Nobody knows that I constantly think about Hair loss. There is no way around , you can't just say to me that hair really doesn't matter to people that much because it does.

Now , most of the guys on here are young , but I'll be bald by 20. Come on that's not f*cking fair.

 

[wesleyBelgium]

lasertreatment.... build a laserhelmet...

try custom made topical for inflammation
i use a custom topical from our hairsite, and its great stuff...
many people say there scalp dont itch anymore...

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did you try keto creme ?
maybe try a coconut-oil conditioner ? i'm thinking of trying this... after my schampoo...

what sides did you had from fina ?
was it so wors that you quit fina ?

sides are part of your products...
like i use duta and fluta , and my libido dropped to the botom... i feel tired , lack of energie , but still i keep using this, because it does the job in stopping the hairloss , the sides i just accept them...

 

[worthlessstrands]

gyno

 

[decro435]

F*ck this sh*t , my life is completely ruined. Seriously my whole head is diffuse. I seriously can't take this sh*t and there's nothing I can do. I have f*cking Pale skin and a retarded head shape. I actually got sick this morning from being so worried and upset. I can't do this anymore. And that F*cking itch all over my head , nothing eases it. I can't do anything.

 

[Hope4hairRedux]

Hey there.

I have just turned 20, and I completely know what you guys are going through.
I started losing hair in my temples about 17 and a half. Its slowly been progressing since then. Luckily so far its been fairly slow.

Mentally its been a massive challenge. Over the past few years I've gone through various phases of acceptance, depression, obsession, and so on. Essentially though, you do begin to accept it. It really isn't that bad. You can let it eat away at you, and you can let it cripple you, but just stay focused on what you do. I know everyone talks about acceptance acceptance all the time, but really it is the only way. Rubbing chemical sh*t in your hair all the time probably wont help that much and only adds to your desperation. The hardest reality for me is feeling that your looks go down be a large percentage - baldness does not make you ugly by definition, but it does take a way that youthful look. And that is hard to accept. But it doesn't mean that you wont be attractive, it just lowers it somewhat - but furthermore some people really suit the look so just go with the flow.

Learn to adapt to your reality. Work on other traits. Dress sense. Style. Exercise, get some muscles, eat healthy. Work on your skin. And by doing this, you will actually find that you have more than with what you started with. It isn't as bad as its cracked up to be by some members on this site, but you will probably go through different emotional phases. Its only natural, and its part of dealing with it. This site is good for venting out, and for communicating thoughts and fears related to baldness that you perhaps wouldn't want to talk to your friends about.

 

[decro435]

That's exactly it , it suits you.

If I didn't have such a big head/pale skin and youthful appearance I wouldn't care half as much. I will look very weird when I finally shave. Cheers for your help , but not everyone will be able to accept male pattern baldness the same way. Not because some people are just stronger than others, but because some people just look better than others.

 

[Hope4hairRedux]

Yeah mate I know it can be easier said than done. To be honest, I still have off days. I'm rarely happy about myself, there is always at least a slight insecurity about it.

I hate to say it but I know that its taking my looks away. It doesn't necessarily make you ugly, but I definitely think it makes us look plainer, more average, and it takes a way your own individual look. I've talked about it before, but hair is all about framing your face, and providing contrast, that's whats makes a face good looking. I would even go as far as too say that actually hair is what gives us looks. Generally our faces are all similar. Obviously a few are really ugly and a few are really good looking. But if everyone was bald we would all look very similar. Its the hair that does everything.

I really feel like I try to be positive about, but often underneath I feel helpless and depressed by it. Its a real f****r realizing that for people like you and me, real young guys, the fact that we are losing our hair means that woman aren't gonna come easily like they can do for a man our age. I think essentially as long as someone our age has a full head of hair, and is in good shape then, generally, they can go for most women with a decent chance. I hate knowing that soon I will walk down a street and it will be very unlikely that a woman will ever meet my eyes, that we will ever smile at each other, or that she may fancy me.. Ill be just another bald face.. f*** thats depressing.. I will miss not feeling young and good looking. Especially when at our age you want to be having girlfriends, having experience and sh*t. I will miss that feeling of knowing I have a good chance, that sharp feeling, when you just feel good about yourself. All that sh*t about girls not caring about how guys look is BS really. Both guys and girls go for looks. Its just a simple truth. Luckily though balding doesn't actually make us ugly per se though.

But we need to be strong. I really don't know what I will look like completely bald. What scares me is that most of the white bald guys I see ( yes you can call me gay or whatever) just don't suit it and don't really look attractive. You really need to have strong solid features to look good bald. I would see it a blessing if I stopped losing hair soon and it stayed nw2-nw3 for like 20 years. Right now I'm just finding it hard to accept, losing my looks at such a young age. To be successful in any area, and in life in general, a bald man has to be an exceptional man. And that I am not. I was just a guy with young looks who got lucky. Now its going to be an effort.

 

[Hope4hairRedux]

Further more, I don't think anyone can really comprehend how hard it is for young guys like us to go through this sh*t without having been there themselves.

Its just so hard to comprehend, the way your looks change rapidly as you go bald. If a man keeps his hair his whole life, he will may not necessarily ever look ugly, if he was always fairly good looking, even by the time he died. And he will always look relatively the same man. Yes, he will get older and grayer, and have more wrinkles, but he will sill have a similar frame throughout his whole life. Its just uncanny how your look rapidly changes when you start to go bald.

f***.. Right Now I am so down about this.. I always try to look for the positives. But I just cant get over this. Going bald at our age. I just cant take this sh*t.

I hope that something like HM does become a reality. I am 20 now. I could easily wait 10 years till I'm 30. Yes I would have lost my 20's, but I could still have my 30's to really enjoy my hair and looks. I would even be happy to wait 20 years at 40. Yes by then you cant exactly draw girls like you might have done when you were younger, but hell, I'm sure there would be a lot of mature woman who have kept their looks by that time that you could date and so on. Call me a cynic but usually, what seems to good to be true usually is. And this goes for finding a cure for baldness. Yeah right. Right now looks like we are doomed.

Right now, I think about the future and I really want to meet a gorgeous woman, perhaps a wife. And the hypocritical thing is that I want a beautiful wife. How could this be justifiable coming from a man who will probably be bald in the next 5-10 years, perhaps sooner?. I guess this is just what it means to be human. I just feel if I cant have my hair than I am nothing. I am half human. This is a dog eat dog world. Humans base each other on the exterior. This is evolution, survival of the fittest.

 

[barcafan]

You cant keep waiting for something out of your control that's supposed to change your life. I'm 20 as well and my hair looks like garbage and is rapidly receding/thinning. 100% i'll be nw6-7 within 5 years. I already went from NW0-3 in 4 years. Gotta say f*** it, and live your life. If some a**h** makes fun of you on the street, pop him.

 

[patagonia]

thats the right attitude.

 

[Hope4hairRedux]

Yeah Barcafan you are right. We can moan in as many words as we like, but we have to choice to have a get up and go 'f*** it' attitude or a victim attitude. We can play the victim and go 'my life is sh*t la la cos I'm going bald' but f*** that we have to rise above it and become strong.

At the same time part of coming on here helps. I feel like its a good place to come to an vent your inner thoughts and feelings about male pattern baldness.

 

[cuebald]

what sides did you get from finasteride, decro?
thought about getting a piece?

 

[patagonia]

my two cents:

you guys could be surprised as to how an experience like hairloss can change you for the better.... if you are using the treatments..sticking to a good regimen and male pattern baldness is still winning the battle, you know you did all you can. . Knowing you put up a good fight and did all you could.That will give you peace of mind.

at some point one realizes this was the hand you where dealt and you gotta adapt and make the best of it.... that's the real trick... to make the best out of a difficult situation like this one. It can teach you a thing or two about you. it will force you to work on other parts of your personality/self. You just don't rely on looks to get attention and focus on other talents that would have otherwise been neglected/overlooked.

NOT girls....but real WOMAN are attracted to men that have depth and character.... who have the kind of confidence in themselves that comes from knowing you have dealt with difficulties and learned along the way.

 

[Nuli]

Yep I can relate to the going bald at a young age. I'm 19 and I think about my hair all f*****g day. It really isnt fair for us. I feel like im missing out on what is supposed to be the best time of life because of the genetics I was born with. Hairloss has affected my life,goals, and choices in so many ways its not even funny. I dropped so many friends because I would feel f*****g depressed being around beautiful people and then theres me with my thinning hair. It just makes me feel like sh*t and I want to be alone. Is it really that bad to just want to be accpeted by your peers? I'm too f*****g young for this, people see my hair and are just like what the f*** I didnt know you could loss it that early.

Right now I am a full time student at a community college and I hate going to class. I almost always wear a hat and barely talk to anyone. I can't even concentrate on the instuctor because im thinking about my hair and how people see me. This classes are easy for me and I never had problems in school, but hairloss is making me do poorly. I'm really considering not enrolling next semester and joining the U.S. Marines. At least there I can shave my head and feel accepted.

 

[Route66]

I hope that something like HM does become a reality. I am 20 now. I could easily wait 10 years till I'm 30. Yes I would have lost my 20's, but I could still have my 30's to really enjoy my hair and looks. I would even be happy to wait 20 years at 40. Yes by then you cant exactly draw girls like you might have done when you were younger, but hell, I'm sure there would be a lot of mature woman who have kept their looks by that time that you could date and so on.

You've hit the nail on the head here. I'm 42, and my VERY strong advice to a guy in your position is to try and get your hair back, and not just accept it. A lot of guys on this forum will argue differently, but, as someone who's seen more than most around here, in my opinion, they're wrong; plain and simple.

The reason they're wrong is because, contrary to what a lot young guys believe, life doesn't end at 30; far from it. In fact, the twenties are often a dissapointing decade for men (even those without hair loss), as they struggle to establish themselves career-wise, struggle to pay off college debts and struggle to land really amazing women (of whom there's only a limited number, after all). A minority of guys in their twenties have an amazing time, but for most it's a decade that doesn't really live up to expectations, and for some it's a disaster. In fact, more twenty-something men commit suicide than any other demographic group!

In contrast, I've seen, and personally know of, loads of guys who don't blossom until their thirties, or even forties; guys who've looked after themselves, kept their looks and, by now, have great jobs and tons of money. Conversely, I've seen very, very few women become more attractive after they turn 30 (not being sexist; just honest). Consequently, these 30/40-something guys can get pretty much any single woman they want - even women in their twenties!

If I was in your shoes (i.e. early twenties, and balding) I WOULDN'T settle for life as a bald man. I'd do everything possible to get my hair back (not just wait for HM; look at world class hair transplant surgeons too). In the meantime, work like sh*t to make as much money as possible. Then, hopefully, your thirties and forties will be awesome. I'm not saying be miserable until then, of course, but use your twenties to build an even better life afterwards. The one you deserve!

Of course, if you meet the woman of your dreams whilst you're in your twenties, and she doesn't give a toss about your hair loss, fair enough (though you have to consider the possibility that it may not last, so getting your hair back would still be a good 'insurance').

To be successful in any area, and in life in general, a bald man has to be an exceptional man. And that I am not.

Don't put yourself down. You're an exceptionally intelligent man, who's very mature for his age. That's for sure.

 

[imtooyoungtobald]

I can relate to you guys as well. I'm only 21 and I'm forced to have long hair to try and cover up my bald spots. I absolutely hate it. My frontal hairline has receded back very far and the top has diffused really badly. Whenever I look in the mirror I can see straight into the scalp because my hair has become so thin. I'm a naturally skinny guy, about 145 lbs 5'10. The last thing I would ever want to do is have to shave my head because I would look like a fuckin chemo patient. Like some other guys, all day every day all I can seem to think about is how other people perceive me like this and what I'm going to do when it gets really bad. I just dont know how I'm going to handle myself having a bald head at 22 or 23, looking much younger and being skinny. I dont know a single guy my age going through this. Really makes you feel depressed. :sobbing:

 

[ClayShaw]

I hope that something like HM does become a reality. I am 20 now. I could easily wait 10 years till I'm 30. Yes I would have lost my 20's, but I could still have my 30's to really enjoy my hair and looks. I would even be happy to wait 20 years at 40. Yes by then you cant exactly draw girls like you might have done when you were younger, but hell, I'm sure there would be a lot of mature woman who have kept their looks by that time that you could date and so on.

You've hit the nail on the head here. I'm 42, and my VERY strong advice to a guy in your position is to try and get your hair back, and not just accept it. A lot of guys on this forum will argue differently, but, as someone who's seen more than most around here, in my opinion, they're wrong; plain and simple.

The reason they're wrong is because, contrary to what a lot young guys believe, life doesn't end at 30; far from it. In fact, the twenties are often a dissapointing decade for men (even those without hair loss), as they struggle to establish themselves career-wise, struggle to pay off college debts and struggle to land really amazing women (of whom there's only a limited number, after all). A minority of guys in their twenties have an amazing time, but for most it's a decade that doesn't really live up to expectations, and for some it's a disaster. In fact, more twenty-something men commit suicide than any other demographic group!

In contrast, I've seen, and personally know of, loads of guys who don't blossom until their thirties, or even forties; guys who've looked after themselves, kept their looks and, by now, have great jobs and tons of money. Conversely, I've seen very, very few women become more attractive after they turn 30 (not being sexist; just honest). Consequently, these 30/40-something guys can get pretty much any single woman they want - even women in their twenties!

If I was in your shoes (i.e. early twenties, and balding) I WOULDN'T settle for life as a bald man. I'd do everything possible to get my hair back (not just wait for HM; look at world class hair transplant surgeons too). In the meantime, work like sh*t to make as much money as possible. Then, hopefully, your thirties and forties will be awesome. I'm not saying be miserable until then, of course, but use your twenties to build an even better life afterwards. The one you deserve!

Of course, if you meet the woman of your dreams whilst you're in your twenties, and she doesn't give a toss about your hair loss, fair enough (though you have to consider the possibility that it may not last, so getting your hair back would still be a good 'insurance').

To be successful in any area, and in life in general, a bald man has to be an exceptional man. And that I am not.

Don't put yourself down. You're an exceptionally intelligent man, who's very mature for his age. That's for sure.

I couldn't disagree more. I think it's much healthier for those who can accept it and move on to do so.
For one, if you're in your early 20's and balding, its possible that you're headed to NW7, for which a transplant is not really going to do much.
Secondly, if you stay out of the game as far as women are concerned for the entirety of your 20's, you're out of the game for good. Experience counts for a lot with women, and a 35 year old that doesn't know what he's doing in bed is not going to last very long with a woman his age.
Last, if you pin all of your hopes for life on HM, you're going to be disappointed.
The folks on here who will be ok are the ones that accept balding and move on.