Can I do better than my ex-girlfriend?

[ImKaratekid]

I'm no longer mod so not sure what to suggest except keep tagging and messaging Admin until it is resolved. I heard that a few people have been locked out post upgrade, not sure why. Certainly I never had an issue logging in.

Good luck with your transplant, if I remember correctly you did a ton of research and so would only go for a skilled surgeon for your situation, not just an "approved one" on some list. If you can pass as a full head post surgery in some way, it is life changing. I'm not going to write all the benefits which you will be aware of (there are too many and I just take them for granted now) but there are some sweet moments which still persist for me. Watching movies and realising you have the hair to match, getting your hair shampooed and slicked at the barbers knowing your hairline is normal, wind and rain making your hair look dreamy to girls as opposed to crap, even guys commented on it looking cool.

Happy growing when you go and doesn't thin out your donor too much and also opt for a hairline with some curves. If you have thinning elsewhere, maybe the honeymoon period will end fast but everyone should still get a good frame, it goes a long way in matching fullheads and styling freely.

Ye I did TOO MUCH research lol. I really have high hopes for this, and hearing people like you that gone through it and saying it changed their life is really encouraging. I think really that first, framing is the most important thing, and also Im still doing and trying all kinds of stuff to maintain what I have. Anyway if I need in the future I will go to second procedure without hesitating, I think my donor is good.

 

[INT]

what zhould i do man? ill never get a girl like her

Let her go. Move on. Find meaning in your life that does not involve her.

 

[ImKaratekid]

Why are you calling me a retard? f*** you

You retard cause all you do in life is obsessing over a flat-chest, whoring b*tch that looks like a capuchin monkey with a mustache

 

[Wolf Pack]

Ye I did TOO MUCH research lol. I really have high hopes for this, and hearing people like you that gone through it and saying it changed their life is really encouraging. I think really that first, framing is the most important thing, and also Im still doing and trying all kinds of stuff to maintain what I have. Anyway if I need in the future I will go to second procedure without hesitating, I think my donor is good.

Always better to do more research than none, even if you're blessed with thick donor and good hair overall because repairs are always tricky and come at a price and not just financial lol. I had a 10k donor capacity but I've noticed some guys with that same luxury get serious donor thinning even after 3k - all because their Dr didn't work the donor diffusely. It looks off and does impact doing fades/styles. Or a guy who was a great candidate with a low Norwood and had all the luxury donor wise, yet ended up looking unaesthetic on top (poor growth) with an eaten donor. Since you've looked into it you've minimised your chances of that.

 

[justinbieberscombover]

Yeah you have no idea... I have so much hopes for this. This gonna change my life if it goes well. I cant even imagine how it feels to look in the mirror and not getting instantly depressed...
My surgeon says they have to shave all my hair for the procedure so I dont have options.
Anyway, keep updating how your recovery goes. By the time I have mine, you should already look like elvis

Oh yeah I definitely feel you on this one, I feel like my life is going to change in the summer when the transplant heals and grows a bit so for now I'm just chillin and focusing on interests, having fun, talking to friends and family and improving my mental health. You are absolutely right that framing is the most important aspect btw.. even with a thick red line on my hairline my face absolutely looks more balanced and harmonious than it used to LOL.

 

[Feelsbadman]

You retard cause all you do in life is obsessing over a flat-chest, whoring b*tch that looks like a capuchin monkey with a mustache

Let her go. Move on. Find meaning in your life that does not involve her.

She may haeve been flat chested but she had such a great *** and could squat heavy

you're right man why do i obsess over this girl who i dated 2 years ago who has been with over 50 guys, is really dumb, silly, immature, does things based on emotion, is an embarressment to be with based on the way she acts, dresses and talks
why?????/

maybe because i'm balding and will probably never experience love or sex or a girl lust for me like she did???


How do I find meaning in my life outside of thinking about her and miss f*****g her? and being with her

 

[INT]

She may haeve been flat chested but she had such a great *** and could squat heavy

you're right man why do i obsess over this girl who i dated 2 years ago who has been with over 50 guys, is really dumb, silly, immature, does things based on emotion, is an embarressment to be with based on the way she acts, dresses and talks
why?????/

maybe because i'm balding and will probably never experience love or sex or a girl lust for me like she did???


How do I find meaning in my life outside of thinking about her and miss f*****g her? and being with her

It has been said many times before. Your self-image is very low because you do not have much to live for. She entered your life and somehow f*****g a moustached skank who can squat a lot of weight (seriously, who the f*** cares about that?) made you feel good about yourself. Your self-value completely depended on her and now that she is gone it probably dropped lower than ever before.

Your goal should be to increase your self-value through other means: study, career, find a hobby, set up a business, looksmax, social skills, etc. If you do this your self-value will increase again and then you can slowly start thinking about dating again. More than likely the stench of desperation will fade away and girls will actually start noticing you again. At that point, I don't see why you cannot find another skanky gf who can bend her legs in the gym and open them in the bedroom.

You can of course also say that the things I mentioned above are BS or just cope and stay on this forum wasting away, keeping the impact section alive for the next couple of years while nothing changes except for the fact that you are getting older.

 

[justinbieberscombover]

It has been said many times before. Your self-image is very low because you do not have much to live for. She entered your life and somehow f*****g a moustached skank who can squat a lot of weight (seriously, who the f*** cares about that?) made you feel good about yourself. Your self-value completely depended on her and now that she is gone it probably dropped lower than ever before.

Your goal should be to increase your self-value through other means: study, career, find a hobby, set up a business, looksmax, social skills, etc. If you do this your self-value will increase again and then you can slowly start thinking about dating again. More than likely the stench of desperation will fade away and girls will actually start noticing you again. At that point, I don't see why you cannot find another skanky gf who can bend her legs in the gym and open them in the bedroom.

You can of course also say that the things I mentioned above are BS or just cope and stay on this forum wasting away, keeping the impact section alive for the next couple of years while nothing changes except for the fact that you are getting older.

Great post

 

[Feelsbadman]

It has been said many times before. Your self-image is very low because you do not have much to live for. She entered your life and somehow f*****g a moustached skank who can squat a lot of weight (seriously, who the f*** cares about that?) made you feel good about yourself. Your self-value completely depended on her and now that she is gone it probably dropped lower than ever before.

Your goal should be to increase your self-value through other means: study, career, find a hobby, set up a business, looksmax, social skills, etc. If you do this your self-value will increase again and then you can slowly start thinking about dating again. More than likely the stench of desperation will fade away and girls will actually start noticing you again. At that point, I don't see why you cannot find another skanky gf who can bend her legs in the gym and open them in the bedroom.

You can of course also say that the things I mentioned above are BS or just cope and stay on this forum wasting away, keeping the impact section alive for the next couple of years while nothing changes except for the fact that you are getting older.

Wow it's so true

I think this is why man, this girl had mental problems, borderline personality.. when i first met her she acted like i was Brad Pitt she completely idealised me.. told me she told evryone at her work about me.. thought I was the greatest thing ever.. I felt such a high amzing... no wonder why when she got bored of me and left me i nearly suicided ... such a fall and horrible feeling... but such an incredible high. She'd burst out laughin g if i just looked at her and would give me a big hug.. I loved her .. seeing her laugh and smile.. but she does this to every guy, idealises them.. she has worse problems tthan me. extremely damaged.. i mean you'd have to be pretty fucked in the head to post ur *** in ur g string on social media?

You're right I guess i need to increase my self worth but here's the funny thing - I already go to the gym I try and dress well, I play sport... my dick size is ok.. i have a job and beginnning a career... so why do i have such low self worth? Why do i still think about this absolute skank from years ago and pine over her? Why do I chase this high she gave me? This girl is a low quality, low value women (my mum thought she was trash, my friends thought she was trash... the evidence is there.. she's had 5 different boyfriends in 2 years.. says it all really)

Why am i like this? why is she so special to me? why do i get sad i lost her? why do i feel like i'll never experience what i had with er again? why is it so important to me?

 

[doubleindemnity]

It has been said many times before. Your self-image is very low because you do not have much to live for. She entered your life and somehow f*****g a moustached skank who can squat a lot of weight (seriously, who the f*** cares about that?) made you feel good about yourself. Your self-value completely depended on her and now that she is gone it probably dropped lower than ever before.

Your goal should be to increase your self-value through other means: study, career, find a hobby, set up a business, looksmax, social skills, etc. If you do this your self-value will increase again and then you can slowly start thinking about dating again. More than likely the stench of desperation will fade away and girls will actually start noticing you again. At that point, I don't see why you cannot find another skanky gf who can bend her legs in the gym and open them in the bedroom.

You can of course also say that the things I mentioned above are BS or just cope and stay on this forum wasting away, keeping the impact section alive for the next couple of years while nothing changes except for the fact that you are getting older.

He's bald. A bald guy can't study hard, work hard on his career, work on his social skills, improve his physique and then get a girlfriend at the end of it. Life doesn't work that way.

 

[justinbieberscombover]

He's bald. A bald guy can't study hard, work hard on his career, work on his social skills, improve his physique and then get a girlfriend at the end of it. Life doesn't work that way.

How do you explain all the bald guys who have a girlfriend that they found after going bald then?

 

[INT]

He's bald. A bald guy can't study hard, work hard on his career, work on his social skills, improve his physique and then get a girlfriend at the end of it. Life doesn't work that way.

For some, maybe not. Some bald men will forever stay alone, but not all bald men. And there are also men with good hair that will forever will stay alone.
You chances are better when you are a bald man with an otherwise great fulfulling life compared to a bald man with a miserable life.

Also, OP is not bald (yet).

 

[doubleindemnity]

How do you explain all the bald guys who have a girlfriend that they found after going bald then?

I've never known such a guy. I really don't think that it's possible. I've only witnessed guys who kept things going after they went bald. That itself is admirable.

 

[justinbieberscombover]

I've never known such a guy. I really don't think that it's possible. I've only witnessed guys who kept things going after they went bald. That itself is admirable.

If it wasn't possible don't you think we'd already know about it? You can't possibly be the first person in the world to notice that pattern

 

[NickyA]

I've never known such a guy. I really don't think that it's possible. I've only witnessed guys who kept things going after they went bald. That itself is admirable.

If its any help I had a tutor in college who was very bald (NW5-6) at 28 and shaved it (Even though he looked bad either way, he wasn't good looking at all, couldn't grow a beard and had a weird head shape, alien-like, kinda like Patrick Stewart). This guy had a pretty, awesome girlfriend, and was a very energetic, helpful guy. I still see him as a role model: I'm much better looking than him but don't have half of his confidence, ain't charismatic and have mediocre social skills after learning more on how to keep conversations with people, learning a bit about everything to always be able to strike up a conversation with someone who's interested in some subject, etc. I wouldn't even bother going for a girl such as the one this guy has because I'd be spending way too much time and money trying to please her, wondering whether she's angry or not, worrying about what she's doing, etc.

 

[justinbieberscombover]

If its any help I had a tutor in college who was very bald (NW5-6) at 28 and shaved it (Even though he looked bad either way, he wasn't good looking at all, couldn't grow a beard and had a weird head shape, alien-like, kinda like Patrick Stewart). This guy had a pretty, awesome girlfriend, and was a very energetic, helpful guy. I still see him as a role model: I'm much better looking than him but don't have half of his confidence, ain't charismatic and have mediocre social skills after learning more on how to keep conversations with people, learning a bit about everything to always be able to strike up a conversation with someone who's interested in some subject, etc. I wouldn't even bother going for a girl such as the one this guy has because I'd be spending way too much time and money trying to please her, wondering whether she's angry or not, worrying about what she's doing, etc.

Sounds like you have anxiety bro.

 

[NickyA]

Sounds like you have anxiety bro.

I see myself as your average neurotic guy. Lifting has helped me immensely (It's proven that you release more dopamine when you exercise, after all) and I'm fine 80% of the time, like most neurotics. I've also done talk therapy and even tho I don't think it's as helpful as sport, it's a good stress relief. I'm happy dating below my league and I've never cared much about women either. I just hope I can keep decent hair till I'm 30-35 because currently I've been worrying a lot about whether I'd be able to keep being happy about how I look if I went fully bald before it became somewhat socially acceptable for my age. It'd prolly end up being a huge hit for me, coming from a family with NW1 role models (Only my mum's dad and her maternal uncle were noticeably bald by 28-35, my paternal family is all NW1's at 60+). The fact that I've a big head and don't look good with a buzzcut doesn't help.

 

[justinbieberscombover]

I see myself as your average neurotic guy. Lifting has helped me immensely (It's proven that you release more dopamine when you exercise, after all) and I'm fine 80% of the time, like most neurotics. I've also done talk therapy and even tho I don't think it's as helpful as sport, it's a good stress relief. I'm happy dating below my league and I've never cared much about women either. I just hope I can keep decent hair till I'm 30-35 because currently I've been worrying a lot about whether I'd be able to keep being happy about how I look if I went fully bald before it became somewhat socially acceptable for my age. It'd prolly end up being a huge hit for me, coming from a family with NW1 role models (Only my mum's dad and her maternal uncle were noticeably bald by 28-35, my paternal family is all NW1's at 60+). The fact that I've a big head and don't look good with a buzzcut doesn't help.

How old are you? Did you consider going the transplant route? Even with no meds (low density) it's a huge improvement compared to rocking the Jason Statham.

 

[NickyA]

How old are you? Did you consider going the transplant route? Even with no meds (low density) it's a huge improvement compared to rocking the Jason Statham.

I'm 23 and hope to start taking finasteride in one or two weeks at the latest. I hope I can hold it off once I add that to the ketoconazole shampoo I've been using for a month, and that my dad's genetics, along with Minoxidil+Dermarolling at the most are enough to stave it off until I'm at a decent age for a transplant (30-35). I get you completely since I'd say I've round 65-50% density at the middle and nobody's noticed so far.

I don't need a transplant yet, and wouldn't like spending the money on one soon either. I used to think I was a NW2A like my maternal grandpa or a NW2.5 a month and a half ago (haha) when I just got here since I lost my baby hairs at the temples and front when I was 19-20 and my NW1, Stalin haircut dad told me seriously ''Son, I think you're following John's footsteps'' at a family dinner at 21 when I had my hair grown long and untidy, surfer style, like when I was younger, and the wind blew it off. Cue the awkward family talk where my aunt ends up saying ''it could be due to stress from college''. But after reading more posts I'm starting to think I'm actually a NW1.5, it's just that I've some thinning at the front that I can notice but not anybody else unless they're a Norwood Spotter (My dad became a serious one in his 50's, since a lot of his friends started balding noticeably) or I point it out under harsh lighting. It's just that I like styling my hair up and I ain't a fan of the way fringes look on me. Honestly unless my slow hair loss speeds up (20-30 hairs everyday and 40-60 when I shower) I could prolly keep pulling my current hairstyle confidently till I'm 25 or so, then go the faux-hawk+fade route for 1-2 years, then finally compromise and get a fringe till I'm 30-33.

 

[Feelsbadman]

i miss sex with my ex